The Official Relationship, Dating, or Talking Problems/Questions Thread

Jan 01, 2014 @ 18:47
my ex has for the 2nd time (she did it prev years) contacted me at exactly the same time both times even though ive been ignoring her months long for my own sake,no lie i still have some feelings for her even though i try to suppress them and not show her i care/she has a boyfriend now apparently and she told me she's moved on and nothing between us will happen(this was in early 2012 a few months before contacting me and after breaking up-her ooking up with someone else) im thinking of asking her why she bothers contacting me & what she wants from me.i avoid contacting  her first usually and she intitiates messages conversations asking me about life n stuff but doesnt continue and just texts "lmao" or some variation  or some lame answers(tbh i just crack jokes whenever and rarely talk about serious shit with her) im denying myself a partner(commited or not) until i get a new hustle though at the moment and maybe i avoid her/any potential mate so as not to come off as a loser.maybe she's thirsty for attention,thirsty for a fuck or wants a relationship (of which nature idk yet on her part i do know on mine though)
my life be scressing me fam and i dont have any xanax for thatsmh
Jan 03, 2014 @ 18:31
Views on this fam: i was at a party new years with my girl. This dude i didn't know was there too, he had been flirting with her and when i came he stopped the flirting and started sucking up to me big time, i didn't fall for his slick shit and had a good time while ignoring him. Anyways later i dipped and she stayed. Now i found out he had been saying shit like "damn why are you with him" and they had been dancing etc. after i left. - i feel abit petty being mad about it since she didn't cheat or anything but i still feel disrespected. Like honestly fuck her attitude, she dont get why im mad but shes been salty that i've facebook chatted some female friends i've known before her, even when its entirely platonic messages and the girls have had boyfriends too. TL;DR am i a bitch or is she?
Jan 03, 2014 @ 18:43
So flirting going on between your girl and some dude while you're not around. You show up and it stops. You bail and it continues and progresses into dancing? What else she up to when you not around? You got grounds to be a bit salty or at least grounds to have a convo. 
Jan 03, 2014 @ 19:01
I dont think there was much, if any, flirting from her side. But she full on knew the guy was interested and dancing with him when i leave just encourages him and is disrespectful to me. Worst is she cant acknowledge it, when i know she would be mad AF if i had done the same. I mean he even tore her legging thingies apart when trying to dance. SMH at this fuccboi acting all friendly waiting till i leave.
Jan 03, 2014 @ 19:23
I dont think there was much, if any, flirting from her side. But she full on knew the guy was interested and dancing with him when i leave just encourages him and is disrespectful to me. Worst is she cant acknowledge it, when i know she would be mad AF if i had done the same. I mean he even tore her legging thingies apart when trying to dance. SMH at this fuccboi acting all friendly waiting till i leave.
There's a reason why she didn't tell you about it: she doesn't want you to know. Let's be honest, what gf would want her bf to know this shit?

Well, now that you know what happened, be extra cautious. Wait for another slip up. I know it sounds hella vindictive, but if this is happening behind your back (and you had to find out another way), what else can happen?

Good luck, fam.
Jan 03, 2014 @ 21:06
I dont think there was much, if any, flirting from her side. But she full on knew the guy was interested and dancing with him when i leave just encourages him and is disrespectful to me. Worst is she cant acknowledge it, when i know she would be mad AF if i had done the same. I mean he even tore her legging thingies apart when trying to dance. SMH at this fuccboi acting all friendly waiting till i leave.
There's a reason why she didn't tell you about it: she doesn't want you to know. Let's be honest, what gf would want her bf to know this shit?

Well, now that you know what happened, be extra cautious. Wait for another slip up. I know it sounds hella vindictive, but if this is happening behind your back (and you had to find out another way), what else can happen?

Good luck, fam.
No disrespect, but vindictiveness is just being childish. It sounds like OP wants to get shit straight with his girl not to continue to play bullshit games. 

Not much flirting on her side? I'm assuming you came on here for honest advice so lets be honest. Highly doubt that shit was one sided. I guarantee you if some random guy was making unwanted advances at my girl, to the point that he ripped her leggings, she would have gone all hood rat with fists flying. You're making the assumption that what is happening behind your back is purely benign. You should instead be concerned that anything is going on behind your back at all. 
Jan 03, 2014 @ 22:17
pantic
its not extranormal for women to behave like that whether in a committed relationship or not,the extra attention that KTT dude gave her was what she wanted (as any girl would) and that's what lead to them dancing together, idk anything about her but what happened wasn't too weird.it would be very naive of you to think she didn't signal that she enjoyed  the attention or flirt back with the dude ,which is why he continued and they danced,now i'm not one to plant seeds of rot in your brain or paint her in a bad picture but she didn't exactly resist the KTT guy even when he tore her leggings -which in my book is way too far idc if ur body is made of scissors thats just too rough- her not wanting to acknowledge him/their interaction to you is a sign of defence / denial she did anything wrong on her part and also guilting you (her envious feelings could be quite genuine towards u & other girls) is a form of twisting this on you too aside from her own grieviances ,idk why u dipped earlier but i guess u trusted her to be faithful or not fuck up which is fine on it's own but not your fault if she decides to do whatever since you guys have your own trust arrangement (but at the same time i doubt u 2 trust each other fully) anyway i really dont want to be helping in you harvesting doubt in your girl but i feel you need to take off any blinders or naeivity on her/girls in general.
i would talk to her calmly in another setting and lay out that it's unfair that your interactions with your "platonic" girlfriends are criminalised yet her behaviour is bothering you (don't sound insecure on this one)  and you don't appreciate it when she does this and that w/ other dudes since you (as she does) feel disrespected;set boundaries and plan to build trust (if you want to take things forward with her).
as i said idk u or her im just posting based on ur post
relationships should always be about clear communication ,balanced effort and respect from both parties.
good luck

Jan 03, 2014 @ 22:19
Almost every "problem" in this thread can be solved by the following advice:

1- Don't take shit from a woman
2- Don't put her in front of your goals
3- Don't fall for her games/bullshit
4- Don't be scared to lose her
5- Have a few girls you're talking to on the side in case something goes wrong
6- Don't be a bitch
7- Accept that most women are irrational whores and don't be devastated if you lose her
8- Forget about the notion of monogamous unconditional love because it's not real

- AlphaMale approved

www.extremeladyboys.com

Jan 03, 2014 @ 22:21
Almost every "problem" in this thread can be solved by the following advice:

1- Don't take shit from a woman
2- Don't put her in front of your goals
3- Don't fall for her games/bullshit
4- Don't be scared to lose her
5- Have a few girls you're talking to on the side in case something goes wrong
6- Don't be a bitch
7- Accept that most women are irrational whores and don't be devastated if you lose her

- AlphaMale approved
i feel u but i know 1 can falter by only oversimplifying and reducing it to that
to be pedentic 
Jan 04, 2014 @ 00:34
pantic
its not extranormal for women to behave like that whether in a committed relationship or not,the extra attention that KTT dude gave her was what she wanted (as any girl would) and that's what lead to them dancing together, idk anything about her but what happened wasn't too weird.it would be very naive of you to think she didn't signal that she enjoyed  the attention or flirt back with the dude ,which is why he continued and they danced,now i'm not one to plant seeds of rot in your brain or paint her in a bad picture but she didn't exactly resist the KTT guy even when he tore her leggings -which in my book is way too far idc if ur body is made of scissors thats just too rough- her not wanting to acknowledge him/their interaction to you is a sign of defence / denial she did anything wrong on her part and also guilting you (her envious feelings could be quite genuine towards u & other girls) is a form of twisting this on you too aside from her own grieviances ,idk why u dipped earlier but i guess u trusted her to be faithful or not fuck up which is fine on it's own but not your fault if she decides to do whatever since you guys have your own trust arrangement (but at the same time i doubt u 2 trust each other fully) anyway i really dont want to be helping in you harvesting doubt in your girl but i feel you need to take off any blinders or naeivity on her/girls in general.
i would talk to her calmly in another setting and lay out that it's unfair that your interactions with your "platonic" girlfriends are criminalised yet her behaviour is bothering you (don't sound insecure on this one)  and you don't appreciate it when she does this and that w/ other dudes since you (as she does) feel disrespected;set boundaries and plan to build trust (if you want to take things forward with her).
as i said idk u or her im just posting based on ur post
relationships should always be about clear communication ,balanced effort and respect from both parties.
good luck

TLDR but is that you? And if so why is your mother all on you like that?blinkyeyes


Also info on mother?

I like Polo and stuff.

Jan 04, 2014 @ 11:18
she got a drapey pussy
Jan 05, 2014 @ 00:51
what do y'all make of this? 





am i close to being in the friend zone? continue or dip? 


basically i asked her if she had a man and she didn't give me an answer. She responded she didnt have a bf but had some dude she loved. It gotta damn awkward and uncomfortable so i left.  
Jan 05, 2014 @ 03:43
Jan 05, 2014 @ 04:41
starting to seem like it fuck. She gave me the signs she was interested 
Jan 05, 2014 @ 04:49
what do y'all make of this? 





am i close to being in the friend zone? continue or dip? 


basically i asked her if she had a man and she didn't give me an answer. She responded she didnt have a bf but had some dude she loved. It gotta damn awkward and uncomfortable so i left.  
Not a boyfriend but someone she loves? Lmao that most certainly means she's getting dicked down by someone that has a girlfriend & she's waiting her turn until he's single

that FB convo is all I need to see to tell you that you should


Let me see those downvotes

Jan 05, 2014 @ 04:52
I dont think there was much, if any, flirting from her side. But she full on knew the guy was interested and dancing with him when i leave just encourages him and is disrespectful to me. Worst is she cant acknowledge it, when i know she would be mad AF if i had done the same. I mean he even tore her legging thingies apart when trying to dance. SMH at this fuccboi acting all friendly waiting till i leave.
pantic bruh i think ur a closet simp 
dump the bitch and fuck other bitches cmon bruh what are u gunna do marry her , probably not, so ur just wasting each others time 
what are u scared of bein alone 
what is this the notebook

bein edgy aint all its cracked up to be

Jan 06, 2014 @ 06:48
what do y'all make of this? 





am i close to being in the friend zone? continue or dip? 


basically i asked her if she had a man and she didn't give me an answer. She responded she didnt have a bf but had some dude she loved. It gotta damn awkward and uncomfortable so i left.  



Look like i gotta tell the whole story

Me and her are actually childhood friends, she's from France, and I lived in france for a couple of years before moving to the US. My mom always told me that she and i would always play and that I would always kiss and chase after her. Fast forward to today, and I once in a while talk to her on fb since my french isn't too good and her english isn't too good as well. I would always be the one hitting up the conversation and talking. Idk if she's not interested or if she's shy. Fast forward to New Years and she comes and visits with her family. I didn't think she was all that because i'll be honest she didn't look to good online, but she looked way better in present. My fam and her fam go out to eat and shit and I conversate with her and her bro. This makes it difficult because of the language barrier and being that they are from a different country, they'll find some stuff funny but some stuff not funny. Ya boy tried to make her laugh but she aint showin me no love. We finish eating and we dropped them off and they flew back the next day. Ever since then, I know this seems corny af, but she's been on my mind. As you can seen in the convo, it went sour. What should ya boy do? Could she being playing nice since our fams are closed? I don't wanna get friend zoned and i actually want to get to know her better but because she lives far that shit's tough. I don't also wanna act like a dick cause her fam's close to mines too.  Should I continue to talk to her and get to know her better or should i play it cool and lay back? What would y'all do?
Jan 07, 2014 @ 13:18
Doesn't seem that positive bruh, should bail before things turn shitty like having her family visit yours and shit is awkward af... wouldn't want that
Jan 07, 2014 @ 19:49
what do y'all make of this? 





am i close to being in the friend zone? continue or dip? 


basically i asked her if she had a man and she didn't give me an answer. She responded she didnt have a bf but had some dude she loved. It gotta damn awkward and uncomfortable so i left.  



Look like i gotta tell the whole story

Me and her are actually childhood friends, she's from France, and I lived in france for a couple of years before moving to the US. My mom always told me that she and i would always play and that I would always kiss and chase after her. Fast forward to today, and I once in a while talk to her on fb since my french isn't too good and her english isn't too good as well. I would always be the one hitting up the conversation and talking. Idk if she's not interested or if she's shy. Fast forward to New Years and she comes and visits with her family. I didn't think she was all that because i'll be honest she didn't look to good online, but she looked way better in present. My fam and her fam go out to eat and shit and I conversate with her and her bro. This makes it difficult because of the language barrier and being that they are from a different country, they'll find some stuff funny but some stuff not funny. Ya boy tried to make her laugh but she aint showin me no love. We finish eating and we dropped them off and they flew back the next day. Ever since then, I know this seems corny af, but she's been on my mind. As you can seen in the convo, it went sour. What should ya boy do? Could she being playing nice since our fams are closed? I don't wanna get friend zoned and i actually want to get to know her better but because she lives far that shit's tough. I don't also wanna act like a dick cause her fam's close to mines too.  Should I continue to talk to her and get to know her better or should i play it cool and lay back? What would y'all do?
u're childhood friends that r growing apart cuz 1 of u ain't catching feelings,sorry b take the l and chill for a while so many variables and she's not exactly meeting u halfway.
Jan 07, 2014 @ 20:40
I dont think there was much, if any, flirting from her side. But she full on knew the guy was interested and dancing with him when i leave just encourages him and is disrespectful to me. Worst is she cant acknowledge it, when i know she would be mad AF if i had done the same. I mean he even tore her legging thingies apart when trying to dance. SMH at this fuccboi acting all friendly waiting till i leave.
pantic bruh i think ur a closet simp 
dump the bitch and fuck other bitches cmon bruh what are u gunna do marry her , probably not, so ur just wasting each others time 
what are u scared of bein alone 
what is this the notebook
Lmao thats that dumb shit, there's no relationship without things like that, not a single one. So having a girlfriend is being a simp? What the fuck does wasting each others time even mean, so all time spent with a female is wasted unless u cop a ring and invite ur family to church? Bruh you might be a closet virgin.
Jan 07, 2014 @ 21:57
Nah Pantic, There are plenty of "relationships without things like that" but they only exist when you and the people you tend to date have matured enough to be past all the dumb shit... I kinda thought you were past your teen years based on other posts you made but the situation you describe is type high school.
You're a cool poster no disrespect, but your story ends with you asking the question - are you acting like a bitch or is she? The answer is you both are. And even though American Legend sounds like a typical HB forum jamming 15 year old, he makes a good point, fuck is the point of you and your girl dating since you have such little trust for eachother? She's buggin over FB, you're buggin like this other dude is a threat.
Side note: 99% of the issues on here are one of two things, and its usually a combination of both. You guys are HS students who are too young to have a grown ass relationship, and/or you're dating basic bitches.
Jan 07, 2014 @ 22:54
I dont think there was much, if any, flirting from her side. But she full on knew the guy was interested and dancing with him when i leave just encourages him and is disrespectful to me. Worst is she cant acknowledge it, when i know she would be mad AF if i had done the same. I mean he even tore her legging thingies apart when trying to dance. SMH at this fuccboi acting all friendly waiting till i leave.
pantic bruh i think ur a closet simp 
dump the bitch and fuck other bitches cmon bruh what are u gunna do marry her , probably not, so ur just wasting each others time 
what are u scared of bein alone 
what is this the notebook
Lmao thats that dumb shit, there's no relationship without things like that, not a single one. So having a girlfriend is being a simp? What the fuck does wasting each others time even mean, so all time spent with a female is wasted unless u cop a ring and invite ur family to church? Bruh you might be a closet virgin.
i got a view on relationships its just a waste of time if ur under like 25 imo 
dont get angry bruh u simpin

bein edgy aint all its cracked up to be

Jan 07, 2014 @ 23:19
I am over my teens. My posts might seem like it was a big deal, but i was probably salty about it for a good 30 minutes in total. It was never about trust, i already said in the original post that i didn't think she was flirting with him.
My problem is guys trying to be slick when im not around, and my girl not giving him a clear sign to dip, i know guys do this shit all the time, but i want them to know they can't do it to me.
That might be immature, we're all flawed in some way, but it's an ego issue and has nothing to do with simping.

Also AL u can have ur opinion, i don't give a damn, i felt the same way when i was 17.
Jan 07, 2014 @ 23:43
its okay pantic ur gunna be okay

bein edgy aint all its cracked up to be

Jan 07, 2014 @ 23:49
its okay pantic ur gunna be okay
take a big mac and you will feel good.

thats what americans do when they break up. To treat the pain that you feel into your hurt.

they need the fat. do it .
Jan 08, 2014 @ 00:02
Nah Pantic, There are plenty of "relationships without things like that" but they only exist when you and the people you tend to date have matured enough to be past all the dumb shit... I kinda thought you were past your teen years based on other posts you made but the situation you describe is type high school.
You're a cool poster no disrespect, but your story ends with you asking the question - are you acting like a bitch or is she? The answer is you both are. And even though American Legend sounds like a typical HB forum jamming 15 year old, he makes a good point, fuck is the point of you and your girl dating since you have such little trust for eachother? She's buggin over FB, you're buggin like this other dude is a threat.
Side note: 99% of the issues on here are one of two things, and its usually a combination of both. You guys are HS students who are too young to have a grown ass relationship, and/or you're dating basic bitches.
why does everyone think im so young smh 
im a world class writer  check out my post  http://breadboye.com/?p=805

bein edgy aint all its cracked up to be

Jan 08, 2014 @ 00:15
I lol'd at this story. You bein real fam? 

... Anyway... The cure for break ups is always getting with one of the other fish in the sea try to help a mother fucker get em chillin around new females.
Yea man I'm dead ass.We went to my bro crib on new years or what ever.There was some chicks there but he wasn't even trying to hit on them.Its so weird because for as long as I can remember, since we were teens, he would jump on every chick that caught his eye lol.He not really tripping about the broad any more, but I think that shit definitely changed him, in regards to how he look at women.. 

@ Pantic, the song he told me to listen to was Swinging. I just assumed that was how most of the album was I didn't listen to most of the songs yet. 
Jan 08, 2014 @ 09:36
i havent talked to my ex in 2 years.

been thinking about her lately, should i try to reconnect with her or nah? what y'all think 

hansum is 4ever

Jan 08, 2014 @ 16:35
^Why not? I like staying on good terms with exs and if you been off 2 years theres nothing to lose.
Jan 08, 2014 @ 17:29
Is it weird for me to still think about my ex even if it's been a year since our break-up? We had a 2+ year relationship.

But even then, I don't talk to any of my exes. If it ever came to talking to them, I would strictly use them for sex. Judge me.
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