Truth is you can set all the goals you want, but reality is you'll just fall back to square 1. How many times have you made your new years resolution. Have your fulfilled it yet? We are living in a very tough era. jobs are competitive, people are moving back in with their parents, etc. It doesn't look to change in the foreseeable future.
Damn b. I'm sorry to hear that's how your life has been turning out. My life has been turning out great. I'd say of all the goals I've set for the past 3 years, I've hit 80% so far and I'm back on track to hit the other 20% by next year. You're right that not everything goes according to plan, but you're wrong that you always start back at square one. My future goals are gonna be haaaaaaaaaard to achieve. But I'm developing habits now that will prepare me for the future.
I'm not motivational guru, but real talk, you just gotta be consistent. New years resolutions fail because people quit. But how many other people stick with it and make it work. Not many. Why?
IMO there's 3 parts to success. Wanting to do something. Being able to do it. Doing it. I'm very blessed that I can get the first two parts easily for most things. Some people just get stuck on wanting things but they don't make the effort to learn how to be able to do it. But even once people are able to do things, they stop there and they don't do it. Doing is the hardest part. Real talk.
All that said, I hope your perspective changes man. You're robbing yourself of a lot of success with your current mindset.