The Official Relationship, Dating, or Talking Problems/Questions Thread

Jul 21, 2013 @ 13:05
@Tarwin I usually get over girls by thinking of the reason we broke up. If she cheated on you, she didn't have much respect for you, so why should she still have you on the tip of her finger? She wouldn't simp over you, so why put yourself in that position of caring if she moved on before y'all even broke up..

I live every day like its my day off

dmwalking
Jul 21, 2013 @ 13:27
Tarwin  , when you think about that girl and the way she makes you feel,  what do you think about?  Whatever your answer is, that's you're self created image of her. You want to like who you think she is. Problem is that she's a cheater. That is who she is. So unless you like that, you gotta face reality and realize that you don't really like HER. You like the idea of someone who doesn't exist. Cut her off. Find a chick who has those qualities that you like. Since you're prolly like 17 those qualities should not be hard to find.

HB stands for Help Beast. Currently supporting the supportive movement.

Jul 21, 2013 @ 13:38

http://i1345.photobucket.com/albums/p662/johnjenkins2/Screenshot_2013-07-19-03-03-421_zps1eca7677.jpg
edit: know you niggas like pics so here ya go

gonna try to make this short, Chick only girl I've ever had feels for haven't talked in a year but the last thing she told me was she'll always love me cause I took her virginity, ya boy is starting to miss her and she's about to start college and shit so I feel like my window of opportunity is closing but I'm to proud to do something about it. should I just swallow the good old pride and take a chance?
Smash her once more before going to college. That way she will remember you 

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Jul 21, 2013 @ 16:44

http://i1345.photobucket.com/albums/p662/johnjenkins2/Screenshot_2013-07-19-03-03-421_zps1eca7677.jpg
edit: know you niggas like pics so here ya go

gonna try to make this short, Chick only girl I've ever had feels for haven't talked in a year but the last thing she told me was she'll always love me cause I took her virginity, ya boy is starting to miss her and she's about to start college and shit so I feel like my window of opportunity is closing but I'm to proud to do something about it. should I just swallow the good old pride and take a chance?
Smash her once more before going to college. That way she will remember you 
already hit shawty up, we should be chilling soon will post results bruh
Jul 21, 2013 @ 18:12
Tarwin  , when you think about that girl and the way she makes you feel,  what do you think about?  Whatever your answer is, that's you're self created image of her. You want to like who you think she is. Problem is that she's a cheater. That is who she is. So unless you like that, you gotta face reality and realize that you don't really like HER. You like the idea of someone who doesn't exist. Cut her off. Find a chick who has those qualities that you like. Since you're prolly like 17 those qualities should not be hard to find.
Yeah that definitely makes a lot of sense, I'm 19 and it was my first real love for 3 years so I guess it's gonna be hard 
Jul 31, 2013 @ 20:36
What up HB family, just wanted to get your take on this...
I met this girl in a class a few months back. I liked her and I think she liked me too, but it seems like we we're both apprehensive about acting on it-- I'm white, she's black, and there's a bit of an age gap (no Jacob). I really liked her but was prepared to let her go.
But after the semester ended I really missed her and wanted to see her. I finally got to go out with her last week. To me it felt like the old feelings we're still there., and it was pretty clearly a date. We kissed at the end of the night.-, nothing monumental, no tongue, but she held my face in her hands like she had feels.
We've kept texting since then but sometimes it seems like she's avoiding me, and I'm almost worried she might be embarrassed to tell her friends about me. Maybe I'm just being paranoid?
Anyway, I kinda want to tell her how I feel. I'm not about to go Drake on her, I just want to stop beating around the bush and let my intentions be known. Is this a bad idea?
Aug 01, 2013 @ 07:02
Originally posted by Inactive User
If you're really feelin this chick, you should definitely tell her how you feel. Sounds like she's feelin you too, so you might as well. It's better to know, than living with that "what if" feeling.
Aug 03, 2013 @ 00:28
I've been with my girl 6 months now. She's perfect; really cute, great personality, fun to be around, christian, and I love her a lot. But for some reason I'm getting bored of her. It's fucked up because she's everything I ever wanted but I don't know why I feel this way.
Aug 03, 2013 @ 05:27
Originally posted by Inactive User
What up HB family, just wanted to get your take on this...

I met this girl in a class a few months back. I liked her and I think she liked me too, but it seems like we we're both apprehensive about acting on it-- I'm white, she's black, and there's a bit of an age gap (no Jacob). I really liked her but was prepared to let her go.

But after the semester ended I really missed her and wanted to see her. I finally got to go out with her last week. To me it felt like the old feelings we're still there., and it was pretty clearly a date. We kissed at the end of the night.-, nothing monumental, no tongue, but she held my face in her hands like she had feels.

We've kept texting since then but sometimes it seems like she's avoiding me, and I'm almost worried she might be embarrassed to tell her friends about me. Maybe I'm just being paranoid?

Anyway, I kinda want to tell her how I feel. I'm not about to go Drake on her, I just want to stop beating around the bush and let my intentions be known. Is this a bad idea?
Don't text her often. Keep her fiending for them characters. Next time you see her, touch her really sensually from the beginning, especially if she's with her friends. Show that you don't care about their perception of your while you pursue her. I don't know about the object of your affection, but most black girls want a guy who really overwhelms their womanhood with a sense of unabashed masculinity. Don't tell her how you feel. When you say something, she has to think about the words and you will grant her the power to say "no" or to negate whatever you tell her, even if she wants you, because forcing her to think will allow any and all doubts to kick in; women don't want to have to think about their attraction to other men, they want men to control their emotions and "sweep them away" (this sounds mad sus but talk to women who have read "50 Shades Of Gray" so about every other American 20-something woman, they'll tell you what I'm saying if they aren't bullshiting).

Be indirect and brief with words (say little and do not reveal your intentions) and be direct and overt with actions. When you're touching her (hugs, arm/back/ass rubs, shoulder massages, neck/cheek/lips kisses) you aren't talking to her and since women (and emasculated men) are responsive rather than imposing creatures, she will have trouble saying "no". Why? Because you didn't solicit her verbal opinion by saying something first. She could possibly push you away but when you communicate through touch the interaction is VERY subtle to the point that she cannot say "no" because she would look stupid talking while you aren't saying anything back to her. With touch you relieve her of her need to think about what you could tell her. If she has already confirmed premeditated thoughts about her lack of attraction to you, she is prepared to ward off any advance from you and will say "no" if you touch her. Assuming she likes you, women are not wired to use physical force to protect themselves (idk how female MMA fighters get the D) and if you use your body to communicate with her she will have trouble resisting if she truly wants you,.

I'm on your side assuming you have never considering raping a girl.

Game on bruh!

"Rap in 2012 is basically just a mad dash for people of EVERY human subset to be represented by a rapper." - damnwitless1

Aug 03, 2013 @ 09:47
Brehs help me out. I had a deal to hang with my girl today, but yesterday i was smoking with the boys and they convinced me to go out drinking tonight. So i tried telling my girl and now shes mad AF. How to salvage situation? Dont want another homie piping her while im out getting faded
Aug 03, 2013 @ 11:14
Brehs help me out. I had a deal to hang with my girl today, but yesterday i was smoking with the boys and they convinced me to go out drinking tonight. So i tried telling my girl and now shes mad AF. How to salvage situation? Dont want another homie piping her while im out getting faded
Always be outcome-independent, with obvious exceptions like upward social mobility, etc. In other words, don't let someone's decisions affect yours. If she chooses to fuck someone else, that's self-damage on her part. She will know her anger will bring you under her control, so don't let her feel like she has power over you. If you show her that you don't care if she's mad, she will either 1) submit to you and let you do your thing, or 2) leave you, which probably won't happen because you didn't commit a serious infraction on her (cheating usually the sole broken rule).

"Rap in 2012 is basically just a mad dash for people of EVERY human subset to be represented by a rapper." - damnwitless1

Aug 04, 2013 @ 11:24
Originally posted by Inactive User
What up HB family, just wanted to get your take on this...


I met this girl in a class a few months back. I liked her and I think she liked me too, but it seems like we we're both apprehensive about acting on it-- I'm white, she's black, and there's a bit of an age gap (no Jacob). I really liked her but was prepared to let her go.


But after the semester ended I really missed her and wanted to see her. I finally got to go out with her last week. To me it felt like the old feelings we're still there., and it was pretty clearly a date. We kissed at the end of the night.-, nothing monumental, no tongue, but she held my face in her hands like she had feels.


We've kept texting since then but sometimes it seems like she's avoiding me, and I'm almost worried she might be embarrassed to tell her friends about me. Maybe I'm just being paranoid?


Anyway, I kinda want to tell her how I feel. I'm not about to go Drake on her, I just want to stop beating around the bush and let my intentions be known. Is this a bad idea?
Don't text her often. Keep her fiending for them characters. Next time you see her, touch her really sensually from the beginning, especially if she's with her friends. Show that you don't care about their perception of your while you pursue her. I don't know about the object of your affection, but most black girls want a guy who really overwhelms their womanhood with a sense of unabashed masculinity. Don't tell her how you feel. When you say something, she has to think about the words and you will grant her the power to say "no" or to negate whatever you tell her, even if she wants you, because forcing her to think will allow any and all doubts to kick in; women don't want to have to think about their attraction to other men, they want men to control their emotions and "sweep them away" (this sounds mad sus but talk to women who have read "50 Shades Of Gray" so about every other American 20-something woman, they'll tell you what I'm saying if they aren't bullshiting).

Be indirect and brief with words (say little and do not reveal your intentions) and be direct and overt with actions. When you're touching her (hugs, arm/back/ass rubs, shoulder massages, neck/cheek/lips kisses) you aren't talking to her and since women (and emasculated men) are responsive rather than imposing creatures, she will have trouble saying "no". Why? Because you didn't solicit her verbal opinion by saying something first. She could possibly push you away but when you communicate through touch the interaction is VERY subtle to the point that she cannot say "no" because she would look stupid talking while you aren't saying anything back to her. With touch you relieve her of her need to think about what you could tell her. If she has already confirmed premeditated thoughts about her lack of attraction to you, she is prepared to ward off any advance from you and will say "no" if you touch her. Assuming she likes you, women are not wired to use physical force to protect themselves (idk how female MMA fighters get the D) and if you use your body to communicate with her she will have trouble resisting if she truly wants you,.

I'm on your side assuming you have never considering raping a girl.

Game on bruh!
Damn, this got me thinking. I'm gonna try the subtle touching next time I see her. Although I'm not sure I can be sensual right off the bat since it will probably be in front of some of her family members and that might not look too good (she lives at home). They're Jamaican and pretty damn strict from what she tells me. But I'm thinking maybe I'll hold her hand when we're close and put my arm around her when we're a bit closer (that's a definite if we see another movie).

I haven't texted her in over 48 hours and I'm gonna wait until AT LEAST tomorrow before I do again (we discussed getting together this Friday so we'll have to nail down some definite plans at some point). But I realized that I always initiate the conversation, and I don't even really text her that often compared to other people. Part of me still wonders if that's a bad sign.

Thanks for the advice fam. Any other insight is welcome. No more slam pigs for me, this is a dope girl and I don't wanna fuck things up with her lol.
Aug 04, 2013 @ 15:56
I don't even know what to make of this situation. 
So me and my girlfriend were talking yesterday. She was joking about not having sex until marriage. I'm like it is a little too late for that. She was like well I could not have anymore until marriage lol. I joked and said she could and I said but I miss the intimacy. She asked what I wanted I said her. She was like but you would still have me. I thought intmacy meant like close loving touch. (Side note, we haven't had sex of really cuddled like we like to because I can only go over to her house right now and she has a strict father.) she thought I meant sex by intmacy and got mad at me. When I explained I ment the touching and cuddling she just said ok. After thst she just said ok again and texted me to tell me she got home. Did I really do anything wrong?
forgot to say after she sent the message home, she ignored the rest of my text. 
Aug 04, 2013 @ 20:50
I don't even know what to make of this situation. 
So me and my girlfriend were talking yesterday. She was joking about not having sex until marriage. I'm like it is a little too late for that. She was like well I could not have anymore until marriage lol. I joked and said she could and I said but I miss the intimacy. She asked what I wanted I said her. She was like but you would still have me. I thought intmacy meant like close loving touch. (Side note, we haven't had sex of really cuddled like we like to because I can only go over to her house right now and she has a strict father.) she thought I meant sex by intmacy and got mad at me. When I explained I ment the touching and cuddling she just said ok. After thst she just said ok again and texted me to tell me she got home. Did I really do anything wrong?
forgot to say after she sent the message home, she ignored the rest of my text. 
Upgrade. She's a bitch or has issues.
Most girls would have blown you for saying the intimate line.
Move on before it's too late.
Or just stock up on molly's to slip in her juice box.

I like Polo and stuff.

Aug 04, 2013 @ 23:18
just juxed my friends bitch hahahaha its so easyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyy she choosin
Aug 05, 2013 @ 00:04
Originally posted by Inactive User
I've been with my girl 6 months now. She's perfect; really cute, great personality, fun to be around, christian, and I love her a lot. But for some reason I'm getting bored of her. It's fucked up because she's everything I ever wanted but I don't know why I feel this way.
It's because theres no chase
Aug 05, 2013 @ 03:06
Yea once you get a girl & she gives herself to you emotionally & physically you're gonna eventually get bored. It's whether or not you like her enough to stay with her that determines if she's the future wife or not 

@b_low_brown Killerbrownies.tumblr.com

Aug 05, 2013 @ 05:13
Originally posted by Inactive User
Damn, this got me thinking. I'm gonna try the subtle touching next time I see her. Although I'm not sure I can be sensual right off the bat since it will probably be in front of some of her family members and that might not look too good (she lives at home). They're Jamaican and pretty damn strict from what she tells me. But I'm thinking maybe I'll hold her hand when we're close and put my arm around her when we're a bit closer (that's a definite if we see another movie).

I haven't texted her in over 48 hours and I'm gonna wait until AT LEAST tomorrow before I do again (we discussed getting together this Friday so we'll have to nail down some definite plans at some point). But I realized that I always initiate the conversation, and I don't even really text her that often compared to other people. Part of me still wonders if that's a bad sign.

Thanks for the advice fam. Any other insight is welcome. No more slam pigs for me, this is a dope girl and I don't wanna fuck things up with her lol.
How quickly does she respond? How quickly do you respond? Who ends the text conversations?

I'm not the one reading your texts, so I can't give specifics, but the best I can say is don't be needy. Limit texts to 5-6 per day, and be quick in planning meetings with her. Double your response time according to her response time. Don't make sexual texts unless as a supplement to what you've proven to her in person. In other words, do not be suggestive unless you've already made her comfortable via touching and the other petty things that constitute flirting. Don't make blatant sexual statements unless you've penetrated one hole or another. Know when to end the text conversations, and keep her waiting a day or two. Prove to her you have better things to do than orbit around her 24/7. The fact that you don't talk to her often is actually a good thing.

I have a Lebanese girl who was in my high school graduating class, just finished her undergraduate program at USC. If we text each other, I playfully insult her and she doesn't reply? She won't hear from me for a month or so. If she attacks back with her own insult? Two months. She knows the deal. Typically, if I end a conversation, I'll wait anywhere from 3-7 days later then call her during a low-traffic period of the day (typically at night). I won't text her because they she has time to think about how to reply, whereas a call is too spontaneous and doesn't allow her to produce a "front". She can't prepare herself and since I am calling her I have her attention and can control the conversation. I hear the following during our conversations, and when I do, my dick gets harder and harder:

"Oh, I've been thinking about you all week."
(I make a general statement) Her: "Me too!" (in agreement)
"Want to know what I think about that?" (If your girl says that to you, tell her "no", great way to catch her off-guard and keep her guessing, she'll know you're joking)
"That's (insert positive adjective here)!"
"How is (she mentions past activity you were involved in)?" (This is the best, she's trying to force conversation by summoning your interests, not hers)

Since you're white, it helps to also look like Timberlake or Thicke.

"Rap in 2012 is basically just a mad dash for people of EVERY human subset to be represented by a rapper." - damnwitless1

Aug 09, 2013 @ 02:07
So I went out for a date with this girl ive been crushing on for ages, we been talking for a couple of months now, she was actually the one who asked me if i wanted to go hangout and get food and all that before she left to go back to the city where she works/goes to school(about 3 hours away from me), so we went..all is good with the date. so we were texting after how good everything was, ya boy lowkey'd simp some outta her, she basically said i was perfect, how we talked a lot to how i was a great hugger, and how I said i wouldnt of let go tbh and she responded with 'I wouldnt of mind if you didnt'. Like she was saying shit how I make her happy/smile all the time. but the last two days, escpecially today were very inconsistent, i tried to keep it on a level where i can basically simp on command cause obviously im trying to wife her up but it seems she went back to her "friendly" side. I even asked her if she was avaible next week so i can visit her,and she responded with 'its too serious for my liking'...i have that mindset where i think shes talking to other dudes the same way, and how it went from quick replies to 1 hour replies from this girl.

so the question is your boy safe? or what...shit is confusing.

hansum is 4ever

Aug 09, 2013 @ 03:41
but the last two days, escpecially today were very inconsistent, i tried to keep it on a level where i can basically simp on command cause obviously im trying to wife her up but it seems she went back to her "friendly" side. I even asked her if she was avaible next week so i can visit her,and she responded with 'its too serious for my liking'...i have that mindset where i think shes talking to other dudes the same way, and how it went from quick replies to 1 hour replies from this girl.

so the question is your boy safe? or what...shit is confusing.
Lay low for a while, b. You seem to be doing a bit too much for a shorty who probably isn't as invested as you are.

Chase other girls in the meantime. I really think the clincher here was her saying "it's too serious for my liking." In my experience, that's usually a red flag. Stop simping before you even have her as your legit gf.
Aug 09, 2013 @ 03:48
So I went out for a date with this girl ive been crushing on for ages, we been talking for a couple of months now, she was actually the one who asked me if i wanted to go hangout and get food and all that before she left to go back to the city where she works/goes to school(about 3 hours away from me), so we went..all is good with the date. so we were texting after how good everything was, ya boy lowkey'd simp some outta her, she basically said i was perfect, how we talked a lot to how i was a great hugger, and how I said i wouldnt of let go tbh and she responded with 'I wouldnt of mind if you didnt'. Like she was saying shit how I make her happy/smile all the time. but the last two days, escpecially today were very inconsistent, i tried to keep it on a level where i can basically simp on command cause obviously im trying to wife her up but it seems she went back to her "friendly" side. I even asked her if she was avaible next week so i can visit her,and she responded with 'its too serious for my liking'...i have that mindset where i think shes talking to other dudes the same way, and how it went from quick replies to 1 hour replies from this girl.

so the question is your boy safe? or what...shit is confusing.
crushin for months?

bruh, you need to close the deal within the singular

put out something outrageous that gets her thinking, then cut off all contact with her for 6-8 weeks.

when you hit her up again, go straight for the kill. she don't wanna put out?

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=WM1RChZk1EU

keep me updated on your progress

EDIT: I second what DyingScreams put out

"Rap in 2012 is basically just a mad dash for people of EVERY human subset to be represented by a rapper." - damnwitless1

Aug 09, 2013 @ 04:24
Yeah, crushing for about 2-3 months? some shit like that. 
when yall say lay low, should i cut her off completely or still text her up occasionally? i really fucked up for going overboard on the simping shittt 

i talk to this other girl but were still in level 1 process.


EDIT: Im on and off with this girl tbh but I feel after the date we had it boosted my progress, but shit mans over simped. 

how do yall manage to not get the other dudes trying to talk to the girl youre tryna get ? shit always gets me cause i took enough L's from that.

hansum is 4ever

Aug 09, 2013 @ 04:46
when yall say lay low, should i cut her off completely or still text her up occasionally? i really fucked up for going overboard on the simping shittt
Cut her off completely. No contact, no texts, nothing.

You're too busy to be waiting around for her. Give her the gift of missing you.
Aug 09, 2013 @ 05:09
I was thinking bout this girl I've been having a crush on for ages and for some reason I just grew a pair of balls and asked her for her number on instagram using that "lets catch up" bullshit so I text her for a while and started catching up with her and to be honest a nigga was simping a little but she said her birthday was coming up and when she gets her license, she said we should hang out, keep in mind this is my first time actually having a conversation with her for ages so im kind of surprised , so I say, "yea we should" and started talking to her a bit more and I say we should "catch a movie a together", and she says "if ya want" but me a dumbass I didnt quite think it thru and i say, "fuuuck I dont have a ride" so she says it's alright and we start conversing  a bit more and then I ask her if she is free on Friday to catch a flick but she said she has this program she has to go to, so I asked if Saturday was fine and she responded with  "I'll see" so I said fosho and I kinda wanted to end the convo there after some small talk and I said good night and some simp shit lol but she said, "you going to bed already?" and I say, "nah, I thought you were going to bed?" and she responded saying her sleeping schedule is fucked up and she cant sleep until round 3 or 4am. she kinda teased me say something like, "if you dont want to talk that cool...lol" and I responded saying cool lets talk then and we ended up talking tell 3:30 am and she sent me a text first saying good morning and shit. what mistakes did I make? and what should I do for the future? and can you guys give me some pointers? I have been knowing her for a long time and we always talked to each other so much back at school but for 3 years I have never really spoken to her tell now, I shortened my story a lot cuz I didn't feel like typing it detail by detail btw
Aug 09, 2013 @ 07:10
i talk to this other girl but were still in level 1 process.

how do yall manage to not get the other dudes trying to talk to the girl youre tryna get ? shit always gets me cause i took enough L's from that.
Outcome independence. Don't let someone else's actions affect your own, 9/10 they don't. If they want to talk to her, let them talk to her. Once again, find other ventures to occupy your time. If she notices you're talking to plenty of girls, she may become more interested in you. If those girls give you signs of interest, and those girls look better than the first girl, then your first girl WILL become attracted to you. Called theory of pre-selection.

"Rap in 2012 is basically just a mad dash for people of EVERY human subset to be represented by a rapper." - damnwitless1

Aug 09, 2013 @ 07:34
I was thinking bout this girl I've been having a crush on for ages and for some reason I just grew a pair of balls and asked her for her number on instagram using that "lets catch up" bullshit so I text her for a while and started catching up with her and to be honest a nigga was simping a little but she said her birthday was coming up and when she gets her license, she said we should hang out, keep in mind this is my first time actually having a conversation with her for ages so im kind of surprised , so I say, "yea we should" and started talking to her a bit more and I say we should "catch a movie a together", and she says "if ya want" but me a dumbass I didnt quite think it thru and i say, "fuuuck I dont have a ride" so she says it's alright and we start conversing  a bit more and then I ask her if she is free on Friday to catch a flick but she said she has this program she has to go to, so I asked if Saturday was fine and she responded with  "I'll see" so I said fosho and I kinda wanted to end the convo there after some small talk and I said good night and some simp shit lol but she said, "you going to bed already?" and I say, "nah, I thought you were going to bed?" and she responded saying her sleeping schedule is fucked up and she cant sleep until round 3 or 4am. she kinda teased me say something like, "if you dont want to talk that cool...lol" and I responded saying cool lets talk then and we ended up talking tell 3:30 am and she sent me a text first saying good morning and shit. what mistakes did I make? and what should I do for the future? and can you guys give me some pointers? I have been knowing her for a long time and we always talked to each other so much back at school but for 3 years I have never really spoken to her tell now, I shortened my story a lot cuz I didn't feel like typing it detail by detail btw
PMed you, not trying to clutter this thread

"Rap in 2012 is basically just a mad dash for people of EVERY human subset to be represented by a rapper." - damnwitless1

Aug 09, 2013 @ 07:47
I was thinking bout this girl I've been having a crush on for ages and for some reason I just grew a pair of balls and asked her for her number on instagram using that "lets catch up" bullshit so I text her for a while and started catching up with her and to be honest a nigga was simping a little but she said her birthday was coming up and when she gets her license, she said we should hang out, keep in mind this is my first time actually having a conversation with her for ages so im kind of surprised , so I say, "yea we should" and started talking to her a bit more and I say we should "catch a movie a together", and she says "if ya want" but me a dumbass I didnt quite think it thru and i say, "fuuuck I dont have a ride" so she says it's alright and we start conversing  a bit more and then I ask her if she is free on Friday to catch a flick but she said she has this program she has to go to, so I asked if Saturday was fine and she responded with  "I'll see" so I said fosho and I kinda wanted to end the convo there after some small talk and I said good night and some simp shit lol but she said, "you going to bed already?" and I say, "nah, I thought you were going to bed?" and she responded saying her sleeping schedule is fucked up and she cant sleep until round 3 or 4am. she kinda teased me say something like, "if you dont want to talk that cool...lol" and I responded saying cool lets talk then and we ended up talking tell 3:30 am and she sent me a text first saying good morning and shit. what mistakes did I make? and what should I do for the future? and can you guys give me some pointers? I have been knowing her for a long time and we always talked to each other so much back at school but for 3 years I have never really spoken to her tell now, I shortened my story a lot cuz I didn't feel like typing it detail by detail btw
PMed you, not trying to clutter this thread
alright fam
Aug 09, 2013 @ 10:04
Originally posted by Inactive User
Damn, this got me thinking. I'm gonna try the subtle touching next time I see her. Although I'm not sure I can be sensual right off the bat since it will probably be in front of some of her family members and that might not look too good (she lives at home). They're Jamaican and pretty damn strict from what she tells me. But I'm thinking maybe I'll hold her hand when we're close and put my arm around her when we're a bit closer (that's a definite if we see another movie).

I haven't texted her in over 48 hours and I'm gonna wait until AT LEAST tomorrow before I do again (we discussed getting together this Friday so we'll have to nail down some definite plans at some point). But I realized that I always initiate the conversation, and I don't even really text her that often compared to other people. Part of me still wonders if that's a bad sign.

Thanks for the advice fam. Any other insight is welcome. No more slam pigs for me, this is a dope girl and I don't wanna fuck things up with her lol.
How quickly does she respond? How quickly do you respond? Who ends the text conversations?

I'm not the one reading your texts, so I can't give specifics, but the best I can say is don't be needy. Limit texts to 5-6 per day, and be quick in planning meetings with her. Double your response time according to her response time. Don't make sexual texts unless as a supplement to what you've proven to her in person. In other words, do not be suggestive unless you've already made her comfortable via touching and the other petty things that constitute flirting. Don't make blatant sexual statements unless you've penetrated one hole or another. Know when to end the text conversations, and keep her waiting a day or two. Prove to her you have better things to do than orbit around her 24/7. The fact that you don't talk to her often is actually a good thing.

I have a Lebanese girl who was in my high school graduating class, just finished her undergraduate program at USC. If we text each other, I playfully insult her and she doesn't reply? She won't hear from me for a month or so. If she attacks back with her own insult? Two months. She knows the deal. Typically, if I end a conversation, I'll wait anywhere from 3-7 days later then call her during a low-traffic period of the day (typically at night). I won't text her because they she has time to think about how to reply, whereas a call is too spontaneous and doesn't allow her to produce a "front". She can't prepare herself and since I am calling her I have her attention and can control the conversation. I hear the following during our conversations, and when I do, my dick gets harder and harder:

"Oh, I've been thinking about you all week."
(I make a general statement) Her: "Me too!" (in agreement)
"Want to know what I think about that?" (If your girl says that to you, tell her "no", great way to catch her off-guard and keep her guessing, she'll know you're joking)
"That's (insert positive adjective here)!"
"How is (she mentions past activity you were involved in)?" (This is the best, she's trying to force conversation by summoning your interests, not hers)

Since you're white, it helps to also look like Timberlake or Thicke.
I look a bit like DiCaprio actually smokeyface

We're supposed to watch the Patriots game tonight (we're both fans) at Buffalo Wild Wings. But last night we texted a bit and she said, "I'm still shocked you'd come all the way out here" (she's an hour drive from me currently). I said "why wouldn't I?" and she replied, "Cause it's so far. I think it's unnecessary lol that's why I'm so iffy. Now if I were back at school, that's a lot more reasonable to me." I said, "Well I want to see you again blushing " and I told her she was worth it.

Now I don't know whether she's trying to gauge my interest or if this is her way of saying "You shouldn't want me because I don't want you" (I've gotten it in the past from others). I'm worried I might be getting the friend zone speech tonight.
Aug 09, 2013 @ 10:38
Originally posted by Inactive User
Goes both ways homie. She could see you as a platonic friend, but she may think of your efforts as inconvenient. I can't pick up feelings from texts in most cases. just go see her. you'll know from her reception of you, whether or not she's interested

and don't use smileys. breaks sexual tension. you have to come off as serious in your messages, but not angry

if she makes a joke, don't do "lol" do "lhh" (laughing hella hard) the hood bitches I know do that shit) if she's black and doesn't know that abbreviation she may be more used to being around white people than you can assume

i'd prefer you don't type either but not in this case

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Aug 09, 2013 @ 18:14
So There's This GIrl At Work I Kinda Like She's cute and i think she's kinda pretty. 
But she has a boyfriend
There's Times where we talk she calls me insult names nothing that has to do with profanity but dumb shit 
like dummy head and stupid stuff like that shit girls would do. 
We always make eye contact and shit at work
i mess around with her by leave her hanging and shit one time i jokingly said she was a bitch( i dont work with her enough mind you to actually confirm my statement) we work in different sections but it obviously made her feel insecure and was asking why and i just ignored her and walked off.

Yesterday i caught her in the break room and was talking with her for a little insued a conversation with her and shit but was a little occupied with her stupid minion game so i sat down next to her just talking and shit and she said something about me being weird. I didnt say anything nor did i really care. i was just like whatever fuck this bitch so i got up and started walking away. Then she was all like Noooo Wait Your Leaving Me Here Alone?

i told her i went back to get my lunch bag cuz my mom will get mad at me. she laughed and told her what my mom tells me in spanish. she was super shocked i spoke spanish that i dont even look mexican or whatever and talked a little more. her break was over and had to go so i just dipped.

i dunno what to think of this. i like her i wanna get all up in them goods. but i also would enjoy taking this girl out. lol

what do you guys think? thanks Hb fam
But shes taken lol
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