But here's the thing about games; you're gonna lose if you don't know the rules. That's why, when you hit a new court, you ask up front, are we going full court? 21? Are 3's counted as 3 or two? Otherwise you're gonna make stupid mistakes that cost you the game.
I wanna help you young dudes out. Cuz either you get taken advantage of throughout the life of your relationship until she dumps your weak ass, or you learn how to play the game and score some points of your own.
Rule 1: recognize when the ball is in play. Women will put the ball in play at random. Recognize the game. Example: she's suddenly mad at you for no reason whatsoever. Game on. Get your game face on and play. Otherwise, you're going to get played.
Rule 2: the 3 strike rule. "Hey, you seem upset. You ok?" Yes. Strike one. "You sure?" Yes. Strike 2. "Ok, well if there is anything that's bothering you, either tell me what it is right now, tell me we can talk later, or never ever bring it up again." I'm fine. Strike 3. And move on with your life. That's a great game killer. Don't be fooled though. The first few times you utilize this, they will test your resolve by trying to bring it back up. You gotta reject that. Goal tend if you have to. But stuff that shot and let her know, nah, that game ended and we're not starting that game back up.
Rule 3: whatever negative vibe she's giving you, respond with 3 options:
a. give it right back to her so she realizes she's being shitty. Sometimes that's all they need to realize that their behavior is not cool and they will get hit right back for it.
b. respond with the total opposite emotion. This will make her feel stupid for intentionally being shitty while you're in a great mood. It also shows her that you will not allow her to bring down your mood simply because she is in the mood to be in a bad mood. Also, positivity is contagious. Maybe she has all the right to be in a bad mood. But if you stay in high spirits, you may just bring her up as well. Basically, don't allow her moods to affect yours. Always be in control of your moods. And let her know that she is NOT in control of your moods.
c. silent treatment. This one is powerful but difficult. It requires you to force a strong confrontation. Your woman needs to be aware that without her you have a great life and could go right back to that happy stress free life at the drop of a hat. Therefore, she can either be part of the good in your life and contribute, or she'll fall into the bad and eventually get cut off. "Why are you ignoring me?" "Because I was having a great day, and you've been so moody lately, I didn't wanna bring my day down by talking to you." Be prepared for the waves of guilt trips, but stand firm. She'll have to face facts. Either she stops that BS, or she gets broken up with. And here's the trick. Women like to be the dumper, not the dumpee. So with the threat of getting dumped, she will likely correct her behavior to avoid getting dumped. Cuz I mean, even if she says it's over, you both know damn well that you were the one who dumped her from the moment you started ignoring her.
So yeah, you can do things the easy way and end up in a cycle of endless guilt tripping, or you can stand up for yourself. The game is not fun. But at your age, women are still in the habit of playing them. So, you can either get played, or you can 360 slam dunk in her face and let her know you're the wrong person to play against.
Hope this helps some of y'all.
By the way, this is relationship advice, not bag and tag advice.