You don't need a new chick. That will not solve the problem unless she is better than the last chick; even if that is the case, the same thing will happen after that relationship ends and you will be in the same place. I went through this myself. The problem you need to address is not extrinsic, but within you (not to get all transcendental, but shit...)
Its going to be 2 months on November 6 since my breakup, and I still think about my ex every second of every day and miss her and check up on her twitter and stuff.you answered your own question, wtf is wrong with you is that you havent moved on.
She hasn't tried to contact me once and she's clearly moved on, but I haven't. WTF is wrong with me.
Agree with those saying you need a new chick. you only think the old one is so great cuz ur mentally hung up on her its not that she is literally SOOO BEAUTIFUL or any shit like that its all an illusion.
The assessment of the others is correct in that you still haven't moved on. I wrote a brief summary of my 3/21 day rule above that you can check out. After you accept you've moved on, you need to cut out all the social media stalking. You need to remove any reminders of this chick that might trigger any emotional memories.
Besides letting go, you need to reassess your own life and lifestyle. Be honest with yourself. I find that myself and others that have gotten hung up on chicks are guilty of using women and love to fill a gap in our lives. It's an easy way to give your life meaning in the face of an uncertain, unforgiving world.
What are your career goals? What are your values? What are your insecurities (how can you address them - or accept them)? Who are you?
At the end of the day, no real woman is going to want to be and stay with you unless you have these questions answered. And by the time you have them answered, you'd never act like this again. It's a process that takes a lifetime of discovery however. It's not like you won't ever get rejected again, but you will be able to deal better with the circumstances.
Thanks man and everyone. I appreciate your words and I am definitely trying to use them. I just want to type...
I did not use her to fill any voids. I just turned 22 and am already working off Wall Street. I have a great family, great friends and everything I could ever ask for. With that being said, at the end of the day, all I cared about was her. All I wanted was her. I was/am/idk truly in love with her. Before dating she was my best friend. Hanging out 24/7, before we ever hooked up or had feelings for each other. Telling each other every little detail about every day. Then we started fucking and I laid down the law saying that we can't catch feelings. I did. She did. We started dating. Life was amazing.
She was my true love / best friend / the only person I wanted to even look at. Now all I have are all of the things that I previously mentioned. And people would kill for that, but at the end of the day I would have traded all of that for her.
I know I'm on one, simping to the nth degree, but it is what it is. And I know I'll have no problem finding a chick who will love me through anything, but for now at least, nothing is right.
EDIT: And believe me I'm trying to move on, because some how, SOME HOW, this girl is so cold that she doesn't care. And I know I wasn't the only one feeling what I just wrote because she did too, and she made it known to not only me, but her parents, grandparents, girlfriends. Everyone. IDK what snapped. I guess I never will, and hopefully soon, I won't care.