Who else overthinks in a relationship?
I do all the time. I been dating my girl for three years, shes 22 im 21. When your this young theres always the allure of single life, and I stay overanalysing this and that. I catch myself getting hung up on the littlest shit that doesn't matter. But my woman is a keeper, shes compassionate and never makes moves without considering how she might affect others, yet never lets anyone walk on her, always stands her ground and is incredibly brave, the most honest person i've ever known, shes funny too, classy in the streets a freak in the sheets, white girl with latina T and A steez. She doesn't gossip like other women do, or fuck around on some petty bullshit. Shes real peaceful. Honestly shes more grown than me, and shes helped me be a better person. She plays her role and lets me be the man and get what I want, yet shes very independent. Shes loaded in the bank off her own hard work, and she pays for us just as me. Shes incredible in the fact that she has almost none of the typical flaws, but of course shes still fucked in some ways like the rest of us lol. Anxiety, can be a problem for her, and im not down with some of her fundemental values, we work around it but when it causes issues I over think compatibility, on some unrealistic shit. Still I find shit to get hung up on, over the summer she agained about 30lbs on some medication she was taking, which is a lot for a girl her size. It fucked shit up for a moment, I like slim girls with a little thickness but she surpassed the amount of thickness I was attracted too. It put me in a mind fuck because even though she was the shit on paper, I knew if I had just met her and she looked like that I wouldn't have been down, but she went through a hard time on these meds on the other hand I felt like I should help her through that. The lack of attraction fucked shit up she could tell I wasn't feelin it and her self esteem went down the drain. Shes resilliant though, if she slips she gets back up, and I figured she was mature enough to understand how her weight gain affected me, and I had faith she would get to gettin back in shape on her own time when she was ready. Shes not the type to let my expectations control her so my opinion on her body is a mute point. Part of me felt like if she wasn't ready to stop her meds right away and hit the gym all day for me I had to leave her on some alpha male shit, like I have to be in control and have it my way, but really I came too see that'd be some insecure immature shit, mistaken in the form of foolish pride. I'm so glad I stuck with her, now shes training to teach yoga in manhattan and has dropped mad weight dieting. Shes all about that healthy lifestyle and looks great again. Shit never gets old or dull with her through thick and thin I only get more into what we have as we both grow, but were also young I am well aware we could grow apart on the other hand.
My point to you is, when you really been with someone and had a real connection, like you know them to the core, focus on their essence, their inevitable truths, and you can see through some petty bullshit and all the shit you been overthinking becomes clear. As long as you can have moments of clarity, trust in those, and if you don't have em, don't deal with that female. If your woman knows exactly who she is, her actions in the past and her true nature will shed much light on how shes thinking in the moment or where you might be going in the future. You gotta stay true as fuck to yourself too, its a two way st.
hope this shit is useful to someone