Damn, this got me thinking. I'm gonna try the subtle touching next time I see her. Although I'm not sure I can be sensual right off the bat since it will probably be in front of some of her family members and that might not look too good (she lives at home). They're Jamaican and pretty damn strict from what she tells me. But I'm thinking maybe I'll hold her hand when we're close and put my arm around her when we're a bit closer (that's a definite if we see another movie).
I haven't texted her in over 48 hours and I'm gonna wait until AT LEAST tomorrow before I do again (we discussed getting together this Friday so we'll have to nail down some definite plans at some point). But I realized that I always initiate the conversation, and I don't even really text her that often compared to other people. Part of me still wonders if that's a bad sign.
Thanks for the advice fam. Any other insight is welcome. No more slam pigs for me, this is a dope girl and I don't wanna fuck things up with her lol.
How quickly does she respond? How quickly do you respond? Who ends the text conversations?
I'm not the one reading your texts, so I can't give specifics, but the best I can say is don't be needy
. Limit texts to 5-6 per day, and be quick in planning meetings with her. Double your response time according to her response time. Don't make sexual texts unless as a supplement to what you've proven to her in person. In other words, do not be suggestive unless you've already made her comfortable via touching and the other petty things that constitute flirting. Don't make blatant sexual statements unless you've penetrated one hole or another. Know when to end the text conversations, and keep her waiting a day or two. Prove to her you have better things to do than orbit around her 24/7. The fact that you don't talk to her often is actually a good thing.
I have a Lebanese girl who was in my high school graduating class, just finished her undergraduate program at USC. If we text each other, I playfully insult her and she doesn't reply? She won't hear from me for a month or so. If she attacks back with her own insult? Two months. She knows the deal. Typically, if I end a conversation, I'll wait anywhere from 3-7 days later then call her during a low-traffic period of the day (typically at night). I won't text her because they she has time to think about how to reply, whereas a call is too spontaneous and doesn't allow her to produce a "front". She can't prepare herself and since I am calling her I have her attention and can control the conversation. I hear the following during our conversations, and when I do, my dick gets harder and harder:
"Oh, I've been thinking about you all week."
(I make a general statement) Her: "Me too!" (in agreement)
"Want to know what I think about that?" (If your girl says that to you, tell her "no", great way to catch her off-guard and keep her guessing, she'll know you're joking)
"That's (insert positive adjective here)!"
"How is (she mentions past activity you were involved in)?" (This is the best, she's trying to force conversation by summoning your interests, not hers)
Since you're white, it helps to also look like Timberlake or Thicke.