Join Date: Sep 2013
Just had my girlfriend over, again after last night (she went then came over again). She's been being really off lately, saying she's felt really unfulfilled, and that she's having an 'existential crisis'. I got talking to her today, basically saying if you want me to back off for a while, or for good, and let you sort things with yourself, I'm happy to do that, as much as I'll struggle to do so. She didn't seem to give a straight answer, as if she genuinely doesn't know what she wants. We got talking, she said she feels like we've 'settled too quickly', because we joke about marriage and the names of our kids and stuff. Is that abnormal? I mean, we've been together for 3 years, and although it is a joke, it makes me happy because it makes me remember there is a life after what I may not be enjoying currently. She said before me, she was independent and wanted to do so many things, like take a gap year, but then didn't want to because she'd have to break up with me (I'd understand that, I couldn't go a year without her either). All I could really say was that all I've ever tried to do is make her happy, and if something can make her happy without me, I still want her to do it. She just sort of shrugged, and looked at me as if she was about to cry. Then she had to get a bus, we kissed and she left. I'm really worried - I feel like she's under a lot of pressure due to University, and is starting to see me as an inconvenience, and therefore has started to pick out my flaws, and then only sees that of me. I don't want to sound big headed, but I think she'd be making a mistake if she broke up with me, because when we're having a good time together, I've never seen her so happy as she is with me, instead say if she was with her friends. It's just easy to blame your partner for a lot of emotional problems due to a non-primary emotional commitment owed to them. I don't know what I can do really - I absolutely cannot lose this girl. She's amazing.