The Official Relationship, Dating, or Talking Problems/Questions Thread

Sep 20, 2012 @ 03:15
Originally posted by Inactive User
lol , she probably cheated on you already .
There's no such thing as guys JUST wanting to go out to eat and hang out , he wants to smash obviously .


thats how i looked at things, but I feel as thouugh she genuinely doesnt like the guy in a love type of way.
but my question was if it was happening to you, how would you feel/react?

@Dino we're 20. i mean the thing thats buggin me, is after a girl friendzones a guy, she doesnt usually eat out with or ask that guy for a ride.
again this is what happened:

she friendzoned this guy,
he says "he likes her more than a friend",
she says "lolwut we're just friends"
then me nd her get in a relationship,
then after a year, im hearing they went to chilis
and one time when she needed a ride the following week to somewhere urgent she calls him if he can take her.


Remember when you were a little kid and if you were the first person on the block to get a super nintendo, all of a sudden all the other kids wanted to be your friend?

Remember when you were the first person in your class to be able to drive, and all of a sudden people wanted to be your friend?

Remember when you won the lottery, and people you have never seen/spoken to in years all of a sudden want to catch up and hang out like the "good old days?"

Remember when some random bish wouldn't give you the time of day when you were working at mcdonalds, but now that you graduated with an MBA she all of a sudden thinks your a great guy?

Do you see what these all have in common? Nobody in these situations would believe that those people were actually legit friends (and if you do then you are an ignorant asshat).

"Pretty much" every situation where a guy is "just friends" with an attractive girl is parallel to those above scenarios. Guys want to be friends with you because they want to fuck you. Would you be friends with someone that only liked you because you had money, or a video game? Well being friends with guys that only want to fuck you is no different.
Sep 20, 2012 @ 03:26
every time I read this thread, it's depressing because girls are really capable of doing anything to you, no matter how much they say they love you and shit.
Sep 20, 2012 @ 04:20
shut the fuck up niggas. Just because ya girl was a hoe and cheated on you doesn't mean every girl is or that @hndlz girl is cheating. Man y'all just seem like some butthurt lil kids. There are plenty of good respectable trust worthy girls. Girls cheat only if you let them. They just don't go around fucking other niggas, unless she is a super hoe, then which you shouldn't have wifed anyways.
Sep 20, 2012 @ 04:22
every time I read this thread, it's depressing because girls are really capable of doing anything to you, no matter how much they say they love you and shit.

did you just get out of an relationship or something, that how niggas feel after being dumped.

:)

Sep 20, 2012 @ 06:17
Originally posted by Inactive User
every time I read this thread, it's depressing because girls are really capable of doing anything to you, no matter how much they say they love you and shit.

did you just get out of an relationship or something, that how niggas feel after being dumped.

no? I'm just saying it can happen. I never said all girls are like that
Sep 20, 2012 @ 06:54
^ That's why you should learn to not get attached.

It's a lesson all guys have to learn (better sooner than later).
Sep 20, 2012 @ 06:55
Just lost my gf last week
Sep 20, 2012 @ 11:56
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Sep 20, 2012 @ 12:21
she friendzoned this guy,
he says "he likes her more than a friend",
she says "lolwut we're just friends"
then me nd her get in a relationship,
then after a year, im hearing they went to chilis
and one time when she needed a ride the following week to somewhere urgent she calls him if he can take her.


Okay, lets make this real simple.

HE was the first person she called because she needed a ride somewhere? .. she doesnt have any good friends that havent confessed their love for her that could of done that? I'm not tryna put doubts in your head about your girl, i dont know her. But, speaking from experience - i've been the guy that's fucked another guys girlfriend. I've heard all the excuses girls say to their partners to justify spending time with someone.

"Him and i went to chilli's" - is the polite way of saying, "he and i didn't go out to chilli's, we just went somewhere and fucked" .. and that's being real, sorry if that sounds rude or out of line, but i think you need to hear it how it is.

Be real, would she be okay with you going out with some girl to dinner when she knew for 100% that girl wanted to fuck you and who doesnt care that you had a girlfriend?

Feelin like a young simba, I can't wait to be the king.

Sep 20, 2012 @ 12:27
Guys and girls who are just friends do NOT need to go out to dinner together if they're in a relationship with someone else. especially not when one has confessed feelings for the other... Your girl is either leading him on to exploit his feelings and gain from it, or she's doing him behind your back.

Either way, your girlfriend sounds suspicious.

Feelin like a young simba, I can't wait to be the king.

Sep 20, 2012 @ 12:58
Lee you are a moron and you probably never had a girl the way you sprout ignorance
Sep 20, 2012 @ 13:11
15 months in on my current relationship, happiest i've ever been. Thanks for asking though.

I trust my girlfriend 110%, she has a life outside of me, i dont feel the need to "check in" and know who she's with or where she is, because i know my girl isn't the type to cheat or put herself in a situation where it could happen.

However, this guy has just said his girl hangs around with a guy who has admitted to her that he loves her, OP told her it makes her uncomfortable and yet she still does it, goes to dinner with him and asks favours? How am i a moron? I'm just being real -- would YOU be comfortable with your girl if she was still in contact with and hung out with a guy who did the same thing?

Feelin like a young simba, I can't wait to be the king.

Sep 20, 2012 @ 13:44
I would as long as i didn't feel threatened by him. And in most cases i wouldn't feel threatened. You say bullshit like this "Him and i went to chilli's" - is the polite way of saying, "he and i didn't go out to chilli's, we just went somewhere and fucked" .. and that's being real, sorry if that sounds rude or out of line, but i think you need to hear it how it is."

Which is why im calling you a moron. Come on that is bullshit and it shows you aren't very experienced with girls and have no idea how they think.

If a girl is with you, in a relationship, but there is another guy who has confessed his feelings for her and she rejected him even BEFORE she met you then this guy will for sure have lower value than you. As long as you just maintain that value she will never ever feel any sexual attraction for him and would never risk your relationship for him. Sure this could happen if you neglect her too much but most likely she will find some random guy and not someone she has been talking to and using for favors for a long time.

He is just some white knight that she can call when she needs a ride because she knows he will do what she asks him to, he means nothing to her.
Sep 20, 2012 @ 13:55
I would as long as i didn't feel threatened by him. And in most cases i wouldn't feel threatened. You say bullshit like this "Him and i went to chilli's" - is the polite way of saying, "he and i didn't go out to chilli's, we just went somewhere and fucked" .. and that's being real, sorry if that sounds rude or out of line, but i think you need to hear it how it is."

Which is why im calling you a moron. Come on that is bullshit and it shows you aren't very experienced with girls and have no idea how they think.

If a girl is with you, in a relationship, but there is another guy who has confessed his feelings for her and she rejected him even BEFORE she met you then this guy will for sure have lower value than you. As long as you just maintain that value she will never ever feel any sexual attraction for him and would never risk your relationship for him. Sure this could happen if you neglect her too much but most likely she will find some random guy and not someone she has been talking to and using for favors for a long time.

He is just some white knight that she can call when she needs a ride because she knows he will do what she asks him to, he means nothing to her.


I'm agreeing with most of your logic here, but on the real - if OP has said to his girlfriend, "nah - im sorry, im not comfortable with you hanging out with this guy" and she's brushed off his opinions and put this guy before respecting her own boyfriend, what does that say? why is THIS guy so important? Because she can exploit him? How is that an attractive quality .. although you're right, my bad for, "they didnt go to chilli's, they probably just fucked". But i did say, it's either she's cheating or she's using the other guy.

I'm not going to get into a "my dick is bigger then yours, i've fucked more girls then you" teenage type of arguement, but i'm plenty confident with women. I'm 25 and i've been around enough women to know the difference between a girl that respects people, and girls who will do what they want because they think it benefits them.

My girlfriend would never hang around with some guy that had admitted "love" feelings for her, not because of how i might percieve it, but because ultimately - if she doesn't feel the same, she effectively see's the friendship as ruined. It WOULD be different - if OP's girlfriend and this guy were best-friends, then one night he let slip he really liked her, she said no, but the guy just took it in his stride and continued wanting to be a friend... but that's not the situation at all. She's all about doing her & either using this guy or completely disrespecting OP.

Feelin like a young simba, I can't wait to be the king.

Sep 20, 2012 @ 14:20
However, this guy has just said his girl hangs around with a guy who has admitted to her that he loves her, OP told her it makes her uncomfortable and yet she still does it


i didnt say she still does it. she actually didnt after i addressed it. All I asked in the OP is how would it make you feel?
and what was weird to me most:
1. she apparently didnt see any harm
2. i had to say something for it to register in her mind.

Pantic, i like how you come to this thread with a "no bullshit" attitude, i think its needed, but in leejames' defense, i also thought like that initially although I admit to having no exp in relationships.

hndlz.tumblr.com

Sep 20, 2012 @ 14:27
then that's my bad, misread the post.

Feelin like a young simba, I can't wait to be the king.

Sep 20, 2012 @ 15:14
shut the fuck up niggas. Just because ya girl was a hoe and cheated on you doesn't mean every girl is or that @hndlz girl is cheating. Man y'all just seem like some butthurt lil kids. There are plenty of good respectable trust worthy girls. Girls cheat only if you let them. They just don't go around fucking other niggas, unless she is a super hoe, then which you shouldn't have wifed anyways.


How are you supposed to know if she's a superhoe or not ?
Girls hide things .

& lol @ girls only cheat when you let them .
Being possessive only makes things worse , it doesn't matter how good looking or bad looking you look .
In human nature we find other people appealing .

80% of girls in America are sluts , you just can't tell because you're brainwashed by Hollywood .
Sep 20, 2012 @ 15:52
Originally posted by Inactive User
shut the fuck up niggas. Just because ya girl was a hoe and cheated on you doesn't mean every girl is or that @hndlz girl is cheating. Man y'all just seem like some butthurt lil kids. There are plenty of good respectable trust worthy girls. Girls cheat only if you let them. They just don't go around fucking other niggas, unless she is a super hoe, then which you shouldn't have wifed anyways.


How are you supposed to know if she's a superhoe or not ?
Girls hide things .

& lol @ girls only cheat when you let them .
Being possessive only makes things worse , it doesn't matter how good looking or bad looking you look .
In human nature we find other people appealing .

80% of girls in America are sluts , you just can't tell because you're brainwashed by Hollywood .



lol how old are you? How many girls have you talked to?
You know nothing. I never said be possessive, but if a girl respects you, and loves you, she won't cheat on you. 80% of American girls are sluts??? Lmfao you know American girls are known for being not as casual with sex as European and other girls right? You seem like some whiney teenager who got cheated on by his only girlfriend and just said fuck love. Like I said before, there are sluts, but there are also plenty of nice girls out there. If you can't tell which is which after talking to them for while, then i cant help you.
Sep 20, 2012 @ 15:56
I need a lil advice here, not a relationship but i hooked up with this girl at the club some time ago, took her out back trying to smash but she didn't let me go all the way and i couldn't take her home cause i was with my boys in another town and had to sleep there. Now afterwards we've been talking a little but she's giving me the whole sweet girl deal, and made quite an effort in telling me how drunk she was. Now my take on this is that she is embarrased because we don't really know each other but still interested. I need some help on how to make her come out of her shell and show that freaky side again.
Sep 20, 2012 @ 16:01
Take her out and get her drunk again duh.
Sep 20, 2012 @ 16:05
I'm too busy for that, i want to make her invite me over for the D
Sep 20, 2012 @ 16:05
I need a lil advice here, not a relationship but i hooked up with this girl at the club some time ago, took her out back trying to smash but she didn't let me go all the way and i couldn't take her home cause i was with my boys in another town and had to sleep there. Now afterwards we've been talking a little but she's giving me the whole sweet girl deal, and made quite an effort in telling me how drunk she was. Now my take on this is that she is embarrased because we don't really know each other but still interested. I need some help on how to make her come out of her shell and show that freaky side again.


You were at a club bruh. 95% chance she WAS drunk. Don't take club behavior as normal behavior. Ever.
Sep 20, 2012 @ 16:31
I need a lil advice here, not a relationship but i hooked up with this girl at the club some time ago, took her out back trying to smash but she didn't let me go all the way and i couldn't take her home cause i was with my boys in another town and had to sleep there. Now afterwards we've been talking a little but she's giving me the whole sweet girl deal, and made quite an effort in telling me how drunk she was. Now my take on this is that she is embarrased because we don't really know each other but still interested. I need some help on how to make her come out of her shell and show that freaky side again.


She was intoxicated bro , she didn't know wtf she was talking about .
Sep 20, 2012 @ 16:45
Nah dude's you mistake me for a rookie. She wasn't that drunk and we were outside for a good 3 hours together before i left her at her girlfriends crib, nobody stays super drunk after that. Plus i just gave her my number and she hit my up the day after and is still being flirty and interested, just that she was busy "excusing" her behaviour. She wants me to think she is a good girl but i don't want none of that.
Sep 20, 2012 @ 21:54
Nah dude's you mistake me for a rookie. She wasn't that drunk and we were outside for a good 3 hours together before i left her at her girlfriends crib, nobody stays super drunk after that. Plus i just gave her my number and she hit my up the day after and is still being flirty and interested, just that she was busy "excusing" her behaviour. She wants me to think she is a good girl but i don't want none of that.


you guys saying she was too drunk or either being sarcastic or a just fucking rookies. like pantic said, all the "im drunk" shit is just excusing behavior
Sep 20, 2012 @ 22:14
Nah dude's you mistake me for a rookie. She wasn't that drunk and we were outside for a good 3 hours together before i left her at her girlfriends crib, nobody stays super drunk after that. Plus i just gave her my number and she hit my up the day after and is still being flirty and interested, just that she was busy "excusing" her behaviour. She wants me to think she is a good girl but i don't want none of that.


If all you're looking for is some pussy then on to the next one, both of you are wasting time on each other otherwise.
Sep 21, 2012 @ 01:53
question. do some girls act bad or act like some bitches in front of you to hide their feelings for you?
Sep 21, 2012 @ 02:10
question. do some girls act bad or act like some bitches in front of you to hide their feelings for you?


If she texts you or you guys are alone and she acts normal and flirty then yes I have known some girls that tend to do that.
Sep 21, 2012 @ 02:17
question. do some girls act bad or act like some bitches in front of you to hide their feelings for you?

I know some girls that won't talk to you when they're with friends but then just like get mad when you try to leave even if they're ignoring you.
Sep 21, 2012 @ 02:43
nah b i barely know her so i dont know if shes acting like a bitch to get my attention or she is a striaght up bitch
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