The Official Relationship, Dating, or Talking Problems/Questions Thread - Page 72

October 11, 2011 @ 09:38 PM

aTTag

Post: 29

Join Date: Dec 2008

Nah man. She already said she doesn't want a relationship...could be code for a "needy guy". I don't know if you displayed signs of this prior, but I think you already know/it sounds like, this girl has you sprung. So the best bet is to fall back, and show her your value subliminally. Don't ever talk about your feelings towards her because girls always want what they can't have. It's primal instinct to them. You could try to set her up with a guy...I know this sounds backwards, but when she hears you say that. If she really likes you, it will close the door on you, and she will be desperate to open it back up and try to find out WHY you would give up on her. Or...try to get her to set you up with one of her friends. Jealousy will drive her crazy.

Whatever you do, don't tell her you need her in your life. You will ruin all chances of EVER attracting her again.

October 11, 2011 @ 09:44 PM

Inactive

Nah man. She already said she doesn’t want a relationship…could be code for a “needy guy”. I don’t...

Oh shit thank you trill god. Foreals man thank you, I'm just going to fall back and talk to other girls. It'll be hard but its what needs to be done.

October 11, 2011 @ 09:49 PM

Relax.

Post: 936

Join Date: Jul 2011

Location: LA

Were y'all fwb before you decided you wanted to be in a relationship? Cuz i don't see how a week w/o you is gonna sway her opinion.
Don't say all that corny shit either. If I were you tho and I was tryna get with her and she said no I would have just dropped her.

October 11, 2011 @ 09:56 PM

Inactive

yeah we were fwb.

Im just gon fall back and keep my mind on other girls for now.

October 11, 2011 @ 09:58 PM

aTTag

Post: 29

Join Date: Dec 2008

yeah we were fwb. Im just gon fall back and keep my mind on other girls for now.

Always leads to great things young man.

Remain trill.

October 11, 2011 @ 11:07 PM

ac_slater

Post: 185

Join Date: Jan 2011

Was dating this girl. We were taking it to the bedroom on the 4th date. Got a whiff of her pussy.

Smelled like 1000 year old ferret corpse.

Promptly dumped that shit.

October 11, 2011 @ 11:49 PM

Relax.

Post: 936

Join Date: Jul 2011

Location: LA

Word bro I have a similar story. Was dating this girl. We were taking it to the bedroom on the 4th date. Got a whiff of her pussy. Smelled like 1000 year old ferret corpse. Promptly dumped that shit.

October 12, 2011 @ 01:16 AM

D. Rose

Post: 2080

Join Date: Sep 2010

Location: Planet Nars

Fall back. Or risk losing her. Women…especially young women don’t play that shit. If they know they have you on lock, you lose all ground and become the female in the relationship. She’s the one who is supposed to be saying all that shit to you and waiting for your phone calls/texts.

qft

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October 12, 2011 @ 05:31 AM

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<div class="quote-content">Fall back. Or risk losing her. Women…especially young women don’t play that shit. If they know they have you on lock, you lose all ground and become the female in the relationship. She’s the one who is supposed to be saying all that shit to you and waiting for your phone calls/texts.</div>
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follow back on twitter mane

October 12, 2011 @ 05:57 AM

D. Rose

Post: 2080

Join Date: Sep 2010

Location: Planet Nars

^ I don't get email notifications for new followers, so I didn't know but I followed back.

SO HB,

I've been talking to this girl and we've been getting to know each other. It's been a while and the feeling is pretty mutual in that we're both interested in each other and like each other or whatever you guys wanna call it. But we talk a lot and we're together a lot to the point where people actually ask me if we're talking and i never know what to say to them so one day I asked her if we were talking, like talking talking and she got me confused - she said she liked me but doesn't like putting labels and then ended up telling me she didn't want anything serious right now... I guess i'm fine with that no need to rush into anything right. well before i used to text her all the time but then i stepped back after the little talk and now she's the one texting me all the time, when i'm trying to talk to other females... why are females so bipolar and confusing

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October 12, 2011 @ 07:41 AM

VOMITSPIT

Post: 2474

Join Date: Apr 2010

She's confused on what she wants, and that just causes confusion for the whole relationship. She basically doesn't know if she wants to date anyone but still wants a boyfriend figure there so she doesn't feel lonely, which is kinda using you and unfair. In the meantime, just do your thing, talk to other girls if you want, and if she gets jealous you can say you thought she didn't want a boyfriend. Then she'll be put on the spot to make up her mind, just don't waste time waiting for her to figure out what she wants.

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October 12, 2011 @ 07:47 AM

Nailuj

Post: 189

Join Date: Jun 2008

Location: Los Angeles

Yep, It’s just how female's minds work. You did exactly what you're supposed to do in not texting her. Now she's the one sending text after text, right where you want it to be. Keep the contact a minimum but not ignoring her by any means and I assure you when she finally realizes that you potentially could be backing away she'll do everything to keep you. Then the ball is in your court. Just continue playing it cool, keep the texts/calls/interactions at a minimum and continue talking to other females. Don't get hung-up in her web.

October 12, 2011 @ 01:44 PM

Relax.

Post: 936

Join Date: Jul 2011

Location: LA

I read this on KTT last night and I thought it was pretty insightful...so I thought I'd post it in here.

The Attention **** makes herself obvious to you by trying to control and manipulate. For example, she comes on strong to get your attention; she flirts, she drops hints, she tries to make you feel that she’s over-eager to be with you, and when you respond, she immediately pulls away. She's very, very good at making you feel like she's interested in you and will let you spend your time and money on her, but as soon as you start wanting something more, she'll act like you're out of your mind - she didn't do anything to lead you on!

Emergency precautions? The most important is to make sure that every bit of attention, time, or anything else you spend on her is always weighed against what she's done for you first. When uninformed men encounter the AW, they usually play right into her attention grabbing antics. They start giving her exactly what she wants – their attention. Of course, this woman is a master at trying to extract the maximum value from men that she can.

As she starts to pull away, these guys stupidly make the mistake of escalating their attention - even to the point of giving gifts, taking her on trips, taking her out to plays and concerts, etc., all in an attempt to impress her and buy their way into her pants. The AW knows this is coming and plays it to the hilt. Then, when the guy gets angry and starts expecting something from her, she treats the guy like she was innocent all along! They’ll often use phrases like, “I TOLD you we were just friends!” These women are experts at keeping this game going, and target men that are unsuspecting, willing victims.

Turning the tables on one of these is simply a matter of accounting. Watch your ledger very closely. For everything you do for her, there should be a commensurate return. Consider this: if you were in a relationship with a "nice girl", wouldn't she try to make you feel loved and special just like you do her? Of course! Especially when two people meet that are interested in each other, both go out of their way to make the other one feel special. They use all of the tools at their disposal. They are especially concerned about returning the love, attention, and consideration they receive.

The attention **** consumes without producing anything. She knows her victim usually has low self-esteem and makes the most of it. So, what’s the bottom line?
Simple: avoid the attention **** – she only exists because men allow her to!

October 13, 2011 @ 01:51 AM

Udon

Post: 144

Join Date: Sep 2010

Location: W. Hollywood

Need info from anyone who fucks cute girls regularly without being in a relationship with them

My friend is straight DTF and Ive never fucked any bitches I haven't been in a relationship with

Does it put you on a guilt trip after smashing?

October 13, 2011 @ 02:36 AM

jaythestar

Post: 1105

Join Date: Mar 2006

Location: NYC born, Yonkers Br...

^Go in head first, not head first if you know what I mean.

Seriously tho, you wont feel guilty if you eliminate all expectations...just be up front and don't front.

October 13, 2011 @ 04:25 AM

D. Rose

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Join Date: Sep 2010

Location: Planet Nars

Thanks y'all

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October 13, 2011 @ 04:34 AM

Udon

Post: 144

Join Date: Sep 2010

Location: W. Hollywood

@ jaythestar

What the fuck did you just say lol?

October 13, 2011 @ 02:36 PM

BOMAYE

Post: 361

Join Date: Jan 2009

Location: K.C MO

How should I approach this girl that I'm kind of diggin at school? I've never innitiated contact with any girls I've talked to and I want her to be the first one that I actively go out and try with. I kind of get the vibe that she likes me a little bit too because she always laughs at my jokes in class even when they're lame and she always smiles at me. I'm just new to the talkin to girls stuff because I used to be kind of socially awkward because I had braces throughout high school, but now I got them off and got more confidence and the girls are flockin in college. I just need some tips on how to come at her so we can start talkin and possible lead it on to something more.

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October 13, 2011 @ 03:47 PM

VOMITSPIT

Post: 2474

Join Date: Apr 2010

Just be you, do that without getting steered towards the friend zone. Get to know her a bit, slowly spend more time with her, eventually more than on a friendship level. That's the only way you can really approach this. Make sure you're confident, without coming off as cocky or a try hard.

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October 15, 2011 @ 12:20 AM

Inactive

Whats the proper way to respond to being stood up? Act like you don't care right?

October 15, 2011 @ 12:24 AM

Pantic

Post: 2282

Join Date: Jan 2010

Location: The basement

No. If you act like you don't care then she will just keep doing it.
If you complain about it she will not change but rather think you are controlling / whatever else girls might feel of negative shit.

The right thing is to punish her for it, not directly ofc. If she stands you up just say like "whatever, i got some friends that wanna hang out anyways" and then act a little cold towards her, not like you don't wanna talk to her or like you are mad. But don't be mr. niceguy when she does things like that. Showing that you are a little unsatisfied but that you can easily get by regardless of her ditching you will make her regret doing it alot more than anything else will.

October 15, 2011 @ 12:28 AM

Inactive

So if she brings it up, I should just say something like "Ok I went out with my friends anyways" something like that right?

may father creez bless you mane you helped me out bruh

October 15, 2011 @ 12:30 AM

$$$$$

Post: 1728

Join Date: May 2011

Location: NY

Just broke up with my gf. Girl i love and she loves me. It's just been hard lately and stuff so i decided to break it up. We are hanging together tonight still and she is taking it way better than I am. It hurts.

October 15, 2011 @ 12:34 AM

Pantic

Post: 2282

Join Date: Jan 2010

Location: The basement

I know that feel power.
Had a perfect anniversary day with my girl last night. We have been fighting alot lately tho, and been on the verge of breakup.
Today i saw her hugging this guy that's been trynna fuck her for very long, and we ended up having yet another fight so finally decided to end it.
I don't know wtf to do with myself right now, or how to cope with the emptyness. Been had bitches but never a relationship like this.. I regret it so much but it is how it is.

October 15, 2011 @ 12:38 AM

Inactive

Alright ima just not talk to her till she decides to hit me up and when she does ill be somewhat cold but not whiny and okay with it

thank u tho foreals may the father above bless u 10x

October 15, 2011 @ 07:38 PM

goldengoose

Post: 1285

Join Date: Feb 2009

Location: LA County

okay so theres this chick at my school that i think is pretty cute
haven't talked to her yet, so that's my first step.
but i keep wondering after introductions, what else is there to say?

October 15, 2011 @ 08:01 PM

Kshawn

Post: 579

Join Date: Sep 2008

Location: Houston, Tx

@goldengoose, Say what ever, thinkin' to much about "what to say" will only make it more difficult to produce a nice flowin' conversation. Just wing it and ask her about herself yada yada -- The basic shit.

It is what it is.

October 15, 2011 @ 08:06 PM

Lemonz ♦

Post: 2657

Join Date: Sep 2011

Location: JA

To add to what Kshawn said, just talk to her for a bit and you'll become more comfortable and confident. Once you've started speaking with her for a while you'll probably figure out that you both have a lot in common, then you can build from there. Just avoid the awkward silence, it really sucks when you're both just standing there with nothing to say.

October 16, 2011 @ 06:12 AM

Relax.

Post: 936

Join Date: Jul 2011

Location: LA

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October 16, 2011 @ 07:12 AM

NoStress

Post: 2064

Join Date: Sep 2010

Location: Shaolin

Girls get busy with stuff and get sidetracked.. that or she's playing hard to get. Either way it shouldn't matter that much. She initiated first with the "(:" so thats a big enough sign she's interested.

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