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The Official Relationship, Dating, or Talking Problems/Questions Thread

Oct 23, 2011 @ 17:24
<p>Seeing as how no one will probably want to read that long post by me … I can try and keep it short and just get to the point.</p>
<p>Basically, I met this girl I ended up crushing on during the Summer at my temp job. I ended up getting her number and we hanged out a bunch of times. I ended up telling her that I liked her more then a friend and she cried in my car. It was happy tears or some ish. I asked her if she felt the same and she said with me it was different. She felt a strong connection. The next day we hanged out some more and that night while i was at her door after we hugged.. she says my name and asks if she can kiss me. I don’t recall if i said anything…. she kissed me on the cheek but I didn’t return the kiss back.</p>
<p>Did I f-k up my chances?</p>
<p>That night was the last time I have seen her since. Our conversations began to decline later that week. My bbm msgs to her would not get a response.. When I called her she didn’t pick up. I ......

Slip up #1, when she kissed you on the cheek that was an opener to kiss her on the lips, which would have made the connection stronger ultimately (and you probably could have fucked with the right decisions). Because not kissing her back makes you looking unassertive, that's a turn off for a lot of girls. Her not contacting you was when she got home and thought about the whole relationship and decided not to pursuit it. She's obviously damage goods, and unless you really really like her I'd leave it alone. Seems to me like she moved on and you should too, don't wait around cause you got a kiss on the cheek. If she contacts you just go with it, play it cool, don't dive in too quickly and confess your love or anything.

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Oct 23, 2011 @ 17:37
Read the whole thing (I don't know why) and yea she is a lost cause dude. It seems like you just aren't her type. You were too much of the good guy and she showed a bunch of signs about how she is more for the spontaneous type. She may have thought she wanted to change to the nice guy when she was talking with you but after a while it was just too much for her.
Also never fall for a girl because she likes something arbitrary like sports just like you. It clouds your mind and makes you think that person is more unique than they actually are.
Oct 23, 2011 @ 18:52
Just read the whole thing lol. That was long as hell brah!! All good tho. That sucks that happened man, that is totally unfair to you. The way she deleted you off her phone shows what kind of true person she is. That's so cowardly in my opinion.

On the bright side, is it good that you went for it by telling how you felt even thought it didn't turn out way you wanted. Most dudes would just freeze up and not say anything at all. It takes courage and guts to express your true feelings. It's better to have had tried and reached for it then not to have done so at all.. You can't let this affect you.. it's harder then it sounds.. but i always tell myself each person is different.. each relationship is different.. if you compare and think about the previous one in the current it'd never go anywhere. You did what you can.. and she missed out on what could of been a good thing.

If you want to know an explanation then what you CAN do is send an e-mail but it's up to you. There is no guarantee she will even write back. You can let her know that it would be nice that she could just respond back just for closure instead of just disappearing because that wouldn't be fair to you to be left hanging like that and say you'll understand if you are not the one she wants to be with.. stuff happens but a closure would be nice.. and leave it at that because.. you know what maybe something happened.. and it was outta control maybe it wasn't even that guy that she is actually with give her the benefit of the doubt even though you're hurt and angry.. don't jump to conclusions .. it'll only make you feel worse and what not..

when one door closes.. another opens.. that time will come when it's time for you ....
Oct 23, 2011 @ 21:45
I don't think you should message her or call her or anythin...she'll message you herself most likely and if not good riddance ya feel me
By messaging her 7 weeks later shows you're still stuck on her which is only gonna make her look at you as being desparate
Oct 23, 2011 @ 22:09
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<p>^Chances are you’ll have to get her into YOUR house. Don’t force it though. Take her out somewhere or set up like a day for you guys to chill all day and go from there. Then casually invite her over to watch a movie on dvd or some shit. Shouldn’t be too hard since she is already into you.</p>
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my house is always occupied, but i think imma try to take her to my friend house.</p>



Be prepared for the possible friend cockblock tho
Oct 23, 2011 @ 23:33
I'm having the hardest time talking to new girls.

I been with the same chick on and off for 4 years. During the times when my ex and I broke up I hooked up with a friend of hers and made out with random girls at parties, but it NEVER amounts to anything.

Before my ex I was pullin bitches left and right. Now I'm strugglin. I'm used to the girls pursuing me. Now I'm at college, fine girls everywhere, and I can't pull NOTHIN. It's like I'm starting back at square one. I can hold a convo but I'm kinda shy when it comes to going up to a girl I've never spoken to before.

HELP
Oct 24, 2011 @ 00:25
<p>I’m used to the girls pursuing me.
<p>HELP</p>


This is your issue. You need to approach these hoes, flirt, flirt, flirt, and escalate. If you can make them laugh you'll have em around your finger. it also helps to stand out, so try to be interesting in convos. You'll be in there bruh

burr

Oct 24, 2011 @ 05:33
<p>Confidence boosts:<br>
Look like Derrick Rose</p>


aahaha. physical enhancements don't necessarily boost confidence. That's maybe for the first couple days, then your 'confidence' wears off. You then realize it didn't make much difference and you start feeling shy again. Another thing is, you feel confident when you're on your own, then when you approach a girl and you're "in the moment" your confidence drops. physical appearance can only do so much. biggest confidence boost = do shit that embarrasses the shit out of you. you then realize you don't care bout being judged and it doesn't affect you at all. Saying that it's ignorance is bs, you're just a pussy bitch. you get confidence from success and success feeds itself. take small steps and say hi to 10 random people. Doing this, you're boosting your "in the moment" confidence. lotta times people don't got the balls and make an excuse that it's pointless. oh wells, good luck being shy.
Oct 24, 2011 @ 06:02
<p>Sweet jesus this dude just wrote a novel</p>

haha fag

Oct 24, 2011 @ 21:08
how do i get a bitch to let me fuk on weekdays
Oct 24, 2011 @ 21:36
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aahaha. physical enhancements don’t necessarily boost confidence. That’s maybe for the first couple days, then your ‘confidence’ wears off. You then realize it didn’t make much difference and you start feeling shy again. Another thing is, you feel confident when you’re on your own, then when you approach a girl and you’re “in the moment” your confidence drops. physical appearance can only do so much. biggest confidence boost = do shit that embarrasses the shit out of you. you then realize you don’t care bout being judged and it doesn’t affect you at all. Saying that it’s ignorance is bs, you’re ......


nigga are you serious that post wasnt serious
Oct 24, 2011 @ 22:01
Been w/ this girl since July she's been giving me problems because apparently the "little things don't add up". She can't handle the fact that I'm always doing something else when she hits me she hates I don't give effort to hit her up every living breathing moment of my life I hit her up every hour or so and she counts it as the only problem and she's on the love/hate me shit how do I stop this?

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Oct 25, 2011 @ 05:44
She sounds like super clinger bro. Drop that hoe. Or you can talk it out... Naw drop that hoe

burr

Oct 25, 2011 @ 05:49
she one of those girls that never shuts up if they don't see u right? just stick the d in the mouth once a day so she'll shut up n then do u for the other 23 hours of your day bro.

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Oct 25, 2011 @ 06:32
<p>Seeing as how no one will probably want to read that long post by me … I can try and keep it short and just get to the point.</p>
<p>Basically, I met this girl I ended up crushing on during the Summer at my temp job. I ended up getting her number and we hanged out a bunch of times. I ended up telling her that I liked her more then a friend and she cried in my car. It was happy tears or some ish. I asked her if she felt the same and she said with me it was different. She felt a strong connection. The next day we hanged out some more and that night while i was at her door after we hugged.. she says my name and asks if she can kiss me. I don’t recall if i said anything…. she kissed me on the cheek but I didn’t return the kiss back.</p>
<p>Did I f-k up my chances?</p>
<p>That night was the last time I have seen her since. Our conversations began to decline later that week. My bbm msgs to her would not get a response.. When I called her she didn’t pick up. I ......

Alright imma be real with you for a sec Araab. Please take everything I say as coming from a place of positivity, no hate/judgement intended.

With that said, what the fuck are you thinking b? Like seriously, I cannot even begin to fathom a world in which I could comprehend how your brain works for any of this to make sense. Shit reminds me of when I did this bitch's homework for a month in 7th grade cuz she gave bomb head. You got one kiss on the cheek and you have been fantasizing about it for what appears to be several months. I could go on about what you should and shouldn't have done but that would be irrelevant moving forward and only cause you to dwell on every little detail of your interactions with this girl even more than you already have.

My advice to you is the following. Leave her a 5 minute long voicemail about how much of a broken, socially awkward, mentally and emotionally detached human being you are and how insincere and fleeting all of your past relationships have been, and that you guys should hang out. This is literally the only way you will be getting pussy from this girl. I wouldn't expect you to understand how this would work, you'll just have to have a little bit of faith.

Regardless tho, at the very least doing something that drastic and non-conformist will help you start giving less of a fuck about things. Loosen up and live in the moment. You haven't seen this girl in 7 weeks, she does not exist. Move on. The end.
Oct 25, 2011 @ 20:40
You Fucked up! Nice guys always finish last.

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Oct 25, 2011 @ 20:55
How to deal with a girl thats constantly hot/cold?

some days shes really affectionate then some days its just the opposite
Oct 25, 2011 @ 21:06
you do the same thing to her.
Oct 25, 2011 @ 21:08
Girl just broke up with her boyfriend, should I give her her space or just go for it?
Oct 25, 2011 @ 22:05
Give that hoe some space, while simultaneously applying pressure. ya dig?

Easy mang...

Oct 25, 2011 @ 23:11
<p>Girl just broke up with her boyfriend, should I give her her space or just go for it?</p>


Oct 26, 2011 @ 05:23
<p>How to deal with a girl thats constantly hot/cold?</p>
<p>some days shes really affectionate then some days its just the opposite</p>

<p>you do the same thing to her.</p>


naw i don't do that. you two will end up just playin games, that shit is stupid. drop her til she realizes that you're not about playin. if she don't, #ontothenextone
Oct 26, 2011 @ 08:35
i love this thread
Oct 26, 2011 @ 08:35
this girl winked at me twice i only nodded. what are my chances
Oct 27, 2011 @ 00:28
A girl walked up to me, looked me in the eyes, and grabbed my penis..
What are my chances?

burr

Oct 28, 2011 @ 00:38
HB help me out , Theres this girl that i have been in to , For what i know shes mad cool. I dont know how to approach her shes a year younger than me and shit, Makes it worse is me and her best friend arnt in good terms ( Long time ago i told the best friend i likes her and a week later the best friend saw me holding hands with another girl.)
Oct 30, 2011 @ 03:32
Need some help asap... Asked this chick to come over and shes fine with it just wants to know why...? What should is say

where the azn girls at

Oct 30, 2011 @ 07:14
Originally posted by Inactive User
<p>Give that hoe some space, while simultaneously applying pressure. ya dig?</p>


what do you mean exactly by applying pressure?
Oct 30, 2011 @ 08:57
Aite hella fckin drunk right now and well im really simping for this chick...

Its been a week since she's broken up with her ex. should I start simpin? she been sending me signals like she complementing on how I dress and shit but I've dress like that since I've met her lol but I've just been ignoring em though, so what to do hb fam?
Oct 30, 2011 @ 09:43
dude, im in the same boat as you. HB WE IN DIS! except i ended up simping and that didn't go to well. She ended up ignoring me, simping ftl.
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