You're making a number of assumptions about relationships and about the motivations and attitudes of males and females in general, and forming absurd conclusions based on those assumptions that I'm not even going to get into.
These heteronormative essays composed by modern (insecure) men are funny. Good points.. However, I will add that a generalized trend is being highlighted by the reddit poster. It being a more dominant/generalized trend, what you speak of (a female of value) is the exception. It used to not be the exception and I think you are missing this point. With great 'freedom' comes responsibility .. Sure, when men had it, a good number went ham and were stupid ... but the majority didn't. This was in a time past when the family unit was stronger... As men adapt to this 'new found' freedom of women, you better believe there will be societal consequences... You will see males assert an even more ruthless path w.r.t to treatment of women and we will head into a downward spiral... You already see it now w.r.t to the more isolated extremes w/ juveniles gang raping inebriated women and asserting that they wanted it all along. The stop gap always was the 'trend' that there are wholesome women/etc who would provide the incentive for men to settle down and not be animals. W/ that incentive being gone, what do you think is going to happen? We are already seeing it now.
Let's get one this straight; whoever wrote this essay, and men that think like this, are fearful of the change that is taking place in our society right now. That being women are being afforded the same options, choices and freedoms men have enjoyed since the beginning of time. I can't help but think of the same anxiety white men felt when black men were beginning to enter into American society as free people. Inventing idiotic theories about this new "alien" species.
Women love the attaction they have to you? They love the dopamine rush? They're narcissistic? Attracted to men in leadership/dominant roles?
And that can't be said about men? Generalizations are boring. Not all women are selfish, power hungry robots. They have the same fears, aspirations, and longings we have. It's just now they are able to exercise the same volitions we have, and it scares most men. Here's an interesting idea; stop looking at women as possessions and objects, and treat your fellow human beings as just that. I'm not saying you won't get cheated on, or have all the horrible shit that probably moved this dude to write this. But if you are the best person you can be (and want to be) you'll a find a girl out there that will respect that. All you can be is yourself.
I feel like the problem with the author of that essay, is that he goes for the WRONG type of girl. I hear the same shit from women who only talk about men being dogs and only cheat. I know plenty of loyal women out there in the world, niggas is just looking only skin deep. Stop looking in the wrong places. Your girl might not end up looking like Rihanna, but you gotta prioritize what's important to you.
So, I know you want to be idealistic and suggest that there will be peace/love/harmony accompanying a more balance of power between men/women but you couldn't be any more off the mark. Look around you and you can already see that .. Relationships have become more superficial .. People in general have become more superficial.. The family unit is in shambles ... You need a balance and certain norms provide from that. When you disrupt it, sure you might resettle on a new balance point but it will never be the same as time's past. You will gain some things and lose others. You have no clue how much more often I hear 'I feel i love him but there is no passion anymore' from women.. It didn't used to be this way... Women in general are some of the most fickle creatures on earth.... So now you say to women: "Use your new found freedom to embrace your 'nature'? You're asking for chaotic disaster .... So, what you see now are men sort of getting lost in the sauce. However, once they finally grasp what's going on and 'fully' embrace their optimal strategy as well.. look out.... You're going to see a much more different society. One where monogamy/family units/substance/etc and all that jazz will seem like old tails of a society long past.
Our true natures are quite primitive and savage.... Suggesting our return back to them is 'progress' is anything but.
I could make this a sociology paper and prove my arguments with facts and statistics, but no one wants to read that shit.
What I will say is that I think you're making these incorrect assumptions because you are choosing a selective sample to base your theories on. That being people under the age of 26. What we're finding in today's society is a delay in the full maturation process. Back in the day your life was usually figured out in your late teens/early twenties. Societies expectations were to marry early. And if you were a woman you had less options, so it was to your benefit that you be with a man early. Today, young people are often still looking or finding themselves well into their mid to late twenties. And this includes women. It's not that women (and I would include men) are fickle and capricious in nature; it's just that it is taking longer for us to find ourselves. And I always thought it was absurd for someone to get into a serious relationship (like marriage) before the age of 28-30. It takes time to be ready to settle down.
Now you might want to point to divorce rates, and that they've plummeted over the past couple decades. But if you look at the facts you'll find that relationships tend to be doomed when under the age of 26. An age, in my belief, is too young to settle down. -->
"According to research at the University of Pennsylvania's Wharton School, one of the clearest predictors of whether wedding vows will stick is the age of the people saying them. Take the '80s: a full 81% of college graduates who got hitched in that decade at age 26 or older were still married 20 years later. Only 65% of college grads who said I do before their 26th birthday made it that far."
My point is only this. What you're seeing is that women are being more explorative than previous generations at younger ages. It doesn't mean that we're seeing the armageddon of relationships. It just means solid, serious relationships should be formed between two mature people. Quality women are out there, and if you don't see them, it's like I said, you're looking in the wrong places, or you're friends with people who parrot what you say, because they themselves are looking in the wrong places. Real life isn't the Real Housewives of Atlanta or shit you see on the Kardashians, I went to a good college and saw plenty of successful women who were ready for serious, long-lasting relationships. And sure, I saw a bunch of ratchet, power-seeking women wanting to do the complete opposite. Do your proper due diligence.
Most of the women I dated are graduates of ivy league and top ranking Universities as I am from one. Some older 30s+ and some younger 20s-30s. In my personal life, I don't date ratchets due to the personal risk in doing so (I have too much shit to lose). Much of what i highlighted is not my experience. I typically meet women through friends... They have careers and are highly educated. So, in my personal life, the sample set that I draw from is quite 'high' in way of quality of 'education' and 'success'. That being said, a woman's education level and 'success' isn't the end-all-be-all w.r.t to their mindset. There are plenty of jump off ratchet educated women as well. I had one very well educated/successful woman tell me the other day who has been in a 3-4 year relationship with a very great guy whose she's traveled the world with.. and can't find a thing wrong w/ that.. She feels she is maybe still in love.. but she doesn't know if love is enough.. she feels there is no passion there anymore.. and went on to suggest that she wants to start smashing randos .. guys she hadn't considered before.. that seem more exciting.. while dating dude.. So much for educated women.. But i don't say that to extend it to anything beyond a single example in which you can be wrong w.r.t to 'quality'.
Plenty that think life is about materialistic things. Plenty bought into this superficial bullshit culture that dominates America male/female. Plenty that live life based on shit they watch on TV.
And no, the majority of women aren't from America's best and brightest Universities. So, if you want to talk about sample sets, lets talk about the general and majority pool of women. Not the small "high quality" pool that me and you seem to draw from. Further, don't feel that because a poster highlights a particular area that it is their experience. My experience is anything but dating/interacting w/ trashy women.
Now, to the data you highlighted..... Yes, people are getting married later. Yes, divorce rates are high among those that get married younger. However, getting married later is actually more correlated w/ the state of the economy than anything else : http://www.nbcnews.com/business/economy-mends-gen-xers-fear-they-will-never-catch-1C7103236http://www.theatlantic.com/business/archive/2013/08/a-record-high-number-of-young-people-are-still-living-with-their-parents-why/279159/
Hard to start a family or even begin looking for quality out of the litter when you're living at your parents and aren't financially stable enough to support even yourself. And unless you forgot, women have a biological clock.. They aren't like men and can't delay having kids forever.. If you have any experience dating women in their 30s, you'd know that their psyche' changes completely and boom.. one of the reasons you can have elevated divorce rates even when couple's are in their 30s :
> didn't date long enough
> Spent their 20s doing dumb shit that created tons of baggage (women carry psychological baggage for alot longer than men.. Unlike men, studies show all those rando dicks that have been in them have lingering psychological effects moreso than men who dabbled along the same time period)
> Got married out of fear for getting old and being alone
> Got married due to biological clock and wanting to have kids
So, be careful how you attribute correlations.
Now, as for women and men, there are clear differences between the two. Very distinct and clear differences. This doesn't require a PHD in social psych. B.t.w - I have a minor in it. That being said, this is America and it is quite clear moreso than many other countries that media drives and influences people incredibly here. It's clear that there is an overabundance of choice and freedom to do whatever you want and it's more than clear that Westernized woman are highlighted by their 'distinct' characteristics... And guess what, corporations profit most from you being confused and lost and single ... You spend more on 'appearance' .. going out.. making up a desirable image for a possible mate. This is the baseline norm.
Now, laws in America and social norms have very clearly been slanted towards an advantage to women who used to be disadvantaged. Here's a few clear examples via questions : Do women come trying to woo men or do men still have to chase down and woo women? If a decent looking woman walked down the street offered sex to men would the majority say yes? If the roles were reversed, would the majority of women say yes? Are women more emotional or logical? Are men more logical or emotional? So there are clear layman things that you can highlight w/o thinking that hard.
In the midst of this transition to equal power, you have started to see male education rates drastically decline. You are starting to see 'impacts' due to this shift. What are women's role models these days? What exactly does a woman offer today? Men have learned how to cook/etc.. Technology does the majority of the house chores... What female figures are highlighted the most in the media? Very sexualized women acting like the Donald Drapers of Mad Men. This isn't rocket science. The media runs and controls baseline behavior in the U.S. The Miley Cyrus'. The sex and the city. The same media that convinces men that they need to adopt the flavor of the mouth apparel and archetype to have a chance to get women.
So, I am centered on a much higher level observation and view of the interaction between men and women in present day America. I'm not some but hurt uneducated fool who is down in life because he is surrounded by uneducated ratchets.... I enjoy researching and educating myself on things.. On lifestyles I don't live... etc. And just because my 'small' personal experiences w/ quality women have been good and I potentially have a wifey insight doesn't cause me to not see the overall general trend.