The Official Relationship, Dating, or Talking Problems/Questions Thread

May 27, 2010 @ 22:33:05 PM
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i appreciate it but its funny you mentioned the lasting for a week thing because she said she probably wouldn't last that long.

But another factor that plays into it is the fact that we live together, which me i have to find a spot stay, she doesn't want me to find an apartment, so its like fuck would i do


Lolwut. Are you serious? She wants the break. You guys live together, so you have to find a new place to stay for a month?

Fuck that.
May 27, 2010 @ 22:38:53 PM
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She wants to take a break, WTF?

what does that even mean


May 27, 2010 @ 22:45:26 PM
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Lolwut. Are you serious? She wants the break. You guys live together, so you have to find a new place to stay for a month?

Fuck that.


Yea, whoever pays the rent/mortgage of most of it should stay. If she wants a break she should leave, not you.
May 27, 2010 @ 22:52:20 PM
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i appreciate it but its funny you mentioned the lasting for a week thing because she said she probably wouldn't last that long.

But another factor that plays into it is the fact that we live together, which me i have to find a spot stay, she doesn't want me to find an apartment, so its like fuck would i do


sucks man, seeems like shes ready u leave you with nothing. Better D up man!
May 27, 2010 @ 22:52:33 PM
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^ am not worried about that tho, i can easily find a place but i dont want to go thought all that for nothing

Lolwut. Are you serious? She wants the break. You guys live together, so you have to find a new place to stay for a month?

Fuck that.


story of my fucking life
May 28, 2010 @ 01:24:47 AM
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If both names are on the lease and you pa rent why get out? I've dealt with this shit before being told to get out I didn't fucking move a muscle.

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May 28, 2010 @ 02:14:52 AM
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just be clear. a "break" implies that youre gonna get back together later. so if you decide to take a break, then you gotta lay down some ground rules.

maybe a break would be a good time for you to see some other stuff too? just thinking about it from another perspective.
May 28, 2010 @ 02:37:46 AM
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I get having questions and concerns but some of these questions lately are kind of obvious and pathetic. Women as just as fucked up and brutal about shit as men are. Dont pretend it's any different. A break? Come on man... Think about it it. Yes women think about other men just like we think about other women. It sucks but don't forget it. Could she be fucking someones else already? Yes. But forums like this are obviously going to make you think its worse than MOST the time that it is. Ya some situations suck and every guy goes through it. Move on. Hurt for awhile. Find new girl. Learn from it. Try to improve on it from what you've learned All these posts and threads about 'breaks' and 'loving ex's'. Seriously like It sucks I'm sure but move on or it'll just drag out that feeling. You learn and move on. Most of you and still young as shit anyways.
May 28, 2010 @ 07:40:26 AM
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^ let her have the break. But you gotta tell her straight up, you might not be there for her anymore if she wants you
back. You gotta tell her straight up that she can't just leave you for how long then come back whenever she wants. Tell her these sorta things got some consequences tied with it and can backfire. And that if she wanna break up then just end it. Cuz you aren't suppose to wait for her like a dog. Tell her she's dating a man and not a bitch. If she decides to break up it's her lost


I agree with all of this.

But I still can't over how she wants YOU to move out when she wants to break. That's seriously messed up. Stand your ground, don't let her kick you out.
May 28, 2010 @ 09:31:20 AM
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i hear what all of you are saying and i really appreciate it, but the fact that she is fucking or looking for someone else its out the question. she lost her virginity to me and trust me she aint that type of girl

for the pass couple of months she says she wants to have kids and start a family in 2 years, i told her i not ready for that and that its too soon for all of that because i would be going to med school soon so a decision like that is big. we left it at that.

Both our names are on the lease so its fucked up that she expect me to move out, but at the same time i do want to give her the space she needs, you know.

i feel what ya are saying and i do want to make it work so i will give her time,
May 28, 2010 @ 12:46:23 PM
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You're too deep already. Be preparedddd.

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May 28, 2010 @ 14:15:42 PM
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your right i never had, this is my first real relationship, i fucked with bitches from time to time but never been this real.

but fuck it tonight i need to clear my mind from this shit, if she is doing shit then so am i

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May 28, 2010 @ 17:00:50 PM
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^ forreal


inf, post up your top 5 rules when it comes to dating bitches/ then maybe girlfriend status

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May 28, 2010 @ 19:11:54 PM
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i hear what all of you are saying and i really appreciate it, but the fact that she is fucking or looking for someone else its out the question. she lost her virginity to me and trust me she aint that type of girl

for the pass couple of months she says she wants to have kids and start a family in 2 years, i told her i not ready for that and that its too soon for all of that because i would be going to med school soon so a decision like that is big. we left it at that.

Both our names are on the lease so its fucked up that she expect me to move out, but at the same time i do want to give her the space she needs, you know.

i feel what ya are saying and i do want to make it work so i will give her time,


Well sounds like you're in love mang. If that's the case and you wanna make it work you guys are gonna have to come to some sort of compromise. She can't just expect you to get out when it's YOUR HOUSE TOO. Shit is ridiculous. She's moving too fast and imo I don't see it working out. Sounds like you guys have different things on the mind so just break up now and see where you guys are in a couple months or even years.
May 28, 2010 @ 20:21:38 PM
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imo your first love is your last love. if you really love a girl, you wouldn't have feelings for other girls. i think you guys just fell in love with falling in love. love.
May 29, 2010 @ 00:49:00 AM
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How to cut off a girl who is TOO nice to me that I mess around with sometimes..

She wants to be my only girl etc. but I can't let that happen.. How do I go about letting her know I wanna do shit with other girls at any time without losing her as a hookup...

Like I do get with other girls all the time she just doesn't know it.. I want her to know and somehow not think I'm a dick lol.. help
May 29, 2010 @ 05:02:37 AM
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We don't make phone calls
We don't pay for shit except ourselves (unless they offer to pay occasionally too)
We don't pry about their personal lives or trip about male friends (jealousy is a female trait)

Just be whoever you are when your with your friends. if you gotta switch up in the slightest when you are with one or the other then shit aint working right.

and thats about it. Whoever loves least has the power in a relationship and this is true for anything.


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i don't even need to point out all the things wrong with this comment.
May 30, 2010 @ 09:40:15 AM
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Well sounds like you're in love mang. If that's the case and you wanna make it work you guys are gonna have to come to some sort of compromise. She can't just expect you to get out when it's YOUR HOUSE TOO. Shit is ridiculous. She's moving too fast and imo I don't see it working out. Sounds like you guys have different things on the mind so just break up now and see where you guys are in a couple months or even years.


its been a week and this shit is not getting any easier, i decided to move the fuck out and concentrate on summer classes and work. she keep giving mixed messages and i cant take this shit.

i guess first love is the worst.
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June 01, 2010 @ 23:56:54 PM
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is he really like dat?^
June 02, 2010 @ 10:18:49 AM
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is he really like dat?^


Think so.
June 02, 2010 @ 16:44:22 PM
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Originally posted by Inactive User
Alright guys so I've been caking on this girl. She doesn't get out too much I guess because her friends don't party too often. So anyways last Friday night I took her to a party with a couple of my friends who I don't hang out with too often. The party was pretty whack so we all decided to head back to my place to play some beer pong and smoke. On the way back I made a remark about the party, but then she replied that she had fun. At the party and on the way home she said "I'm so drunk right now" a couple times.

The problem is, a few times throughout the night my friend was like "So are you gonna fuck this girl or what?" with the girl within earshot. Once was when she was standing to my left, and he was on my right. The other was when she got up out of my room to go to the bathroom, and he said it before she even had the door closed.

She ended up leaving my place instead of staying over. The overall situation was made really awkward by my friend's remarks, so I didn't even try to get her to stay over. I wouldn't be worried if I was just trying to fuck this girl, but I'm really not. She's really cool and is someone I could see myself dating.

I texted her the next day and she didn't reply. I called her the next day and it rang for a split second and then went to voicemail, so I think maybe her cell phone was messed up because of all the bad thunderstorms/hail/tornadoes we've been having?

But yeah anyways here are two things I've come up with to do:

- Give her a call and just say something like "I don't know if you heard my friend or not but if you did it probably made me sound like a bit of a creep." and then tell her I'd be willing to make up for that night and hang out again (either 1 on 1 or with my friends who are actually on the same wavelength as me).

- Ignore the fact that she may have heard what my friend said and give her a call this weekend to see if she wants to hang out. Show her that I'm not just trying to bang her and maybe later on at the end of the night give her the little explanation about my friend.

So... Which do you think would be better to go with?


honestly bro, no text/call, be upfront to her and u do your thing
June 09, 2010 @ 07:57:14 AM
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Airight *****s, we been on a break for about 2 to 3 weeks now and shit is just weird. i moved out the house to give her that space and it fucking sucks.

the shit is she still calls/texts me to do certain things for her, she drives by my mom's crib to see if am there and shit and she still expects me to pay my share of the rent even i am not there.

her mom call me to tell me that she cant sleep in the house allow, she still rocks my rings and saying we are still together

am getting mixed signal from her and i tried of this shit, am to the point that is either we get back together or we break up simple as that, waiting on her to call me is killing me

what should i do?
June 09, 2010 @ 10:30:11 AM
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Originally posted by Inactive User
the shit is she still calls/texts me to do certain things for her, she drives by my mom's crib to see if am there and shit and she still expects me to pay my share of the rent even i am not there.

her mom call me to tell me that she cant sleep in the house allow, she still rocks my rings and saying we are still together

am getting mixed signal from her and i tried of this shit, am to the point that is either we get back together or we break up simple as that, waiting on her to call me is killing me

what should i do?


You shouldn't be going out of your way to do things for her, since you guys are on a break. She shouldn't be driving by your mom's house. And as for the rent, I actually don't know about that.

But what the hell, her mom called you to tell you she can't sleep alone?

Looks like she's trying to get attention or playing hard to get, in my opinion. Just talk to her and be straightforward.

You're not going to take none of this "break" bullshit. You're either together or not.
June 09, 2010 @ 11:08:55 AM
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i fucking feel you, but yea her mom tells me she cant sleep alone and shit and she is fighting with her friends that she choose over me, because they are wild(drinking/smoking)and she is not.

i stopped doing shit for her for the simple fact that we are on a break and that is what she wanted.

the rent shit is weird because she can't afford it herself and we liv about 20 miles away from everyone we know

i tried talking to her about it but she comes off like everything is cool and i am having a blast, its like she knows she made a mistake and now she doesn't know how to come to me.

i really wish we can get past this shit but then again i dont know if i can wait for her.

i plan on waiting it out till this weekend, fml

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June 09, 2010 @ 15:29:23 PM
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i wouldve laughed at her if she asked me to do anything for her. idk im weird i wouldnt really get back after a break you either break up or you dont.


That's kind of how I feel. I wouldn't even go for the break. You're really together or you're not. There's no in-between.

She can't just kick you out of the house, call the relationship on a break, and then ask you to do shit, drive by where you're staying, have her mom call you, etc.

That's just bullshit. If she wanted the break, she wouldn't be doing that. If she's doing that, then she obviously wants to be with you. In which case, the break wouldn't exist!

Seriously, just talk to her. Figure things out once and for all. It'll save more days or even weeks of wondering what the hell is going on. Just don't crawl or beg to get back with her. Just be straightforward. Reach a decision together.
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