tanylo
Post: 4
Join Date: Mar 2012
Location: Yass
Ok so i need some help from you guys and i've read this thread many times and some of you take this serious and give some good advices in here without trolling or flaming anyone.
Alright so i have a gf that i've been dating for about 5+ years and like any other relationship it's rocky and there are good and bad sides of it. However at this time i feel as if i should see me spending the rest of my life with her because of the amount of time we've been together thus far, however it's hard for me to picture this and most of the time i'm just waiting around to see if things change for the better. Shes a great girl, she has her priorities straight, I can see her being a great wife, however when things get ugly, it gets really ugly and sometimes i can't stand this. I feel as if i keep holding on it will not go where i want it to go, i really don't want to break her heart. Oh and another thing, i'm her first real relationship and she's kinda my first real one too. I sometimes question myself if i should venture out and get to know more people.. I'm the type of person that gets really used to things how they are and i don't like change too much. But i also don't want to live my life asking myself what would have happened if i dated another girl instead. I've never really broken up with anyone and never thought i'd be in this situation but i keep trying and i don't think this relationship is very healthy. I'm a very loyal bf, for as long as we've been together i don't really talk to other girls like that to lead them on or anything. But.. here's where things gets a bit twisted..
Lately i've met this girl that i think is very pretty ( this is a lot coming from me, i'm very picky with girls ) so that's nothing to make me jump the gun to get to know her. But as i talked to her she's a really chill girl and really nice, always seem positive and always has a smile on her face. So i talked to her a few times just to get to know her, then one day she surprised me and asked me to go on a trip with her. I was shocked i really didn't know what to say but apparently she asked a few other people.. however i was probably 1 of 2 people i know that she asked. So i was a little stunned and found my ass stuck for a moment and i just asked her who is she going with, she told me by herself, which left me even more stuck... So she had to go but next time i saw her i brought up what she had asked last time and we started talking a bit and she kept wanting me to go with her. I probably would but this is a pretty expensive trip and money is tight so i can't do it. So all this talk about that trip had me talking to her some more and she seems pretty flirtatious but in a sarcastic kinda way, she'll do a slap on my arm or something too and from what i remember since that last time i really flirted with a girl that's not a "friend" slap. Then by the end of this time meeting her she said bye to me but asked for a hug, i've never had anyone ask for a hug like that, usually girls just hug me bye in a friendly way and not ask. I'm not sure if her personality is just overly friendly and does this with everyone or if she's really somewhat interested in me.
Here's a small twist to all this that i just found out, one of the person that works with me is talking to her so if that doesn't work out would it be a little messed up if i jumped in? I don't really hang out with him but i feel as it's a little wrong.
I don't mean to make this long but this situation has been running through my head because i feel as if i'm not giving my gf 100% in the relationship and i somewhat haven't felt like how this girl is making me feel in a long time. I don't want to miss an opportunity and question myself later. I just feel as if my relationship should end and maybe i should get to know others more because i don't think i should feel like this, what do you HBers think? Help a brother out.
