NYC has its pros and cons but after living there for a few years I have too say I've found it too be overrated and I can't fathom how anyone finds it too be the best city. Ok it has all kinds of people and culture and things are open late... Is that worth it too pay $1000 a month too live in a shoebox? Never have any privacy or personal space? Surrounded by filth and things that smell like shit? People being prideful of behaving like assholes because its the NYC attitude (get over yourselves you gotta take a long train ride too even get too the tough and scary parts of the city)? Most people don't even have a car there (fuck that shit, I do) but don't even get me started on dealing with public transportation and cabs as your only means of transportation. A lotta people my age come there thinking its like the Hollywood version of New York. If youre trying too make ends meet NYC is a lot of hassle for rewards that quickly become either mundane or simply not worth it. I can't front and call born and raised or anything, but I spend a lot of time in New York, mainly staying with my uncle in Brooklyn. I get where you're coming from with the public transportation, which (though very efficient and reliable compared to other cities, especially for the fact that it's accessible virtually anywhere within a 5 block radius) can become very aggravating. And yes, there are many assholes.
I have a love hate thing with New York though, that's just the hate part. You meet some interesting ass people you wont meet anywhere else, and you can see and do a lot of shit, its just endless shit. There is something weirdly charming about how the city is so raw but so full of everything imaginable. For me that doesn't make it a great place too live, but a great place to visit. When my lease in Brooklyn is done, unless I am making fat stacks (if youre rich as fuck nyc is a whole different story) I'll head somewhere more beautiful, friendly, economically prosperous, and affordable (what costs 2000 a month in NYC can be had for like 700 in most other cities). NYC might have the most night life and activities, but theres plenty of that shit in other places too.
Edit: The NYC hometown best city in the world attitude is annoying as fuck on people from CT and deep out Long Island, or people who just moved there from other places doing everything they can too be New York as fuck, but on authentic New Yorkers who came up there most of their lives its got some merit, I mean that's how you came up so it is what it is knowhatimsayin? I gotta say though, native New Yorkers tend too think they are so much more experienced and worldly than people from smaller places, but its all a bullshit bubble town mentality, most native New Yorkers don't understand shit about how shit works elsewhere.
But I think the city appeals to the more sentimental person. The kind of person who will describe the energy, vibes, and heart of the city. I fucking love New York. The diversity is amazing, and I don't just mean racial diversity. There's the skate community, the fashion community, the hip-hop heads, the jazz clubs, the sports fans, and everything in between. When I go to visit family, and wander in the city by myself, I don't feel alone. It's weird.
But I haven't seen someone articulate so well the negative aspects aside from the usual "arrogant people", "dirty environment", or "overpriced living" cliches. Your post was really good.
Can't front either man, public transportation in NYC is better than most cities. Boston's is the worst and I love my home town. I just don't think I can ever get down on public transport as my sole means of getting around, I love driving, the freedom, the power, the comfort, being on my town time with my own personal space and my music blasting, temp where I want it. People front like NYC is hard too drive in, people just get shook by cab drivers who think theyre cowboys, its cake compared too Boston and the parallel parking in NYC is plentiful (unless its late at night) and its usually free if you aren't on main drags. I agree with you on the sentimental tip, I think that sums up the love part of my love hate relationship with NYC.