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September 24, 2013 @ 07:40 PM
dmwalking

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question for my niggas, how big of a red flag is it on a girl who's been in a lot of in and out relationships. I wouldnt say she's a hoe, but is she the type of girl who dips a nigga once she see's  a better nigga?
That's a big red flag.  Don't get attached.  Just enjoy the ride.  And when she dips just laugh like, oh I didn't even know we were dating. LOL.  It'll have her feeling mad dumb.  Just be prepared for her to be mad about that cuz she's gonna feel like a pop off.  

guy on some broke bus. Love, Sosa. "Don't feed the trolls" initiative coming soon. We can rebuild.

September 25, 2013 @ 12:17 AM
JEANPAULDAVINCI

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TBH i barely know her, she's been out with a couple of dudes i know but i wouldnt consider them friends. I think she's in a relationship right now but im not sure. Hit or dip?
September 25, 2013 @ 12:19 AM
kbos

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why don't you hit and dip then?
September 25, 2013 @ 12:25 AM
JEANPAULDAVINCI

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why don't you hit and dip then?

teach me kbos

but nah i dont think she's the type of girl that'll let some random nigga hit and dip. Worth a try but i dont wanna put myself in that place where i end up in a relationship and she dip me for another nigga
September 25, 2013 @ 12:44 AM
Lethal Interjection

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Location: LA County lol

Need help fam
Met this chick at the end of summer vacation coming into senior yr of hs
We both know that we go to the same school and we talked a little bout upcoming class and whatever
School starts and we both ended up in two classes together
Then the first week i decided to hit her up on fb and added her and shit... Yeah so since that first week we've been talking on fb almost every night sometimes to like 1 am on like a wednesday idk
So heres the problem.... Forgive me if im simpin but fuckkk it...
Im kinda shy talking to people i dont really know muxh and so is she kinda 
Yeah and the spot where she kicks it at is next to mine
Soooo what should i do to get closer to her? I mean weve talked to each other and when we do i get really shy and so does she...... When we talk I feel like she kinda likes me..,, and dont get me wrong im pretty positive that im not in the friend zone or else why would i catch her turning her head to look at me a bunch of times. But i need some way to hang out wit her but its really cause she does sport... My bad for making this shit disorganized but I need help fam. How should i go talk to her? how can we get closer? What should i do?

Never buying Nike again, until they upgrade quality to an extent that I would get my money's worth

September 25, 2013 @ 01:07 AM
Laurence of Arabia

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I've been focussing a lot on myself, my career,my family etc and just ensuring I have two feet on the ground for myself to progress well in life. Things are great, and I feel now's the time to mingle, get out of my comfort zone and meet someone maybe. 

The problem is, theres no one in my social circle Im really interested in (long term) as on the deepest level we are fundamentally different. I wanna meet new women outside my area. How would you suggest for me to broaden my horizons/ prospects ? I have 0 issue with talking to girls and I am confident etc. The problem I have is, the women immediate to me or further in my circle, as I mentioned before aren't what Im truly looking for.

Is there such a thing as having too high a standard ? I dont want to settle for less, but at the same time, sometimes I feel Im extremely picky..I know exactly what I want, but its hard to find.
September 25, 2013 @ 01:52 AM
dmwalking

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why don't you hit and dip then?

teach me kbos

but nah i dont think she's the type of girl that'll let some random nigga hit and dip. Worth a try but i dont wanna put myself in that place where i end up in a relationship and she dip me for another nigga
Dog, you just gotta let her think she's your girl.  All the benefits. None of the attachment. 

guy on some broke bus. Love, Sosa. "Don't feed the trolls" initiative coming soon. We can rebuild.

September 25, 2013 @ 04:58 PM
dmwalking

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Location: New England

Need help fam
Met this chick at the end of summer vacation coming into senior yr of hs
We both know that we go to the same school and we talked a little bout upcoming class and whatever
School starts and we both ended up in two classes together
Then the first week i decided to hit her up on fb and added her and shit... Yeah so since that first week we've been talking on fb almost every night sometimes to like 1 am on like a wednesday idk
So heres the problem.... Forgive me if im simpin but fuckkk it...
Im kinda shy talking to people i dont really know muxh and so is she kinda 
Yeah and the spot where she kicks it at is next to mine
Soooo what should i do to get closer to her? I mean weve talked to each other and when we do i get really shy and so does she...... When we talk I feel like she kinda likes me..,, and dont get me wrong im pretty positive that im not in the friend zone or else why would i catch her turning her head to look at me a bunch of times. But i need some way to hang out wit her but its really cause she does sport... My bad for making this shit disorganized but I need help fam. How should i go talk to her? how can we get closer? What should i do?
It's like getting into a cold pool.  If you go in slow, it's harder.  If you just jump in head first, sure it's uncomfortable at first, but eventually you get used to it and you can just enjoy yourself.

All you gotta do is go for it.  The worst thing to fear is rejection (which doesn't kill you).  Plus that's a seed planted. So later in the year, when she's lonely, she's gonna remember that you were interested and try to holler.  So you really have little to lose. 

She's into sports?  Meet her after practice with some gatorade or something.  "Whatchu getting into after practice?"

It's not that hard.  "Oh I'm a go chill with my friends."  "Is it cool if I roll with you?  Wanna grab some food on our way?"  
I mean, I don't know your money/transportation situation, but seriously, when you show up to somebody's crib as a tag along, always come bearing gifts. Green, food, drinks, snacks, It's not hard man. You just gotta do it. 

guy on some broke bus. Love, Sosa. "Don't feed the trolls" initiative coming soon. We can rebuild.

September 25, 2013 @ 11:37 PM
Lethal Interjection

Post: 958

Join Date: Nov 2012

Location: LA County lol

Need help fam
Met this chick at the end of summer vacation coming into senior yr of hs
We both know that we go to the same school and we talked a little bout upcoming class and whatever
School starts and we both ended up in two classes together
Then the first week i decided to hit her up on fb and added her and shit... Yeah so since that first week we've been talking on fb almost every night sometimes to like 1 am on like a wednesday idk
So heres the problem.... Forgive me if im simpin but fuckkk it...
Im kinda shy talking to people i dont really know muxh and so is she kinda 
Yeah and the spot where she kicks it at is next to mine
Soooo what should i do to get closer to her? I mean weve talked to each other and when we do i get really shy and so does she...... When we talk I feel like she kinda likes me..,, and dont get me wrong im pretty positive that im not in the friend zone or else why would i catch her turning her head to look at me a bunch of times. But i need some way to hang out wit her but its really cause she does sport... My bad for making this shit disorganized but I need help fam. How should i go talk to her? how can we get closer? What should i do?
It's like getting into a cold pool.  If you go in slow, it's harder.  If you just jump in head first, sure it's uncomfortable at first, but eventually you get used to it and you can just enjoy yourself.

All you gotta do is go for it.  The worst thing to fear is rejection (which doesn't kill you).  Plus that's a seed planted. So later in the year, when she's lonely, she's gonna remember that you were interested and try to holler.  So you really have little to lose. 

She's into sports?  Meet her after practice with some gatorade or something.  "Whatchu getting into after practice?"

It's not that hard.  "Oh I'm a go chill with my friends."  "Is it cool if I roll with you?  Wanna grab some food on our way?"  
I mean, I don't know your money/transportation situation, but seriously, when you show up to somebody's crib as a tag along, always come bearing gifts. Green, food, drinks, snacks, It's not hard man. You just gotta do it. 
Thanks bro,appreciate the advice, i think ill try it

Never buying Nike again, until they upgrade quality to an extent that I would get my money's worth

September 27, 2013 @ 01:42 AM
LostJem

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       Man I was scared for a second. But at the same time I got the nuts to own up to my responsibility but relieved to get this text haha 

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September 28, 2013 @ 05:01 AM
BOOSE

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       Man I was scared for a second. But at the same time I got the nuts to own up to my responsibility but relieved to get this text haha 
you sus

"My niggas take no like Kobe".

October 3, 2013 @ 04:40 PM
LostJem

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anyways guys im in a bit of a situation. cannot provide pics at the moment of said female.

i have a co worker who basically wants me. 

i jokingly would flirt with her and shit. she calls me juicy J..

LOL anyways so i told her lemme get them digits and shit.

i texted her the next day hit her up just to talk. progressing with the convo basically started escalating when she was saying closing can kiss her booty. i jokingly said ohh i wanna get a taste of that too.

and she was like you can ;) i want you to holla at me boo all this fucking nonsense.

kinda went with it saying ohh yeah girl ima fuck you and all this shit and 

forreal i aint tryna hit it at all i dont even have interest in her whatsoever or even am considering dating her like she may think. shes my co worker and im just not with that drama.

with that all said i aint really tryna cheat on my girlfriend but wouldnt mind going up between some new legs just a sample or get some head. 

what would HB fam do?

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October 3, 2013 @ 09:16 PM
dmwalking

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Location: New England



forreal i aint tryna hit it at all i dont even have interest in her whatsoever or even am considering 
You answered your own question. 

guy on some broke bus. Love, Sosa. "Don't feed the trolls" initiative coming soon. We can rebuild.

October 7, 2013 @ 02:21 PM
tiberius93

Post: 246

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Location: Australia

I got a girl At the moment and we only been seeing each other for like 2 months but she's super clingy and it's getting too much, I've said I need space but she always wants to see me and I don't feel the same, what should I do hb fam?

Never broke up with someone before but thinkin that's how it's gonna go

UFO's and Paradiddles.

October 8, 2013 @ 10:43 AM
blutspender

Post: 146

Join Date: May 2011

Location: Mainz, Germany

Broke up with my girlfriend of almost five years yesterday due to not feeling any love anymore. I felt my emotions for her slipping away for the last half year, and decided to tell her the truth and be completely honest to her and break up instead of pretending to be in love when I'm not anymore and faking feelings. I knew this breakup would leave me feel hurt because of course I still do care for her, still like her and share so many amazing moments with her and I don't want to see her hurt. Due to conversations we've had I had thought she secretly felt the same about us and that it was an unspoken truth between us that we had grown apart, so I had hoped the breakup wouldn't hurt her as much. It turns out I broke her heart and that she in her mind already saw as as husband and wife. She thanked me for being honest and for telling her and for the amazing time but that she's now standing in front of the man of her life that doesn't love her. I anticipated this shit being complicated and hurting and I anticipated feeling guilty after the breakup and regretting it, but I didn't think it would be that hard. I feel like maybe I was too egoistical and could have just swallowed up my pride and "get myself to love her again", but I know this might just be some post-breakup-bullshit. 
The worst thing is not only having to leave my girlfriend but also losing my best friend. I answered every of her questions, was completely honest to her, cried for the first time in about 10 years and stayed for about an hour because I wanted to make this as easy as possible for her. She than threw me out, telling me she hated me (though I'm sure that was some caught in the moment bullshit, I guess she somehow can't accept the fact that there isn't a real "reason" like an incident that drove us apart, instead it just happened, my emotions for her went missing), leaving me without a proper goodbye. I somehow want her to know that she could always phone me or meet me and that I miss her (just not in a "I love you"-kind of way) but I think telling her that now would make things even worse and hurtful for her. The whole morning at work I've been staring at my phone, seeing her go on and offline, not knowing what to do. This shit sucks and hurts. 
Give me advice, how to behave after such a breakup, cheer me up, skip this text, I don't know, I just felt like writing this down. Thank you
October 8, 2013 @ 10:49 AM
Shin.1973

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^first off how old r u?
October 8, 2013 @ 10:55 AM
blutspender

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Location: Mainz, Germany

23. She's 21.
October 8, 2013 @ 11:23 AM
Shin.1973

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I dont blame u for not having anymore feelings for her. Rarely in modern days do such happy endings occur. The most important part for u now is to uphold ur composure and realize plus accept the fact that you're leaving behind your school days. Now you're going to be a working adult soon. Go and explore the limitless capabilities of your mind. There r so many things u can do to take ur mind off her.
October 8, 2013 @ 12:35 PM
reggan

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Damn b, that's a tough one! Just keep on spending alot of time with friends and family. 

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October 8, 2013 @ 01:53 PM
kbos

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Location: boston

Broke up with my girlfriend of almost five years yesterday due to not feeling any love anymore. I felt my emotions for her slipping away for the last half year, and decided to tell her the truth and be completely honest to her and break up instead of pretending to be in love when I'm not anymore and faking feelings. I knew this breakup would leave me feel hurt because of course I still do care for her, still like her and share so many amazing moments with her and I don't want to see her hurt. Due to conversations we've had I had thought she secretly felt the same about us and that it was an unspoken truth between us that we had grown apart, so I had hoped the breakup wouldn't hurt her as much. It turns out I broke her heart and that she in her mind already saw as as husband and wife. She thanked me for being honest and for telling her and for the amazing time but that she's now standing in front of the man of her life that doesn't love her. I anticipated this shit being complicated and hurting and I anticipated feeling guilty after the breakup and regretting it, but I didn't think it would be that hard. I feel like maybe I was too egoistical and could have just swallowed up my pride and "get myself to love her again", but I know this might just be some post-breakup-bullshit. 
The worst thing is not only having to leave my girlfriend but also losing my best friend. I answered every of her questions, was completely honest to her, cried for the first time in about 10 years and stayed for about an hour because I wanted to make this as easy as possible for her. She than threw me out, telling me she hated me (though I'm sure that was some caught in the moment bullshit, I guess she somehow can't accept the fact that there isn't a real "reason" like an incident that drove us apart, instead it just happened, my emotions for her went missing), leaving me without a proper goodbye. I somehow want her to know that she could always phone me or meet me and that I miss her (just not in a "I love you"-kind of way) but I think telling her that now would make things even worse and hurtful for her. The whole morning at work I've been staring at my phone, seeing her go on and offline, not knowing what to do. This shit sucks and hurts. 
Give me advice, how to behave after such a breakup, cheer me up, skip this text, I don't know, I just felt like writing this down. Thank you

I know how hard it is to break up with someone after dating them for that long. I just broke up with my ex who I dated for 4 years in august and I always loved her and always will because shes an awesome woman I just don't think I was in love anymore. When you're with someone for that long it obviously was a happy time for a long time and you made so many memories and appreciate a lot about that person. First thing too remember is, regardless of how it goes, time heals everything when it comes to lost relationships, and also at least your conscious is clear. In my situation I had been thinking of breaking up with my girl, and I started having sex with someone else and it was too much guilt so I knew I had to tell her I was cheating or break up with her and have a fresh start on my conscious. That said, I always recommend having a plan b chick on deck for break ups its a good distraction and keeps your needs satisfied. The other thing is, you can still be friends with your ex, she doesn't mean all that I hate you shit. I still chill with my ex and it goes well, although it definitely delays the moving on process. Look at the break up like this, you can still be friends and enjoy having her in your life as a loyal person you can trust and talk too, and if its meant too be and things align that way you'll have the option of getting back together. A break up after a long time is a fresh start and it will help you both clear up your perspectives. A lot of people can't properly address their short comings in their relationships until they can step out of the relationship and reflect back.

That said im in a weird spot because I have a new thang whose real fione and cool as fuck but I realize when I see my ex I still have feels for her, and some how it fucks around with my happy feels game. I hoping time will work all that out by itself.
October 8, 2013 @ 02:02 PM
kbos

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Location: boston

I got a girl At the moment and we only been seeing each other for like 2 months but she's super clingy and it's getting too much, I've said I need space but she always wants to see me and I don't feel the same, what should I do hb fam?


Never broke up with someone before but thinkin that's how it's gonna go

Tell her the truth man up with it and tell her what you told us but in more gentle words, then be like im sorry its not going to work out I enjoyed our time together though.
October 8, 2013 @ 02:06 PM
kbos

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Location: boston

anyways guys im in a bit of a situation. cannot provide pics at the moment of said female.

i have a co worker who basically wants me. 

i jokingly would flirt with her and shit. she calls me juicy J..

LOL anyways so i told her lemme get them digits and shit.

i texted her the next day hit her up just to talk. progressing with the convo basically started escalating when she was saying closing can kiss her booty. i jokingly said ohh i wanna get a taste of that too.

and she was like you can ;) i want you to holla at me boo all this fucking nonsense.

kinda went with it saying ohh yeah girl ima fuck you and all this shit and 

forreal i aint tryna hit it at all i dont even have interest in her whatsoever or even am considering dating her like she may think. shes my co worker and im just not with that drama.

with that all said i aint really tryna cheat on my girlfriend but wouldnt mind going up between some new legs just a sample or get some head. 

what would HB fam do?

You obviously aren't really bout that but the attention is flattering and nice and the flirting is fun and exciting. Fucking her sounds more messy than its worth you said yourself youre not even really bout it.
October 8, 2013 @ 04:16 PM
boba

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dmwalking how do you meet females?

big homie knows his shit
October 8, 2013 @ 04:27 PM
kbos

Post: 2676

Join Date: May 2008

Location: boston

^
One huge thing is don't make a situation meeting a female forced, or do some wack hitting on or something. Shit is creepy. Put yourself in the right situation to spark up a conversation and gauge the females reaction. You gotta know what works for you personally, be easy to talk to and know your good qualities and exuberate those. Its important to be confident and comfortable in your own skin.
October 8, 2013 @ 05:09 PM
blutspender

Post: 146

Join Date: May 2011

Location: Mainz, Germany

Broke up with my girlfriend of almost five years yesterday due to not feeling any love anymore. I felt my emotions for her slipping away for the last half year, and decided to tell her the truth and be completely honest to her and break up instead of pretending to be in love when I'm not anymore and faking feelings. I knew this breakup would leave me feel hurt because of course I still do care for her, still like her and share so many amazing moments with her and I don't want to see her hurt. Due to conversations we've had I had thought she secretly felt the same about us and that it was an unspoken truth between us that we had grown apart, so I had hoped the breakup wouldn't hurt her as much. It turns out I broke her heart and that she in her mind already saw as as husband and wife. She thanked me for being honest and for telling her and for the amazing time but that she's now standing in front of the man of her life that doesn't love her. I anticipated this shit being complicated and hurting and I anticipated feeling guilty after the breakup and regretting it, but I didn't think it would be that hard. I feel like maybe I was too egoistical and could have just swallowed up my pride and "get myself to love her again", but I know this might just be some post-breakup-bullshit. 
The worst thing is not only having to leave my girlfriend but also losing my best friend. I answered every of her questions, was completely honest to her, cried for the first time in about 10 years and stayed for about an hour because I wanted to make this as easy as possible for her. She than threw me out, telling me she hated me (though I'm sure that was some caught in the moment bullshit, I guess she somehow can't accept the fact that there isn't a real "reason" like an incident that drove us apart, instead it just happened, my emotions for her went missing), leaving me without a proper goodbye. I somehow want her to know that she could always phone me or meet me and that I miss her (just not in a "I love you"-kind of way) but I think telling her that now would make things even worse and hurtful for her. The whole morning at work I've been staring at my phone, seeing her go on and offline, not knowing what to do. This shit sucks and hurts. 
Give me advice, how to behave after such a breakup, cheer me up, skip this text, I don't know, I just felt like writing this down. Thank you

I know how hard it is to break up with someone after dating them for that long. I just broke up with my ex who I dated for 4 years in august and I always loved her and always will because shes an awesome woman I just don't think I was in love anymore. When you're with someone for that long it obviously was a happy time for a long time and you made so many memories and appreciate a lot about that person. First thing too remember is, regardless of how it goes, time heals everything when it comes to lost relationships, and also at least your conscious is clear. In my situation I had been thinking of breaking up with my girl, and I started having sex with someone else and it was too much guilt so I knew I had to tell her I was cheating or break up with her and have a fresh start on my conscious. That said, I always recommend having a plan b chick on deck for break ups its a good distraction and keeps your needs satisfied. The other thing is, you can still be friends with your ex, she doesn't mean all that I hate you shit. I still chill with my ex and it goes well, although it definitely delays the moving on process. Look at the break up like this, you can still be friends and enjoy having her in your life as a loyal person you can trust and talk too, and if its meant too be and things align that way you'll have the option of getting back together. A break up after a long time is a fresh start and it will help you both clear up your perspectives. A lot of people can't properly address their short comings in their relationships until they can step out of the relationship and reflect back.

That said im in a weird spot because I have a new thang whose real fione and cool as fuck but I realize when I see my ex I still have feels for her, and some how it fucks around with my happy feels game. I hoping time will work all that out by itself.
Thank you for posting this, I appreciate your words. Your posts are always so helpful and what you said helps me not falling into the trap of could have beens and should have beens and what if I was wrongs (which is why I had hoped you'd answer to this thread).
I really hope to reconnect with her once time passed because - as you said - I would enjoy having her in my life as a loyal friend with the option of getting back together should things pan out that way. I do fear the "ex fucking up my happy feels game"-thing you described though.
October 8, 2013 @ 05:53 PM
kbos

Post: 2676

Join Date: May 2008

Location: boston

^
The only reason my ex is fucking up my happy feels is cuz it feels uncomfortable to have feelings for two people at the same time, its not the same is banging two chicks you don't care about for example. Like I said its going to be hard no matter what just keep a positive outlook and remind yourself you broke up for a reason. Wudda Cudda shudda is pointless, if everyone could revisit their wudda cudda shuddas we'd all be rich and happy, but real life is hard, and the beautiful thing of it is those hardships build character, youre always learning even when you don't know it, this experience is going to be valuable for you and help you grow as a man. People only really get into a cycle of fucking up when they get stuck in a cycle of fear and irrationality, and the common trend in those people is they never self reflect and work on improving themselves.

With relationships and shit like that I like to give heads on here advice cuz honestly i don't really believe in the way society suggests break ups and relationships should work. People think its mad weird that i broke up with my ex and stayed on good terms and kept chilling with her, why is that? Fuck the typical, stay together until you can't even interact properly and the resentment is through the roof, I think you made the right choice my man you kept it real and a lotta men are too pussy to keep it real that shit will serve you well in the future and your ex will remember and appreciate that if shes really worth being in your life.

Edit: But I should warn keeping an ex in your life is a choice that does reduce the speed of moving on. I wouldn't advise chilling all the time or talking every day or some shit like that. I mean like stay in touch and chill once a month or something. But thats just me you'll do fine on your own path.
October 8, 2013 @ 08:27 PM
dmwalking

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Location: New England

dmwalking how do you meet females?

big homie knows his shit
How did I used to meet females, you mean. LOL. I'm in a long term committed situation.  I'm honestly pretty anti social too. I was always more about quality over quantity.  But I def had my mean streak when I was baggin and taggin. 

But how I used to meet females?  In general, the easy way is to meet friends of friends/acquaintances. Link up with old friends that I lost touch with.  They usually get involved in new social circles which means more women.  It's always easier to get a girl when she knows your friend or knows someone who knows your friend.  Not sure why it works like that.  It's like, when you meet a total stranger, you're starting at 0%.   When you meet someone through a friend, or friend of a friend, it's like you start at 30%-50%.  Their guard is a lot lower and you guys are already in a social setting so it already has them open to social interaction. Much easier than starting cold and walking up to a girl in a club, mall, campus, street setting.

I met some through my hobbies too.  Through my hobbies I met new people. Those people know other people (females). You hang with them, and you meet others.  It's not hard.  

In cold call situations it's lower percentage. You're starting at 0% like I said.   Cold call success is legit based on how attractive you are to the shorty. If your handsome levels are not enough to bring you up to the 50% line, it's just not going to happen at all.  Also, it depends on how social or introverted she naturally is.   I

But then there are sub sets of types.  Like social snob.  You gotta look like the cool kids to talk to her.  Generally she's corny though. Social secure is more like, you gotta just be on point and have high confidence to equal her confidence. She's worth your time and likely is fun to chill with.  Social insecure is easy. She'll do anything for your approval.  Introverted insecure is really shy. She'll also be very malleable.  Introverted confident is like OD difficult.  You can look like Adonis and she'll still cold shoulder you cuz she isn't very trusting and open to new people like that.  Introverted snob is more like hipster chicks so you also have to fit a certain mold to get their attention. 

You gotta be good at determining their type up front (by the way, never call it out "oh you're a type whatever"....women don't like that).   But when starting at 0% you just gotta start by saying hi.  Hey. How are you?  It's not that hard. Just know that your odds are lower.  Know that you gotta have your appearance and confidence on point.  Then, once you determine their type, flow with that.   Try to avoid snobby chicks and you'll be straight.  Recognize that cold calling (outside of the club with sober women) is generally lower percentage and you'll be straight.

Personally, though, I've always preferred the social circles approach. It increases the likelihood of me catching a girl that's more my type.   Like I said, I'm pretty anti social, so my inclination when I'm out in public was rarely "I'm tryina holler."  Only really did that in social situations when I was in a social mood. 

guy on some broke bus. Love, Sosa. "Don't feed the trolls" initiative coming soon. We can rebuild.

October 8, 2013 @ 08:40 PM
dmwalking

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Post: 3320

Join Date: Aug 2007

Location: New England

Broke up with my girlfriend of almost five years yesterday due to not feeling any love anymore. I felt my emotions for her slipping away for the last half year, and decided to tell her the truth and be completely honest to her and break up instead of pretending to be in love when I'm not anymore and faking feelings. I knew this breakup would leave me feel hurt because of course I still do care for her, still like her and share so many amazing moments with her and I don't want to see her hurt. Due to conversations we've had I had thought she secretly felt the same about us and that it was an unspoken truth between us that we had grown apart, so I had hoped the breakup wouldn't hurt her as much. It turns out I broke her heart and that she in her mind already saw as as husband and wife. She thanked me for being honest and for telling her and for the amazing time but that she's now standing in front of the man of her life that doesn't love her. I anticipated this shit being complicated and hurting and I anticipated feeling guilty after the breakup and regretting it, but I didn't think it would be that hard. I feel like maybe I was too egoistical and could have just swallowed up my pride and "get myself to love her again", but I know this might just be some post-breakup-bullshit. 
The worst thing is not only having to leave my girlfriend but also losing my best friend. I answered every of her questions, was completely honest to her, cried for the first time in about 10 years and stayed for about an hour because I wanted to make this as easy as possible for her. She than threw me out, telling me she hated me (though I'm sure that was some caught in the moment bullshit, I guess she somehow can't accept the fact that there isn't a real "reason" like an incident that drove us apart, instead it just happened, my emotions for her went missing), leaving me without a proper goodbye. I somehow want her to know that she could always phone me or meet me and that I miss her (just not in a "I love you"-kind of way) but I think telling her that now would make things even worse and hurtful for her. The whole morning at work I've been staring at my phone, seeing her go on and offline, not knowing what to do. This shit sucks and hurts. 
Give me advice, how to behave after such a breakup, cheer me up, skip this text, I don't know, I just felt like writing this down. Thank you
My advice: it's selfish to hold onto something you don't love.  She sounds like a great girl. She sounds like she should be loved, right?  You did the right thing.  Now, stay away from her.  Cuz to you it might be like, yeah it's cool to still be around each other and not love.  She doesn't feel that way.  She saw you as her husband, b. You ain't her ex boyfriend like that.  So if you care about her, don't contact her.  You gotta give her time to get you out her system altogether. And if it's meant to be, somehow life will bring you back together.  I'm not saying this on some simpy feelings.  I'm saying from experience.

Good luck. 

guy on some broke bus. Love, Sosa. "Don't feed the trolls" initiative coming soon. We can rebuild.

October 8, 2013 @ 08:51 PM
adam5

Post: 769

Join Date: Apr 2012

Location: l.a

damn that was a good post dmwalking.

Time to vent:
I've been through constants up and downs with my now current ex girlfriend for the past 2 years. I went on one date and and fucked one girl during the off time, about a year ago for the date and half a year a girl for the hookup. Both incidents she found out about. Both were during when were completely off and were not on speaking terms for at least a 3 week span.

She obviously still has feelings for me because she still tells me how much she hates me and how much she cares for me (both on different occasions depending on her mood), and she'll also be in moods where she cares and that's usually when im upset about her always giving me shit, but usually she's always letting me know how i hurt her and how big of a piece of shit i am. And we've been in good terms from august to early september  and we had sex and did all that relationship stuff etc, even after she found me hooking up with another girl. and then she found some bullshit reason to get upset and me and now I'm here fucking hating my situation by wasting time on her trying to make it work.

I just really want to move on and but it seems like a complete hassle to try to find new girls, I've tried a couple times and nothing has gone anywhere with these girls and then i just go back to trying to make things work with my ex, in which they never workout either, thus enabling mine and hers on and off relationship (this has been the case for the past year). I care about my ex but everything is ruined with me and her and i dont think it could ever work.

And i was on a mean streak during 2011 before i met her in august 2011, like i was dating 3-4 diffrent chicks and now i can't even find a single one to date lol. How do i go about trying to move on?

Shed me some advice hb fam
October 8, 2013 @ 08:57 PM
dmwalking

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Post: 3320

Join Date: Aug 2007

Location: New England

My advice?  Leave your ex as your ex.   It sounds like it's something she'll never let go of and will keep bringing up every so often to guilt trip you or to use as leverage in an argument she's losing.  That's unfair, immature, and just childish.  Either she lets it go and never brings it up again, or just leave her alone and avoid the current and future headaches. 

guy on some broke bus. Love, Sosa. "Don't feed the trolls" initiative coming soon. We can rebuild.


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