The Official Relationship, Dating, or Talking Problems/Questions Thread

October 10, 2012 @ 23:00:58
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October 10, 2012 @ 23:04:30
Mr. DM

I need some knowledge.

Like you said, avoid those girls who just act as if they have "dignity".

But what about the girls (these are ultra-rare. I know. It's like finding a mewtwo) that actually HAVE dignity and respect cause they were raised up right. How can you tell the difference?
October 11, 2012 @ 01:48:20
Originally posted by Inactive User
Mr. DM

I need some knowledge.

Like you said, avoid those girls who just act as if they have "dignity".

But what about the girls (these are ultra-rare. I know. It's like finding a mewtwo) that actually HAVE dignity and respect cause they were raised up right. How can you tell the difference?


if they rich?
October 11, 2012 @ 02:14:53
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October 11, 2012 @ 03:38:27
dmwalking
Moderator
Originally posted by Inactive User
Mr. DM

I need some knowledge.

Like you said, avoid those girls who just act as if they have "dignity".

But what about the girls (these are ultra-rare. I know. It's like finding a mewtwo) that actually HAVE dignity and respect cause they were raised up right. How can you tell the difference?


If they have authentic dignity, they'll have no need to preserve dignity in the bedroom. How can I tell the difference? Body language. If a girl is a cold fish, they'll be lame. If a girl composes herself with class, but when she's alone with you opens up, then you have a winner. It may take some effort on your part, but that's because they wanna open up to the right guy. But it'll be worth it if you care.

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October 11, 2012 @ 03:50:56
dmwalking
Moderator
maybe I'm jaded bcuz I live in a big city like Toronto but this shit does not happen frequently enough to be worth mentioning. Smash who you want when you want and let the bitches talk. As long as you keep it on the low, so will they.


I feel you. Just giving advice based on his statement that he met them at uni. From my experience, word can get aroudn uni pretty quick. If nothing else, it's good advice to keep niggas standards up so they only deal with quality. I know it's worked for me.

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October 11, 2012 @ 04:03:40
i began talking to my ex girlfriend again. i dated her for 4 years. im 18 graduated in 2011 and she's 17 a senior in high school. the reason we ended our relationship was because she said we were just better off as friends. during this whole relationship over course of time we have cheated and what not unforuntately more her than me and i was pretty damn hurt. i guess i got over it kind of and she has gotten over what i've done but anyways we began talking again and well idk i guess i do miss her, while we stopped dating i definitely got over her from working and just hanging out with friends and stuff but im not the best with girls either to be honest, she did nothing with her time and was always sad and what not and missed me. soo yeahh i guess we're taking it sloww she says she's pretty happy with me and all she needs is me and her family at the moment. but i feel like she's coming back to me just because theres nothing else for her?? anyways i guess im giving it a try again but im definitely not going back to my old ways with spending guap and shit until i know she's serious because im no idiot fool me once shame on me fool me twice shame on me haha but yeah i just dont wanna waste my time. but i do love her and she loves me. its confusing but i hope im making the right decision has anyone ever been in a situation like this?


dating a high school senior is usually not the best idea. if she's the studious type then she'll definitely be going off to college next year. best not to get too attached my dude, because that shit will hurt later if you guys are still together when she moves
October 11, 2012 @ 04:20:55
Yo, DM, just a thought I had:

How are decent girls raised? Most I know have daddy issues and aren't really that go-getter, independent type. Wtf happened to all the confident females (who can take a dick and be a lady on the streets as well)?
October 11, 2012 @ 04:27:02
Yo, DM, just a thought I had:

How are decent girls raised? Most I know have daddy issues and aren't really that go-getter, independent type. Wtf happened to all the confident females (who can take a dick and be a lady on the streets as well)?

I know I'm not DM, but from what I noticed, the best type of females are those who have good relationships with their dads. For example, I know this FINE ass girl that's 19 going on 20, and she's still a virgin, has a job, going to school and her dad is pretty much her bestfriend.
October 11, 2012 @ 04:30:35
its having solid parents in general that produces the ideal bitch/wife material
October 11, 2012 @ 04:48:43
dmwalking
Moderator
Yo, DM, just a thought I had:

How are decent girls raised? Most I know have daddy issues and aren't really that go-getter, independent type. Wtf happened to all the confident females (who can take a dick and be a lady on the streets as well)?


There's a lot of variables my man. But truth be told, the young brothers already made the most solid point. IMO, it's a solid relationship with their fathers. From my experience and observations, girls who had solid relationships with their fathers had no need for male attention and would not bend to the will of any nigga who was not on the father's good side.

But, don't judge every chick based on that. That's just like one of those up front factors. But every so often some girls may just have a strong enough personality to be their own women despite negative relationships with their parents. A good gauge is to observe how hungry for general attention she is (if it's high, it's a bad situation) and how hungry for male attention she is (if it's high, it's a bad situation). Haha.

As far as freak in the sheets/lady in the streets? You just need to find a woman who's secure enough in herself to be willing to enjoy sex. It may take time for some girls to open up, but if you can make em trust you, they'll open up a lot. Make em love you, they'll do anything for you.

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October 11, 2012 @ 04:58:47
Wow DM, my question got answered already and I just check back to see if there is similar situations as me, but I have to say you are a man of wisdom. You could help a lot of people in this thread. blushing

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October 11, 2012 @ 19:42:37
@jemstayshininn I know exactly how you feel man.

Bitches be crazy.
October 24, 2012 @ 07:20:21
Okay so I've known this girl for approximately 4 years, and I'm really starting to like her as more than a friend. We have been pretty good friends over the years, and now we're really close. I have seen her go through 2 boyfriends which lead to two failing relationships. There have been times over the years where we weren't as close, but I think we're the closest now. She tells me about her financial difficulties, tells me about trouble in school, and tells me pretty much everything. I occasionally pick her up from her school (which is 2 hours away) and I used to take her to work every now and then when she had a job. When we hang out she always tells me about random events in her life and if we go out to eat I always pay for the both of us (even though she recently started to pay for me even when I ask her not to). Whenever she leaves me I always give her a hug (yes I initiate it) and when we haven't seen each other in a long time we always hug. But for some reason I think she isn't a very affectionate person. I REALLY like this girl and I want to ask her out, or show her that I'm interested in some way. Hypebeast what should I do? smh

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October 24, 2012 @ 07:21:06
Okay so I've known this girl for approximately 4 years, and I'm really starting to like her as more than a friend. We have been pretty good friends over the years, and now we're really close. I have seen her go through 2 boyfriends which lead to two failing relationships. There have been times over the years where we weren't as close, but I think we're the closest now. She tells me about her financial difficulties, tells me about trouble in school, and tells me pretty much everything. I occasionally pick her up from her school (which is 2 hours away) and I used to take her to work every now and then when she had a job. When we hang out she always tells me about random events in her life and if we go out to eat I always pay for the both of us (even though she recently started to pay for me even when I ask her not to). Whenever she leaves me I always give her a hug (yes I initiate it) and when we haven't seen each other in a long time we always hug. But for some reason I think she isn't a very affectionate person. I REALLY like this girl and I want to ask her out, or show her that I'm interested in some way. Hypebeast what should I do? smh

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October 24, 2012 @ 08:32:09
Okay so I've known this girl for approximately 4 years, and I'm really starting to like her as more than a friend. We have been pretty good friends over the years, and now we're really close. I have seen her go through 2 boyfriends which lead to two failing relationships. There have been times over the years where we weren't as close, but I think we're the closest now. She tells me about her financial difficulties, tells me about trouble in school, and tells me pretty much everything. I occasionally pick her up from her school (which is 2 hours away) and I used to take her to work every now and then when she had a job. When we hang out she always tells me about random events in her life and if we go out to eat I always pay for the both of us (even though she recently started to pay for me even when I ask her not to). Whenever she leaves me I always give her a hug (yes I initiate it) and when we haven't seen each other in a long time we always hug. But for some reason I think she isn't a very affectionate person. I REALLY like this girl and I want to ask her out, or show her that I'm interested in some way. Hypebeast what should I do? smh


And you ain't tappin? Damn b

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October 24, 2012 @ 08:51:08
Okay so I've known this girl for approximately 4 years, and I'm really starting to like her as more than a friend. We have been pretty good friends over the years, and now we're really close. I have seen her go through 2 boyfriends which lead to two failing relationships. There have been times over the years where we weren't as close, but I think we're the closest now. She tells me about her financial difficulties, tells me about trouble in school, and tells me pretty much everything. I occasionally pick her up from her school (which is 2 hours away) and I used to take her to work every now and then when she had a job. When we hang out she always tells me about random events in her life and if we go out to eat I always pay for the both of us (even though she recently started to pay for me even when I ask her not to). Whenever she leaves me I always give her a hug (yes I initiate it) and when we haven't seen each other in a long time we always hug. But for some reason I think she isn't a very affectionate person. I REALLY like this girl and I want to ask her out, or show her that I'm interested in some way. Hypebeast what should I do? smh


dont waste your time you're in the friendzone
October 24, 2012 @ 19:37:17
Originally posted by Inactive User
Okay so I've known this girl for approximately 4 years, and I'm really starting to like her as more than a friend. We have been pretty good friends over the years, and now we're really close. I have seen her go through 2 boyfriends which lead to two failing relationships. There have been times over the years where we weren't as close, but I think we're the closest now. She tells me about her financial difficulties, tells me about trouble in school, and tells me pretty much everything. I occasionally pick her up from her school (which is 2 hours away) and I used to take her to work every now and then when she had a job. When we hang out she always tells me about random events in her life and if we go out to eat I always pay for the both of us (even though she recently started to pay for me even when I ask her not to). Whenever she leaves me I always give her a hug (yes I initiate it) and when we haven't seen each other in a long time we always hug. But for some reason I think she isn't a very affectionate person. I REALLY like this girl and I want to ask her out, or show her that I'm interested in some way. Hypebeast what should I do? smh


dont waste your time you're in the friendzone

That's the problem. How do I get out? I really like this girl, but I have no idea if she'd be interested in being more than friends. I know I fucked up by waiting so long to make a move, but I really wasn't sure how I felt about her til now.

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October 24, 2012 @ 20:53:52
You can't get out of the friend zone she has to let you in to the date zone

And she won't ever do that unless she knows you're definitely interested

Hold her hand when y'all hang out nigga yolo

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October 24, 2012 @ 21:25:48
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October 24, 2012 @ 21:31:07
dmwalking
Moderator
Okay so I've known this girl for approximately 4 years, and I'm really starting to like her as more than a friend. We have been pretty good friends over the years, and now we're really close. I have seen her go through 2 boyfriends which lead to two failing relationships. There have been times over the years where we weren't as close, but I think we're the closest now. She tells me about her financial difficulties, tells me about trouble in school, and tells me pretty much everything. I occasionally pick her up from her school (which is 2 hours away) and I used to take her to work every now and then when she had a job. When we hang out she always tells me about random events in her life and if we go out to eat I always pay for the both of us (even though she recently started to pay for me even when I ask her not to). Whenever she leaves me I always give her a hug (yes I initiate it) and when we haven't seen each other in a long time we always hug. But for some reason I think she isn't a very affectionate person. I REALLY like this girl and I want to ask her out, or show her that I'm interested in some way. Hypebeast what should I do? smh


Damn son. I was like, Ok, Ok, this is salvagable....ok....and then I got to the bolded and I was just like....damn b. This nigga deep in the friendzone.

*Sigh* you got some sacrifices that you gotta be prepared to make my dude. 1. Are you willing to lose her as a friend? That's number one. Matter fact, that's the only number. If you aren't prepared to do this, then stop reading immediately. Cuz listen, if she becomes your girl, she's no longer a friend. If she rejects you, you'd be a vagina to stay in the friendzone and do all that driving 4 hours and all that. SMH. So, you ready?

So before I hit you with the advice, lemme give you a little analogy. You need to understand the friendzone before you understand how to get out of the friendzone. So check:

Women have two pools. The friendzone pool and the non friendzone pool.

The friendzone pool is always nice and warm for weak and/or non threatening males. Thing is, a lotta weak niggas opt for the freind pool because they're so desperate for that girl's attention that they'll take anything and that nice warm pool is easy to settle into. Niggas with platonic friendships that ain't in the friendzone might dip their legs in at a party while enjoying a drink at a part. But freindzone dudes be straight backstroking in that piece. Swimming in the deep end with snorkels and all that.

The non friendzone pool is usually cold. Straight up. YOU gotta warm it up. And just like a cold ass pool, it's worse if you try to ease your way in. It's best to just jump in all at once, get that cold shock over with and get used to the cold. Then you gotta warm that pool up little by little. Ever talk to a girl you never met before? If you start slow, it gets awkward fast. If you just jump in with confidence, you have a better chance of warming her up to you.

Now some niggas do start off in the friendzone pool briefly just because they dig a chick and they just like her company. That's ok. It's all about the transition to the cold pool. Niggas that dip their toes to see how cold it is usually fail cuz they punk out. Dipping your toes is like, dropping little compliments here and there to see how she responds. Or getting her sentimental gifts. This is awkward. This is weak. You will only make her want to kick you into the friendzone pool. But the smart ones get out that pool quick and jump into the cold pool. They suffer a harsher cold shock cuz they came from the warm pool, but they have a better chance of success because they didn't hang in the friendzone too long.

Niggas who stay in the friendzone for years.....smh....well, you're there because it's comfortable. You're there because it's easy. You barely have the balls to step outside the pool. It's unlikely you'll ever leave the comfort of the warm pool for the hard work of the cold pool.

Now, the advice comes in the next post.

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October 24, 2012 @ 21:52:39
dmwalking
Moderator
Aight....remember when I asked if you were ready to make that sacrifice? You still ready?

It's simple. Jump into the damn cold pool. Don't dip your toes. Don't try to walk in slow. Jump in. Let shorty know how you really feel.

Just be like, "Listen, I gotta be honest with you. As time goes by, I'm starting to care about you in a different way. I've seen you have your ups and downs. I've seen you at your best and worst. And I've seen how other dudes have treated you. And I honestly feel like I can be better than that for you. And I feel like YOU know that I can be better than that for you. And I know that right now this might come as a shock to you. And you probably don't even see me this way. But I see you this way. And I'm a show you why you should see me as something more too. I ain't in a rush to do anything. I just wanna make your life better."

Aight, this is the best I can do for a nigga who dug himself "2 hour rides" deep into the friendzone. But listen...you may get rejected. That's that cold water my dude. If you really want her to turn around, you gotta warm it up. And not how you think. It's not all gifts and restaurants. It's confidence. If she turns you down, you just take it with a smile. Say, "aight. I respect your decision. Just keep an eye on me." And proceed to be the illest nigga you can be.

Now a dirty tactic that tends to work is jealousy. It's not foolproof, but it has like a 70% success rate. When you tell a girl you like her, she feels good about turning you down if she doesn't like you. But when that same girl who turned you down sees you with another chick, and that chick looks mad happy to be with you, all of a sudden, she's questioning her decision. She's like, damn, maybe I should've said yes. The down side is that you're a piece of crap for getting another chick emotionally involved just to get another chick. But it does work.

Fact of the matter is, you're in deep. From your description, you lack cojones. This alone is gonna decrease your odds. Honestly, women generally know when they like a guy. A girl who likes you and isnt shy will not hesitate to hug you. The odds are really against you. But if you can man up and take the plunge, you'll be closer to success. Plus, you'll be out of the friendzone.

Just remember, things will not likely be the same after you come clean. Godspeed kid.

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October 24, 2012 @ 22:25:41
Request change of thread title to dmwalkings relationship advice thread

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October 24, 2012 @ 22:39:58
Lmao at that dude writing a whole novel on friend zone.
No such thing as the friend zone, biggest lie made up by ugly nerds that can't pick up girls and keep simping on them.
October 24, 2012 @ 22:48:44
Lmao at that dude writing a whole novel on friend zone.
No such thing as the friend zone, biggest lie made up by ugly nerds that can't pick up girls and keep simping on them.


its not made up. Used as an excuse by herbs? definitely. But once a chick knows she has you by the balls without giving up the cheeks...thats the friendzone and aint nobody put you there but your damn self.
October 25, 2012 @ 00:01:19
@dmwalking Damn that was good advice, and a good analogy. The only reason I think it got this bad was because I was unsure whether I liked her or not. And I want to come clean and tell her how I feel, but I just don't know how I should go about doing it. How should I set it up? Maybe after a long talk or some sort of activity.
Originally posted by Inactive User
You can't get out of the friend zone she has to let you in to the date zone

And she won't ever do that unless she knows you're definitely interested

Hold her hand when y'all hang out nigga yolo

I tried to drop some serious hints. Examples.. the distance I had to drive to see her, telling her I miss her, paying for her food whenever we go out, going out of my way to help her with personal problems.

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October 25, 2012 @ 00:24:00
nah son those are certified herb actions. you have to straight up tell her youre interested.
October 25, 2012 @ 04:37:58
@dmwalking Damn that was good advice, and a good analogy. The only reason I think it got this bad was because I was unsure whether I liked her or not. And I want to come clean and tell her how I feel, but I just don't know how I should go about doing it. How should I set it up? Maybe after a long talk or some sort of activity.
Originally posted by Inactive User
You can't get out of the friend zone she has to let you in to the date zone

And she won't ever do that unless she knows you're definitely interested

Hold her hand when y'all hang out nigga yolo

I tried to drop some serious hints. Examples.. the distance I had to drive to see her, telling her I miss her, paying for her food whenever we go out, going out of my way to help her with personal problems.


bruh like i said you shouldnt be wasting your time theres plenty of other women out there. you're obviously too emotionally involved and that's not a good look for you
October 25, 2012 @ 05:11:17
Originally posted by Inactive User
@dmwalking Damn that was good advice, and a good analogy. The only reason I think it got this bad was because I was unsure whether I liked her or not. And I want to come clean and tell her how I feel, but I just don't know how I should go about doing it. How should I set it up? Maybe after a long talk or some sort of activity.
Originally posted by Inactive User
You can't get out of the friend zone she has to let you in to the date zone

And she won't ever do that unless she knows you're definitely interested

Hold her hand when y'all hang out nigga yolo

I tried to drop some serious hints. Examples.. the distance I had to drive to see her, telling her I miss her, paying for her food whenever we go out, going out of my way to help her with personal problems.


bruh like i said you shouldnt be wasting your time theres plenty of other women out there. you're obviously too emotionally involved and that's not a good look for you

Damn I was afraid of something like this

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