im a introvert, but i need to learn how to talk to anyone/be outgoing

November 30, 2012 @ 03:53:45 AM
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i need to learn how to be outgoing, i feel like my natural reserved quiet nature is really the only thing holding me back from being successful.
I study art, I know most of you will be like wtf, why would anyone ever go to school for art? well ive always been into it and ended up getting a max scholarship to a top art school in the world so i figured why not. now im in my junior year, and i know what the fuck im doing, i know i can make top notch shit that could show around the world and that big collectors will buy. I even have some secret family connects with big critics and other major figures in the art world.
heres the thing tho, i am mildly socially retarded lol. Ive pretty much always been a quiet kid, at least most the time.
growing up i had a best friend from the age of 4 til i graduated highschool. he was basically the exact opposite of me, loud, couldnt shut up for his own good at times,lol. anyway i pretty much just became friends with whoever he became friends with over the years and ended up with a solid group of like 15 really close friends by the time i was 18, all without really having to put any effort in socially, it just kind of happened. i mean i made some friends myself but you get the idea. shit was cool, but i knew i had to learn to make it on my own, so i went away to school.
i had met this kid at a pre-college program before my senior year, and we ended up going to the same school, so he hit me up and we ended up dorming together. hes the same type of person as my friend from home, outgoing and can talk to anyone. now we've lived together for three years and pretty much do everything together, except everything pretty much goes through him, he always wants to be in control of shit and im extremely laid back and apathetic so i pretty much just go with it, which sort of works but im still not really learning how to make friends for myself. at this point im just sick of feeling like a tagalong and really need to learn to be independent and shit. im getting kind of depressed about it which i feel might be half the problem :/ if im going to reach my potential, i have to learn to network for myself, this is very important for any job but i think especially in the art world. its All about who you know, ya know?!

long story short, i have to learn to be independent/outgoing, have any of you gone from very quiet and reserved to outgoing?
there were actually some instances where i was outgoing, like when i was with close friends or just certain classes for whatever reason i would come out of my shell, and when i do that im actually really funny and smart, but it doesn't really happen often anymore for whatever reason, maybe depression, idk. anyway i know i can do it because ive done it before, i just need to figure out how to do it all the time, if that makes sense.

im not just talking about like overcoming social anxiety, (i don't think i even have social anxiety, its more like social apathy) i want to be like my friends who can make connections with anyone at any time, ja feeeellz?

all advice is welcome.
make fun of me too i dont care, just make sure you're actually funny.
November 30, 2012 @ 03:55:02 AM
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All you have to do is STEP OUT OF YOUR COMFORT ZONE. Simple as that.
November 30, 2012 @ 03:59:22 AM
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so you start talking about how you got a scholarship to a top art school and how you can sell masterpieces
but yet the topic of this post is about how you can be more out going....

Dat humble brag lyfestyle might not make it
November 30, 2012 @ 04:00:05 AM
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be drunk all the time
November 30, 2012 @ 04:00:51 AM
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smile and say hi at random people you pass by

He's cute? I bet he ain't #Hansum

November 30, 2012 @ 04:03:07 AM
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Talk to http://hypebeast.com/forums/off-topic/151706/
November 30, 2012 @ 04:03:08 AM
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Originally posted by Inactive User
so you start talking about how you got a scholarship to a top art school and how you can sell masterpieces
but yet the topic of this post is about how you can be more out going....

Dat humble brag lyfestyle might not make it


your whole life might not make it
November 30, 2012 @ 04:03:48 AM
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Originally posted by Inactive User
so you start talking about how you got a scholarship to a top art school and how you can sell masterpieces
but yet the topic of this post is about how you can be more out going....

Dat humble brag lyfestyle might not make it


lol i mean the point is i have potential but if i dont learn how to do this shit i wont reach it. i see what you mean though lol i really wasn't trying to brag i mean being a good artist is kind of a joke anyway, not many people really give a shit about it, its just what im into, ya kno?
November 30, 2012 @ 04:08:34 AM
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do one thing out of your comfort zone everyday and you won't even think about that shit eventually. also a bunch of people are like you including myself so everyones in the same boat so if you step up and make the first move people will appreciate that and warm up to you
November 30, 2012 @ 04:14:36 AM
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word good advice

i just wish there was a pill i could pop that would make me more energetic/upity or some shit

im just too laid back all the time, its hard to give a fuck in the short term but it fucks you up down the road.

i guess i just really have to consciously try all the time for a while and eventually it will become second nature, gotta find that balance of effort and effortlessness
November 30, 2012 @ 04:18:52 AM
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ive seen a lot of people on here talkin about quitting porn you think that could help with this? im not a porn fiend but i do watch a fair amount
November 30, 2012 @ 04:20:55 AM
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Do you have regular relationships with women? if not you should quit porn.
November 30, 2012 @ 04:27:19 AM
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word im gonna quit i think. i mostly just hook up with a girl every so often in a while when im fucked up, i cant really carry on conversations with them all that long otherwise, even when its obvious they're interested :/

hey what was the thread with the vid of the shirtless dude talking about stopping being a pussy and stopping watching porn and shit?
November 30, 2012 @ 04:31:10 AM
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maybe i should start doing hardstyle to get my energy up

November 30, 2012 @ 04:42:19 AM
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get use to being embarrassed but not so much to the point you become a douche
November 30, 2012 @ 04:56:50 AM
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Just start working out. You will look good and have confidence about yourself.

Confidence is key to your problem and getting out of your comfort zone.
November 30, 2012 @ 04:57:47 AM
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Originally posted by Inactive User
so you start talking about how you got a scholarship to a top art school and how you can sell masterpieces
but yet the topic of this post is about how you can be more out going....

Dat humble brag lyfestyle might not make it


your whole life might not make it


dat SN to your real life analogy lifestyle might not make it
November 30, 2012 @ 05:01:57 AM
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Originally posted by Inactive User
Originally posted by Inactive User
so you start talking about how you got a scholarship to a top art school and how you can sell masterpieces
but yet the topic of this post is about how you can be more out going....

Dat humble brag lyfestyle might not make it


your whole life might not make it


dat SN to your real life analogy lifestyle might not make it

usage of the word analogy not even close to making it
November 30, 2012 @ 05:04:07 AM
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Just start working out. You will look good and have confidence about yourself.

Confidence is key to your problem and getting out of your comfort zone.


i already look good thats another problem, i could get girls without really making a whole lot of effort in high school but now its not so easy smh

i am pretty frail though i guess the endorphins couldnt hurt
November 30, 2012 @ 05:04:38 AM
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Originally posted by Inactive User
your whole life might not make it


dat SN to your real life analogy lifestyle might not make it

usage of the word analogy not even close to making it


ur stoopid cuz ur retarded
November 30, 2012 @ 05:05:50 AM
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Originally posted by Inactive User
Originally posted by Inactive User
dat SN to your real life analogy lifestyle might not make it

usage of the word analogy not even close to making it


ur stoopid cuz ur retarded

frail cuz u asian
November 30, 2012 @ 05:07:33 AM
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i have a problem of being not outgoing either,
just increase that confidence level and you will be fine
November 30, 2012 @ 05:07:53 AM
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Give less fucks and maybe get a part time job that forces you to talk to people. Working in retail definitely helped me to be more out going.
November 30, 2012 @ 05:08:05 AM
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guyz stop tha violence
(meek mealz/kta)
November 30, 2012 @ 05:08:19 AM
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Originally posted by Inactive User
Just start working out. You will look good and have confidence about yourself.

Confidence is key to your problem and getting out of your comfort zone.


i already look good thats another problem, i could get girls without really making a whole lot of effort in high school but now its not so easy smh

i am pretty frail though i guess the endorphins couldnt hurt

Even if you "look good" working out will help you with your confidence. And HS bitches are different than college bitches.
November 30, 2012 @ 05:09:51 AM
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Originally posted by Inactive User
Just start working out. You will look good and have confidence about yourself.

Confidence is key to your problem and getting out of your comfort zone.


i already look good thats another problem, i could get girls without really making a whole lot of effort in high school but now its not so easy smh

i am pretty frail though i guess the endorphins couldnt hurt


Dat frail life may not make it. Better hope a good looking girls approachs you. if not, have fun with the ugly bitches.
November 30, 2012 @ 05:13:49 AM
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Originally posted by Inactive User
usage of the word analogy not even close to making it


ur stoopid cuz ur retarded

frail cuz u asian


ugly cause you not asian. i got dat ulzzang swag
November 30, 2012 @ 05:15:27 AM
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Originally posted by Inactive User
Just start working out. You will look good and have confidence about yourself.

Confidence is key to your problem and getting out of your comfort zone.


i already look good thats another problem, i could get girls without really making a whole lot of effort in high school but now its not so easy smh

i am pretty frail though i guess the endorphins couldnt hurt


Dat frail life may not make it. Better hope a good looking girl approachs you if not have fun with the ugly bitches.
well its not like i never get girls its actually more that i only go for like 9s and 10s i may need to lower my standards for a bit. and ya im frail as fuck actually, 6'4" 140 lbs lol im not really insecure about it tho, i go to art school everyones frail if i was swole everyone would just think im a douchey bro or some shit haha
November 30, 2012 @ 07:17:55 AM
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Originally posted by Inactive User
Originally posted by Inactive User
Just start working out. You will look good and have confidence about yourself.

Confidence is key to your problem and getting out of your comfort zone.


i already look good thats another problem, i could get girls without really making a whole lot of effort in high school but now its not so easy smh

i am pretty frail though i guess the endorphins couldnt hurt


Dat frail life may not make it. Better hope a good looking girl approachs you if not have fun with the ugly bitches.

well its not like i never get girls its actually more that i only go for like 9s and 10s i may need to lower my standards for a bit. and ya im frail as fuck actually, 6'4" 140 lbs lol im not really insecure about it tho, i go to art school everyones frail if i was swole everyone would just think im a douchey bro or some shit haha
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naaaaah b all the art bitches fiend for some real men wallahi and when you show up painting picasso esque masterpieces and youre looking swole as fuck...bruh you'll be painting jackson pollocks on their backs naw mean?
quit porn, work out, and join a club with a good female to male ratio and force yourself to do it. good tip i learned, when you go into a social setting, find the first chair or first person or first possible social encounter and start that shit up without thinking. otherwise you'll psyche yourself out and say it's not worth your time and you'll regret it later.

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