What up HB family, just wanted to get your take on this...
I met this girl in a class a few months back. I liked her and I think she liked me too, but it seems like we we're both apprehensive about acting on it-- I'm white, she's black, and there's a bit of an age gap (no Jacob). I really liked her but was prepared to let her go.
But after the semester ended I really missed her and wanted to see her. I finally got to go out with her last week. To me it felt like the old feelings we're still there., and it was pretty clearly a date. We kissed at the end of the night.-, nothing monumental, no tongue, but she held my face in her hands like she had feels.
We've kept texting since then but sometimes it seems like she's avoiding me, and I'm almost worried she might be embarrassed to tell her friends about me. Maybe I'm just being paranoid?
Anyway, I kinda want to tell her how I feel. I'm not about to go Drake on her, I just want to stop beating around the bush and let my intentions be known. Is this a bad idea?
Don't text her often. Keep her fiending for them characters. Next time you see her, touch her really sensually from the beginning, especially if she's with her friends. Show that you don't care about their perception of your while you pursue her. I don't know about the object of your affection, but most black girls want a guy who really overwhelms their womanhood with a sense of unabashed masculinity. Don't tell her how you feel. When you say something, she has to think about the words and you will grant her the power to say "no" or to negate whatever you tell her, even if she wants you, because forcing her to think will allow any and all doubts to kick in; women don't want to have to think about their attraction to other men, they want men to control their emotions and "sweep them away" (this sounds mad sus but talk to women who have read "50 Shades Of Gray" so about every other American 20-something woman, they'll tell you what I'm saying if they aren't bullshiting).
Be indirect and brief with words (say little and do not reveal your intentions) and be direct and overt with actions. When you're touching her (hugs, arm/back/ass rubs, shoulder massages, neck/cheek/lips kisses) you aren't talking to her and since women (and emasculated men) are responsive rather than imposing creatures, she will have trouble saying "no". Why? Because you didn't solicit her verbal opinion by saying something first. She could possibly push you away but when you communicate through touch the interaction is VERY subtle to the point that she cannot say "no" because she would look stupid talking while you aren't saying anything back to her. With touch you relieve her of her need to think about what you could tell her. If she has already confirmed premeditated thoughts about her lack of attraction to you, she is prepared to ward off any advance from you and will say "no" if you touch her. Assuming she likes you, women are not wired to use physical force to protect themselves (idk how female MMA fighters get the D) and if you use your body to communicate with her she will have trouble resisting if she truly wants you,.
I'm on your side assuming you have never considering raping a girl.
Game on bruh!