The Official Relationship, Dating, or Talking Problems/Questions Thread

how to make the girl understand that i just want to smash?
im leaving for the military soon and i aint tryna have a relationship. how do i tell her without telling her that i just want to be friends with benefits?

theres 3 girls feeling me but i wanna smash all. lol
too greedy?

^ Lol, Will. You're in the same spot as my FWB.

It kind of defeats the purpose of being FWBs, doesn't it? Most likely she has somebody on the side (besides you).

yea i know. The youngin in me is like just keep smashing and be on about your business but im tired of that fast lane. Good girls come around once every ten sluts so im tryna keep her to myself.

How to take a friends with beneefits and turn her itno my girl without seeming sprung? (Older chick)

sounds like you're doing it right, but trying f it up. stay the course

yea i know. The youngin in me is like just keep smashing and be on about your business but im tired of that fast lane. Good girls come around once every ten sluts so im tryna keep her to myself.

oh...well check this. as soon as you try to lock it down she gets another fwb to fill your roster position. lot of chicks don't do well with commitment. again...stay the course.

thx for the advice homie

im bascially trying to resort to any help possible now, friends trying to talk to her, people giving me adive, now i turn to hb..

Ok im just gonna start from the beginning where we started having problems.. but before that we were extremely happy and evrything.
but it first started 2 days before high school grad. we were texting and she said she wasnt happy. i asked her why and all that and she just said shes not as happy as she was before and i was like ok? then we text a little more and she ends up saying that she wants to break up. I just started crying. i loved her soo much. i stop texting her and she tried calling me and texting me. i didnt reply. but the texts said like i just need to think it through and im sorry and stuff like that. so i didnt talk to her until right after our graduation. we both caught each others eyes and i signaled her over. i could tell she was trying real hard not to cry. she said shes really sorry.. and i was thinking about how she felt and how sad she was that i would give her a second chance. I told her that and i also said to give me some time to get over al this. She took me out to dinner that night and that made it a little better. But we moved on.. she would bring up that she wasnt happy a couple more times.. i didnt get it cuz i was doing so much for her especially when we were in school.. but once we got out of school it wasnt the same and she just seemed to fade away from me. She started acting rude to me and stuff and time went by until i went over to her house to talk. she said she wants to break up for good. man i was devastated.. she was crying the whole time but she said she still wanted me in her life and that she wanted to be friends..i couldnt handle that. i wanted to be bf and gf. so fast forward a little bit i started to pressure her into getting back together saying that im really sorry and that its gonna be different and all that. you know what anyone would do if they lost someone they love, they would try to get them back. but i was just blinded by love i guess and wasnt thinking straight at the time. i wanted her back so bad. i just kept pressuring her. then my friend told me that she was wrting some crap on facebook and then i asked her about it and she got super mad at me. i kept sending her long texts about how she sholud give me a second chance and that im sorry. its only fair that i get a second chance cuz i gave her one after grad. but it didnt matter to her. i gave her time and space. like a couple weeks then it was her b day. i texted her happy b day and asked her if she wanted to talk now but she didnt want to. man i didnt know what to do. so i gave her more space. its been 2 months since the break up and over a month with no talking at all until i texted her today saying "hey could we get together in person so i can explain myself and apologize?" she said no. and that she doesnt care what i have to say..but before today i was getting one of my friends to talk to her and try to calm her down cuz she wants to remove me from her life and forget me. its not like i cheated on her or anything. i just pressured her into getting back together but i guess that just pushed her away. it fucking sucks. we have been through a lot togther and she means the world to me. I care about her so much and i love her to death. but she wants nothing to do with me at all. I know what i did wrong and i have learned so much from all of this and im not going to make the same mistakes with her but she doesnt care. she doesnt wanna talk or be friends at all. I cant even explain how i feel about her let alone you understand.. i have been crying so much and this time for me has been worse than miserable. i know most of you are gonna tell me to move on but i dont think i can.. im not going to give up on someone i love this much. i know she is being really mean to me but i just want her back and to forgive me and to actually want me again.. ughhh idk..

no

ok i read it. bitches are weird man. just move on...youll find someone right if you keep at it.

whatever man. im not going to give up on someone i love. maybe your to immature or ignorant to understand that. but maybe you will understand one day

thanks zzzboy

ok, dont give up, but at least ask her for a clear cut answer as to why she broke up with you. continue from there.

dont be one of those dudes that everyone laughs at behind his back.

i highly doubt she is ever gonna give me a clear answer. i dont even think she knows. but all she said was she wasnt happy (lamest excuse ever) i mean she was happy about just how i was and on top of that i would always be doin more for her. went to her all fastpitch games, suprised her at some and made her really happy and just took care of her when she was sick. just stuff like that. It just sucks that i have to go through all of this to truly understand what she means to me. like going through hell to get to heaven.. its not like i cheated on her. just kept pressuring her.. but idk man. im gonna give it time and show her that i'll be there for her even though she doesnt want me to and im not gonna give up

AG your not worth it man. just chill.

dude, just move on. seriously, my first girlfriend was exactly like you. she was hella in love with me, and i just broke up with her one day because she was trying to IM me while i was playing counterstrike. just like that. no matter what she could have said, it would have never worked out. i was bored of her, and i was going to college as well. i literally had no good reasons to give her for the breakup.

it sucks, but man up. chasing a girl like that should be so insulting to your pride and dignity. she will always be above you now.

i can tell by your post that this was your first and only serious girlfriend and im willing to bet money that she's the first and only girl youve had sex with. Puppy love is always the most intense man youll get over it son trust me. I know it sounds impossible. Everyone goes through it. As crazy as it sounds, enjoy the heartache while you can homie cause i promise youll never feel the same way about another girl ever again. It only gets easier from here homie.

Im gonna tell you straight like this. Shes not worth it son. Get fucked up, fuck bitches, party hard and live your life. Shell come back around sooner or later trust me. But not until she gets away from you and sees what she had man. And who knows, by then youll probably find someone whos better and youll look at her and be the one telling her to kick rocks. Youre too young to settle down anyway bro live your life.

you're probably way to young to know what love is. move on.



dont ever let a bitch know that she makes you feel this way

i can tell by your post that this was your first and only serious girlfriend and im willing to bet money that she's the first and only girl youve had sex with. Puppy love is always the most intense man youll get over it son trust me. I know it sounds impossible. Everyone goes through it. As crazy as it sounds, enjoy the heartache while you can homie cause i promise youll never feel the same way about another girl ever again. It only gets easier from here homie.

Im gonna tell you straight like this. Shes not worth it son. Get fucked up, fuck bitches, party hard and live your life. Shell come back around sooner or later trust me. But not until she gets away from you and sees what she had man. And who knows, by then youll probably find someone whos better and youll look at her and be the one telling her to kick rocks. Youre too young to settle down anyway bro live your life.

This,sounds like she just got bored of having a puppydog for a boyfriend,don't be so nice next time.Use this breakup as a oppurtunity to change the way you date in the future,become a jerk and I guarantee you'll get more ass than ever before.

i can tell by your post that this was your first and only serious girlfriend and im willing to bet money that she's the first and only girl youve had sex with. Puppy love is always the most intense man youll get over it son trust me. I know it sounds impossible. Everyone goes through it. As crazy as it sounds, enjoy the heartache while you can homie cause i promise youll never feel the same way about another girl ever again. It only gets easier from here homie.

Im gonna tell you straight like this. Shes not worth it son. Get fucked up, fuck bitches, party hard and live your life. Shell come back around sooner or later trust me. But not until she gets away from you and sees what she had man. And who knows, by then youll probably find someone whos better and youll look at her and be the one telling her to kick rocks. Youre too young to settle down anyway bro live your life.

thanks for all the advice everyone. Just cuz she was my first serious gf doesnt mean i dont know anything about love man. im trying to set my mind on college and getting a job and making something of myself and shit. Not into fucking other girls and shit and just partying all the time. Im just not like that but hopefully she will come around sooner or later. I still care about her and I want her to be safe and do the right thing..

What do you guys do to get your confidence to the point where you don't give a fuck/can spit mad game to a girl without being afraid of rejection?

Yes I know alcohol helps, but what else?

stop giving a fuck
whats the worst that could happen?
she says no?
wrong
worst is she says yes, you fall in love, get married, have kids, she starts to hate you, leaves you, and takes half your shit, your house, your cars, your dog, and yo kids
and all your supreme and elk leather

^ Yo, iggy, your posts have been dope/funny so far.

+++rep niggy

thanks for all the advice everyone. Just cuz she was my first serious gf doesnt mean i dont know anything about love man. im trying to set my mind on college and getting a job and making something of myself and shit. Not into fucking other girls and shit and just partying all the time. Im just not like that but hopefully she will come around sooner or later. I still care about her and I want her to be safe and do the right thing..

i see you're a young cat. it's ok to care about someone, but don't put your life on pause if they're trying to do their thing. both of you are entering a point of your life where you get to explore more than you ever have before. spread your wings and be safe! it may just come back around, but if you wait for it life will pass you by.

i see you're a young cat. it's ok to care about someone, but don't put your life on pause if they're trying to do their thing. both of you are entering a point of your life where you get to explore more than you ever have before. spread your wings and be safe! it may just come back around, but if you wait for it life will pass you by.

true. appreciate it mayne.

I know its weird but you cant be too nice to girls esp at her age because they want life experiences not that suburban soccer mom life you've been giving her. Also she is transitioning from H.S. to college and has prolly changed or wanting to change from the person she was and can't do that with you holding her back. Soon you will see theres other women for you when you get cool with some college girls.

Can I be straight up for a minute?

She left you for 2 reasons:

1.) It's college. She's going to fuck guys. No denying it.
2.) You're holding her back.

Yah it just sucks how it happened though. like when she told me she wanted to break up for good she told me she still wanted me in her life and wanted to be friends..but i couldnt handle that and just idk. Pressured her and then she snapped. I should of took the fucking offer of being friends and then i could of had a chance..but i wasnt thinking straight then..fml

One of my main rules is to never be friends with an ex after the break-up.

Shit causes too much trouble. If she breaks up with you, you're probably gonna try and get her back. That'll only push her away from you.

Yah it just sucks how it happened though. like when she told me she wanted to break up for good she told me she still wanted me in her life and wanted to be friends..but i couldnt handle that and just idk. Pressured her and then she snapped. I should of took the fucking offer of being friends and then i could of had a chance..but i wasnt thinking straight then..fml

man

your failing
my du
same shit happened to me on the real
dated a girl for years, had great times, then she wasnt feelin it
i tried and tried to get her to come back, and eventually she took me back, but then broke it off legit

so i was sad for a while
but then i was like fuck that bitch

so i went out and started mackin at hoes, real talk,
like i straight didnt give a fuck, she caught word, and suddenly wanted me back
but i wasnt about to let this ice queen steal my preme' nawwutimsayin?
so shes all lettin me stick it
and i went and smashed this other hoe (its not like i was dating nobody just stickin it)

then this one girl i was was chillin with before that i know was feelin me, got all jealous and went and told my ex i was fuckin the two of em, and i get this bitchout text message and i litereally just replied

"o yea?"

and left it at that

needless to say my ex waited around until i was through with the other hoe and we got back together
but now i wanna kick peoples teeth in on the day to day

i became an angry douche and it seems to work well truth
you gotta be that dick and show that bitch she aint all she thinks she is and shell wonder what kinda next level shit your on and realise her mistake perhaps
but you gotta get that vengance or you will be her puppet for life

real talk

yes sir. thanks for the reply. She is being hella rude so im just gonna let her do her own thing even though i still care for her a lot but im starting college next month. actually its just 2 classes but it will keep me occupied and shit. Still tryin to land a job but i feel like its gonna be soon. So i'll be busy with college and getting paid and just swagging it out or something. Hopefully she can see that and come back to me begging. we will see. Vengeance time!

edit: should i text her and say something like "your loss" or something vengfull like..but not too mean. Just the right amount of shit to get her wondering.. what should i say?

stop giving a fuck
whats the worst that could happen?
she says no?
wrong
worst is she says yes, you fall in love, get married, have kids, she starts to hate you, leaves you, and takes half your shit, your house, your cars, your dog, and yo kids
and all your supreme and elk leather

>

and yeah first cut is the deepest, baby i know
cry it out build a bridge buy supreme and its gets easier from there

should i text her and say something like "your loss" or something vengfull like..but not too mean. Just the right amount of shit to get her wondering.. what should i say?

Don't do/say anything at all.

Ignore her.

Bitch will be running back in no time. Probably after she gets her heart broken by another du.

if i rape my girl and she threatens to call police and hand over my info, should i come clean or dip to canada???