The Official Relationship, Dating, or Talking Problems/Questions Thread

September 16, 2012 @ 23:27:40
^^ she just likes the attention, I don't think she would do anything and obviously you don't either or else you wouldn't still be with her.
September 19, 2012 @ 21:28:44
if a guy confessed his love and admiration for your girl and how he wants to be with her (2 months before you get together) and during you guys' relationship, SHE still contacts him(rides to places, eating out etc.) how would you feel?

im obviously in the situation and find it weird. especially when she has better friends(guys and girls) that she could do the same thing with.


lol , she probably cheated on you already .
There's no such thing as guys JUST wanting to go out to eat and hang out , he wants to smash obviously .
September 19, 2012 @ 21:35:52
thats been done, but it doesnt change the fact that doin those things in the first place didnt/doesnt faze her, which is what is weird to me.

from my perspective, if a girl say she love me and all that, then i get in a relationship w/ a diff girl, i would almost feel guilty hanging with the girl that wanted me.

but thanks for the response and goodluck on tuesday my brotha smokeyface


How old is she? If she's young, she might just enjoy the attention/ego boost from a guy she knows she'll ever get with. But I still wouldn't tolerate that shit if I were you, or if I were the other guy for that matter.
September 19, 2012 @ 22:57:44
Originally posted by Inactive User
if a guy confessed his love and admiration for your girl and how he wants to be with her (2 months before you get together) and during you guys' relationship, SHE still contacts him(rides to places, eating out etc.) how would you feel?

im obviously in the situation and find it weird. especially when she has better friends(guys and girls) that she could do the same thing with.


lol , she probably cheated on you already .
There's no such thing as guys JUST wanting to go out to eat and hang out , he wants to smash obviously .


thats how i looked at things, but I feel as thouugh she genuinely doesnt like the guy in a love type of way.
but my question was if it was happening to you, how would you feel/react?

@Dino we're 20. i mean the thing thats buggin me, is after a girl friendzones a guy, she doesnt usually eat out with or ask that guy for a ride.
again this is what happened:

she friendzoned this guy,
he says "he likes her more than a friend",
she says "lolwut we're just friends"
then me nd her get in a relationship,
then after a year, im hearing they went to chilis
and one time when she needed a ride the following week to somewhere urgent she calls him if he can take her.

hndlz.tumblr.com

September 19, 2012 @ 23:11:08
Originally posted by Inactive User
if a guy confessed his love and admiration for your girl and how he wants to be with her (2 months before you get together) and during you guys' relationship, SHE still contacts him(rides to places, eating out etc.) how would you feel?

im obviously in the situation and find it weird. especially when she has better friends(guys and girls) that she could do the same thing with.


lol , she probably cheated on you already .
There's no such thing as guys JUST wanting to go out to eat and hang out , he wants to smash obviously .


thats how i looked at things, but I feel as thouugh she genuinely doesnt like the guy in a love type of way.
but my question was if it was happening to you, how would you feel/react?

@Dino we're 20. i mean the thing thats buggin me, is after a girl friendzones a guy, she doesnt usually eat out with or ask that guy for a ride.


Sure she can. It happened to me back in my simp days. I had a bitch lead me on like that for almost 4 months. She even got me to take her to a show and pay her way, only to leave with 3 dudes she met there. I wouldn't be surprised if your girl is pulling that type of grimey shit with this dude. Either way, I'd be concerned about dating somebody like that. If at any point she loses interest in you, she might just keep you around for money and general boyfriend bullshit, while possibly fucking with other guys, and she won't break up with you until she's ready to make it official with someone else. Just my opinion/heads up.
September 19, 2012 @ 23:21:03
damn but was that chick in a relationship too? im gonna assume not since she left with 3 other dudes... either way thanks for youre input and the heads up

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September 19, 2012 @ 23:56:43
just tell her thats a weird thing to do
September 20, 2012 @ 00:17:58
girls never understand that no guy really just wants to be JUST FRIENDS. They never get it through their thick heads they don't understand the real intentions of the guy no matter how much you try convincing them. fuck.
September 20, 2012 @ 02:42:40
Originally posted by Inactive User
if a guy confessed his love and admiration for your girl and how he wants to be with her (2 months before you get together) and during you guys' relationship, SHE still contacts him(rides to places, eating out etc.) how would you feel?

im obviously in the situation and find it weird. especially when she has better friends(guys and girls) that she could do the same thing with.


lol , she probably cheated on you already .
There's no such thing as guys JUST wanting to go out to eat and hang out , he wants to smash obviously .


thats how i looked at things, but I feel as thouugh she genuinely doesnt like the guy in a love type of way.
but my question was if it was happening to you, how would you feel/react?

@Dino we're 20. i mean the thing thats buggin me, is after a girl friendzones a guy, she doesnt usually eat out with or ask that guy for a ride.
again this is what happened:

she friendzoned this guy,
he says "he likes her more than a friend",
she says "lolwut we're just friends"
then me nd her get in a relationship,
then after a year, im hearing they went to chilis
and one time when she needed a ride the following week to somewhere urgent she calls him if he can take her.


Sounds like you need a reality check , she cheated on you already .
There's no point of being in a relationship if you're under 25 , they're useless .

Girls fuck more than guys then hide it .
Guys don't laid every weekend , girls do .
All they have to do is spread their legs and they'll have dudes unzipping their pants .
September 20, 2012 @ 02:51:12
thats been done, but it doesnt change the fact that doin those things in the first place didnt/doesnt faze her, which is what is weird to me.

from my perspective, if a girl say she love me and all that, then i get in a relationship w/ a diff girl, i would almost feel guilty hanging with the girl that wanted me.

but thanks for the response and goodluck on tuesday my brotha smokeyface


i know exactly how ya feel. my ex best friend was a dude....

i had to put up through so much bs and it just bothered me to the point where i couldnt stop thinkin bout it.
theres more to my story but you get the idea..

this was the reason my past relationship was bittersweet.

but just break it off dude. I know exactly how you feel but trust, it'll be better for you.

even though even for me i still think about her time from time, my life's been a lot easier and comfortable not worrying about someone who doesnt respect you in a relationship
September 20, 2012 @ 03:15:42
Originally posted by Inactive User
if a guy confessed his love and admiration for your girl and how he wants to be with her (2 months before you get together) and during you guys' relationship, SHE still contacts him(rides to places, eating out etc.) how would you feel?

im obviously in the situation and find it weird. especially when she has better friends(guys and girls) that she could do the same thing with.


lol , she probably cheated on you already .
There's no such thing as guys JUST wanting to go out to eat and hang out , he wants to smash obviously .


thats how i looked at things, but I feel as thouugh she genuinely doesnt like the guy in a love type of way.
but my question was if it was happening to you, how would you feel/react?

@Dino we're 20. i mean the thing thats buggin me, is after a girl friendzones a guy, she doesnt usually eat out with or ask that guy for a ride.
again this is what happened:

she friendzoned this guy,
he says "he likes her more than a friend",
she says "lolwut we're just friends"
then me nd her get in a relationship,
then after a year, im hearing they went to chilis
and one time when she needed a ride the following week to somewhere urgent she calls him if he can take her.


Remember when you were a little kid and if you were the first person on the block to get a super nintendo, all of a sudden all the other kids wanted to be your friend?

Remember when you were the first person in your class to be able to drive, and all of a sudden people wanted to be your friend?

Remember when you won the lottery, and people you have never seen/spoken to in years all of a sudden want to catch up and hang out like the "good old days?"

Remember when some random bish wouldn't give you the time of day when you were working at mcdonalds, but now that you graduated with an MBA she all of a sudden thinks your a great guy?

Do you see what these all have in common? Nobody in these situations would believe that those people were actually legit friends (and if you do then you are an ignorant asshat).

"Pretty much" every situation where a guy is "just friends" with an attractive girl is parallel to those above scenarios. Guys want to be friends with you because they want to fuck you. Would you be friends with someone that only liked you because you had money, or a video game? Well being friends with guys that only want to fuck you is no different.
September 20, 2012 @ 03:26:30
every time I read this thread, it's depressing because girls are really capable of doing anything to you, no matter how much they say they love you and shit.
September 20, 2012 @ 04:20:13
shut the fuck up niggas. Just because ya girl was a hoe and cheated on you doesn't mean every girl is or that @hndlz girl is cheating. Man y'all just seem like some butthurt lil kids. There are plenty of good respectable trust worthy girls. Girls cheat only if you let them. They just don't go around fucking other niggas, unless she is a super hoe, then which you shouldn't have wifed anyways.
September 20, 2012 @ 04:22:35
every time I read this thread, it's depressing because girls are really capable of doing anything to you, no matter how much they say they love you and shit.

did you just get out of an relationship or something, that how niggas feel after being dumped.

:)

September 20, 2012 @ 06:17:04
Originally posted by Inactive User
every time I read this thread, it's depressing because girls are really capable of doing anything to you, no matter how much they say they love you and shit.

did you just get out of an relationship or something, that how niggas feel after being dumped.

no? I'm just saying it can happen. I never said all girls are like that
September 20, 2012 @ 06:54:54
^ That's why you should learn to not get attached.

It's a lesson all guys have to learn (better sooner than later).
September 20, 2012 @ 06:55:21
Just lost my gf last week
September 20, 2012 @ 11:56:21
WARNING: IF YOU ARE IN A HAPPY RELATIONSHIP RIGHT NOW DO NOT READ THIS THREAD. IT WILL FUCK YOUR LIFE UP. REAL SHIT
September 20, 2012 @ 12:21:13
she friendzoned this guy,
he says "he likes her more than a friend",
she says "lolwut we're just friends"
then me nd her get in a relationship,
then after a year, im hearing they went to chilis
and one time when she needed a ride the following week to somewhere urgent she calls him if he can take her.


Okay, lets make this real simple.

HE was the first person she called because she needed a ride somewhere? .. she doesnt have any good friends that havent confessed their love for her that could of done that? I'm not tryna put doubts in your head about your girl, i dont know her. But, speaking from experience - i've been the guy that's fucked another guys girlfriend. I've heard all the excuses girls say to their partners to justify spending time with someone.

"Him and i went to chilli's" - is the polite way of saying, "he and i didn't go out to chilli's, we just went somewhere and fucked" .. and that's being real, sorry if that sounds rude or out of line, but i think you need to hear it how it is.

Be real, would she be okay with you going out with some girl to dinner when she knew for 100% that girl wanted to fuck you and who doesnt care that you had a girlfriend?

Feelin like a young simba, I can't wait to be the king.

September 20, 2012 @ 12:27:17
Guys and girls who are just friends do NOT need to go out to dinner together if they're in a relationship with someone else. especially not when one has confessed feelings for the other... Your girl is either leading him on to exploit his feelings and gain from it, or she's doing him behind your back.

Either way, your girlfriend sounds suspicious.

Feelin like a young simba, I can't wait to be the king.

September 20, 2012 @ 12:58:43
Lee you are a moron and you probably never had a girl the way you sprout ignorance
September 20, 2012 @ 13:11:39
15 months in on my current relationship, happiest i've ever been. Thanks for asking though.

I trust my girlfriend 110%, she has a life outside of me, i dont feel the need to "check in" and know who she's with or where she is, because i know my girl isn't the type to cheat or put herself in a situation where it could happen.

However, this guy has just said his girl hangs around with a guy who has admitted to her that he loves her, OP told her it makes her uncomfortable and yet she still does it, goes to dinner with him and asks favours? How am i a moron? I'm just being real -- would YOU be comfortable with your girl if she was still in contact with and hung out with a guy who did the same thing?

Feelin like a young simba, I can't wait to be the king.

September 20, 2012 @ 13:44:35
I would as long as i didn't feel threatened by him. And in most cases i wouldn't feel threatened. You say bullshit like this "Him and i went to chilli's" - is the polite way of saying, "he and i didn't go out to chilli's, we just went somewhere and fucked" .. and that's being real, sorry if that sounds rude or out of line, but i think you need to hear it how it is."

Which is why im calling you a moron. Come on that is bullshit and it shows you aren't very experienced with girls and have no idea how they think.

If a girl is with you, in a relationship, but there is another guy who has confessed his feelings for her and she rejected him even BEFORE she met you then this guy will for sure have lower value than you. As long as you just maintain that value she will never ever feel any sexual attraction for him and would never risk your relationship for him. Sure this could happen if you neglect her too much but most likely she will find some random guy and not someone she has been talking to and using for favors for a long time.

He is just some white knight that she can call when she needs a ride because she knows he will do what she asks him to, he means nothing to her.
September 20, 2012 @ 13:55:41
I would as long as i didn't feel threatened by him. And in most cases i wouldn't feel threatened. You say bullshit like this "Him and i went to chilli's" - is the polite way of saying, "he and i didn't go out to chilli's, we just went somewhere and fucked" .. and that's being real, sorry if that sounds rude or out of line, but i think you need to hear it how it is."

Which is why im calling you a moron. Come on that is bullshit and it shows you aren't very experienced with girls and have no idea how they think.

If a girl is with you, in a relationship, but there is another guy who has confessed his feelings for her and she rejected him even BEFORE she met you then this guy will for sure have lower value than you. As long as you just maintain that value she will never ever feel any sexual attraction for him and would never risk your relationship for him. Sure this could happen if you neglect her too much but most likely she will find some random guy and not someone she has been talking to and using for favors for a long time.

He is just some white knight that she can call when she needs a ride because she knows he will do what she asks him to, he means nothing to her.


I'm agreeing with most of your logic here, but on the real - if OP has said to his girlfriend, "nah - im sorry, im not comfortable with you hanging out with this guy" and she's brushed off his opinions and put this guy before respecting her own boyfriend, what does that say? why is THIS guy so important? Because she can exploit him? How is that an attractive quality .. although you're right, my bad for, "they didnt go to chilli's, they probably just fucked". But i did say, it's either she's cheating or she's using the other guy.

I'm not going to get into a "my dick is bigger then yours, i've fucked more girls then you" teenage type of arguement, but i'm plenty confident with women. I'm 25 and i've been around enough women to know the difference between a girl that respects people, and girls who will do what they want because they think it benefits them.

My girlfriend would never hang around with some guy that had admitted "love" feelings for her, not because of how i might percieve it, but because ultimately - if she doesn't feel the same, she effectively see's the friendship as ruined. It WOULD be different - if OP's girlfriend and this guy were best-friends, then one night he let slip he really liked her, she said no, but the guy just took it in his stride and continued wanting to be a friend... but that's not the situation at all. She's all about doing her & either using this guy or completely disrespecting OP.

Feelin like a young simba, I can't wait to be the king.

September 20, 2012 @ 14:20:52
However, this guy has just said his girl hangs around with a guy who has admitted to her that he loves her, OP told her it makes her uncomfortable and yet she still does it


i didnt say she still does it. she actually didnt after i addressed it. All I asked in the OP is how would it make you feel?
and what was weird to me most:
1. she apparently didnt see any harm
2. i had to say something for it to register in her mind.

Pantic, i like how you come to this thread with a "no bullshit" attitude, i think its needed, but in leejames' defense, i also thought like that initially although I admit to having no exp in relationships.

hndlz.tumblr.com

September 20, 2012 @ 14:27:21
then that's my bad, misread the post.

Feelin like a young simba, I can't wait to be the king.

September 20, 2012 @ 15:14:38
shut the fuck up niggas. Just because ya girl was a hoe and cheated on you doesn't mean every girl is or that @hndlz girl is cheating. Man y'all just seem like some butthurt lil kids. There are plenty of good respectable trust worthy girls. Girls cheat only if you let them. They just don't go around fucking other niggas, unless she is a super hoe, then which you shouldn't have wifed anyways.


How are you supposed to know if she's a superhoe or not ?
Girls hide things .

& lol @ girls only cheat when you let them .
Being possessive only makes things worse , it doesn't matter how good looking or bad looking you look .
In human nature we find other people appealing .

80% of girls in America are sluts , you just can't tell because you're brainwashed by Hollywood .
September 20, 2012 @ 15:52:56
Originally posted by Inactive User
shut the fuck up niggas. Just because ya girl was a hoe and cheated on you doesn't mean every girl is or that @hndlz girl is cheating. Man y'all just seem like some butthurt lil kids. There are plenty of good respectable trust worthy girls. Girls cheat only if you let them. They just don't go around fucking other niggas, unless she is a super hoe, then which you shouldn't have wifed anyways.


How are you supposed to know if she's a superhoe or not ?
Girls hide things .

& lol @ girls only cheat when you let them .
Being possessive only makes things worse , it doesn't matter how good looking or bad looking you look .
In human nature we find other people appealing .

80% of girls in America are sluts , you just can't tell because you're brainwashed by Hollywood .


lol how old are you? How many girls have you talked to?
You know nothing. I never said be possessive, but if a girl respects you, and loves you, she won't cheat on you. 80% of American girls are sluts??? Lmfao you know American girls are known for being not as casual with sex as European and other girls right? You seem like some whiney teenager who got cheated on by his only girlfriend and just said fuck love. Like I said before, there are sluts, but there are also plenty of nice girls out there. If you can't tell which is which after talking to them for while, then i cant help you.
September 20, 2012 @ 15:56:20
I need a lil advice here, not a relationship but i hooked up with this girl at the club some time ago, took her out back trying to smash but she didn't let me go all the way and i couldn't take her home cause i was with my boys in another town and had to sleep there. Now afterwards we've been talking a little but she's giving me the whole sweet girl deal, and made quite an effort in telling me how drunk she was. Now my take on this is that she is embarrased because we don't really know each other but still interested. I need some help on how to make her come out of her shell and show that freaky side again.
September 20, 2012 @ 16:01:50
Take her out and get her drunk again duh.
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