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December 12, 2012 @ 02:57 AM
JACOB LACIDAR KOLA

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Who else has a girlfriend like this. She would rather have me come over and hang and talk to her all day instead of wine and dine. She says she just enjoys my company and talking to me. She feels extremely comfortable with me and has told me a lot.

It was strange at first because I was so use to going out and doing stuff. I pay for most things but sometimes she pays for me.
yes bruh that is the best, you are very lucky! keep her around but also surprise her from time to time with places to go like the park movies or some place where the two of you can still enjoy each others company. 

:)

December 12, 2012 @ 03:15 AM
Mr_Chukes

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Location: California

@Jacob yes I do. I take her out whenever she is in the mood. She's Mexican and I'm African American. Her parents are cool but barely speak English lol. I try to give her flowers or take her out at times.
December 12, 2012 @ 03:29 AM
adam5

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Location: l.a

Who else has a girlfriend like this. She would rather have me come over and hang and talk to her all day instead of wine and dine. She says she just enjoys my company and talking to me. She feels extremely comfortable with me and has told me a lot.

It was strange at first because I was so use to going out and doing stuff. I pay for most things but sometimes she pays for me.
I had that, it's awesome, keep it as long as you can.

I had to end mine 2 months ago sadly because my ex was emotionally too much to handle and it let to constant arguing and I didn't want that to continue anymore.

And now I found out she's dating some dude, and now I have another reason to miss her because i know that i dont have her, which I know is wrong reason to miss someone. 

Should I act on this added feeling of missing her or just ignore it like i have been for the past 2 months? I just don't know how to go about it
December 12, 2012 @ 03:33 AM
E Styles

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Naw nigga don't act on it, y'all broke up for a reason, find someone better 
December 12, 2012 @ 03:53 AM
Mr_Chukes

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Location: California

Yeah if you constantly argued then I wouldn't. Me and my girl really communicate. I tell her if something bothers me and why. She does the same. I try to listen and improve. Also she is sometimes passive and I am understanding.
December 12, 2012 @ 04:35 AM
JACOB LACIDAR KOLA

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Adam i believe in the saying "let it go and if it comes back to you it was truly yours to begin with". i know its hard to sit back and know she is living on without you but give it time and heal and become more in touch with yourself. i did this and im now talking to my ex that i haven't talked to in 8months and we are really kicking it off and happy with each others return, just wait and if she comes back be thankful, if not you will find another. 

:)

December 12, 2012 @ 04:50 AM
domingodean

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@adam5

me personally dont have time for that crap. 
by "emotionally too much to handle" you talking bout drama and other bull shit ?
u gotta move on b. she just a chick. ur gonna find a new one. they really aint nothing to fret about.
good on you for breaking it off. she was draining your energy and emotions. that shit tends to leads to break ups
side note I try not to communicate with my exs at all.

17000 ferrari

December 12, 2012 @ 04:57 AM
Fruity Nigga

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The Official Weak And Beta Male Thread
December 12, 2012 @ 05:01 AM
JACOB LACIDAR KOLA

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^bitch you got aids and cancer shutup. 

:)

December 12, 2012 @ 05:28 AM
adam5

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@domingodean Yeah, overly sensitive, drama bullshit, etc. 

And the arguing did drain a lot out of me, and since I'm a college student athlete I feel at times the arguing would drain me and take away from both sports and school, and i'm trying to do something special with both and focus on trying to get a scholarship somewhere, and that's what led to my decision to break up with her.

I officially broke up with her last june for some bullshit and then august-october was spent talking on and off, so we've had problems for a while. But I officially called it quits in october and haven't talked to her since. 

Shit was tough because she really was a best friend, along with being a girlfriend, and I guess that's why I still reminisce over things that lead me to miss her, and the new guy she went on a date with made things worse for me.

Like i've hooked up with/fucked/gone on dates with a couple girls since i called it off, but none of them I really want to get serious with. But if i could find a girl that could fill that void who's cool then I'd be good with that, but im having trouble letting myself be able to get to that point of openness, since i miss her and all, but i guess with time that'll change. 

@jacob i could see myself with her again once i'm at point in my life where i am a little more situated than i am now, but i guess waiting for that wouldn't be ideal, so i should just look for someone new in the meantime.

I appreciate all the feedback guys, you all have really given me some new outlooks on my situation.
December 12, 2012 @ 12:58 PM
pointforward

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Location: Sydney, Australia

Who else has a girlfriend like this. She would rather have me come over and hang and talk to her all day instead of wine and dine. She says she just enjoys my company and talking to me. She feels extremely comfortable with me and has told me a lot.


It was strange at first because I was so use to going out and doing stuff. I pay for most things but sometimes she pays for me.
Me.  Keep. 
Keeper! Do not fuck up man. 
December 12, 2012 @ 08:40 PM
Mr_Chukes

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Location: California

Who else overthinks in a relationship? 
December 12, 2012 @ 09:05 PM
brick

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Any of you hb niggas get an ex back after you "broke her heart," because I still like my ex but she said I broke her heart c'mon son 
December 12, 2012 @ 09:07 PM
Mr_Chukes

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@brick How bad did you break it?
December 12, 2012 @ 09:20 PM
brick

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@brick How bad did you break it?
 It must not be too broke because I came back to school after a month of absence & she said when she saw me, her heart sank ? & she actually replies to me now lol
December 12, 2012 @ 10:32 PM
Mr_Chukes

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There is probably a chance then if you get to hag with her again. 
December 12, 2012 @ 11:26 PM
kbos

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Who else overthinks in a relationship? 

I do all the time. I been dating my girl for three years, shes 22 im 21. When your this young theres always the allure of single life, and I stay overanalysing this and that. I catch myself getting hung up on the littlest shit that doesn't matter. But my woman is a keeper, shes compassionate and never makes moves without considering how she might affect others, yet never lets anyone walk on her, always stands her ground and is incredibly brave, the most honest person i've ever known, shes funny too, classy in the streets a freak in the sheets, white girl with latina T and A steez. She doesn't gossip like other women do, or fuck around on some petty bullshit. Shes real peaceful. Honestly shes more grown than me, and shes helped me be a better person.  She plays her role and lets me be the man and get what I want, yet shes very independent. Shes loaded in the bank off her own hard work, and she pays for us just as me. Shes incredible in the fact that she has almost none of the typical flaws, but of course shes still fucked in some ways like the rest of us lol. Anxiety, can be a problem for her, and im not down with some of her fundemental values, we work around it but when it causes issues I over think compatibility, on some unrealistic shit. Still I find shit to get hung up on, over the summer she agained about 30lbs on some medication she was taking, which is a lot for a girl her size. It fucked shit up for a moment, I like slim girls with a little thickness but she surpassed the amount of thickness I was attracted too. It put me in a mind fuck because even though she was the shit on paper, I knew if I had just met her and she looked like that I wouldn't have been down, but she went through a hard time on these meds on the other hand I felt like I should help her through that. The lack of attraction fucked shit up she could tell I wasn't feelin it and her self esteem went down the drain. Shes resilliant though, if she slips she gets back up, and I figured she was mature enough to understand how her weight gain affected me, and I had faith she would get to gettin back in shape on her own time when she was ready. Shes not the type to let my expectations control her so my opinion on her body is a mute point. Part of me felt like if she wasn't ready to stop her meds right away and hit the gym all day for me I had to leave her on some alpha male shit, like I have to be in control and have it my way, but really I came too see that'd be some insecure immature shit, mistaken in the form of foolish pride. I'm so glad I stuck with her, now shes training to teach yoga in manhattan and has dropped mad weight dieting. Shes all about that healthy lifestyle and looks great again. Shit never gets old or dull with her through thick and thin I only get more into what we have as we both grow, but were also young I am well aware we could grow apart on the other hand.


My point to you is, when you really been with someone and had a real connection, like you know them to the core, focus on their essence, their inevitable truths, and you can see through some petty bullshit and all the shit you been overthinking becomes clear. As long as you can have moments of clarity, trust in those, and if you don't have em, don't deal with that female. If your woman knows exactly who she is, her actions in the past and her true nature will shed much light on how shes thinking in the moment or where you might be going in the future. You gotta stay true as fuck to yourself too, its a two way st.

hope this shit is useful to someone
December 12, 2012 @ 11:38 PM
Mr_Chukes

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Location: California

@kbos I know exactly what you mean. Thanks for your input. It is truly appreciated. I was under a lot of stress recently and really was overthinking. After I look back at it now and see how worthless all that was. It really just messed up my mind. I have had moments of clarity recently. I am truly happy with my woman and know we have a bright future. She tells me the same. 
December 13, 2012 @ 05:35 AM
Mr_Chukes

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Location: California

Through observations and of my girlfriend I found that some woman don't like feeling trapped. My girlfriend raves about how we both have friends and I do not smutter her. She has some independence does not just rely on me for everything. I actually kind of like it to. She is never really jealous when I hang with my friends plus I tell her when I go out anyways. Also I dot ignore her text. Anyone else have a similar thought or experience? 
December 13, 2012 @ 05:49 AM
ThatGuyBars

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Location: The depths of the 14...

Nigga was able to get another girl # since we live close.

But, after 1 day, she doesnt text back AND catches rides

but before you try to play me, this girl is mad quiet, dont talk to anybody.

should i go for that shy pussy, or leave it alone?

Ayyy!-Fonzie

December 13, 2012 @ 05:56 AM
JEANPAULDAVINCI

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Alright so their is this one girl next to my locker which i have a good relationship. Usual short conversation, flirting, and all of this sudden she has been getting physical. like putting her hands on me playwise, eg slapping me on the shoudler pushing me away usual flirting. She asked me a couple days ago if i knew her sister, I knew who she was but didnt know her name or anything else, just seen her around school.She wanted to walk with me today but we had different classes and went different ways. She got a bf so i aitn tryna get friendzoned.  Was happening hb niggas
December 13, 2012 @ 06:02 AM
A!exander

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She like you playa, let her make the moves because as of right now she someone else bf. Simple as that
December 13, 2012 @ 06:02 AM
kbos

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^
fuckinjoe

all I gotta say is thats whats up. fuck dealing with a chicken that gets fussy about how fast you reply to a txt or gives a fuck how much time you spend with your homies. Immature, insecure, and dimwitted broads are the ones who lack independence and need male validation. Its a huge red flag when a woman is needy. I see a lot of girls grow out of this shit but some of em stay like that for good. In my observation this often goes hand in hand with being a slut, a lotta girls with these issues rail a lot of D. A relationship needs space to breathe if u want it to last, nothing grows well from suffocation. Even if im 40 and married I believe in doing some shit on my own. Sounds like you found a good woman.
December 13, 2012 @ 06:40 AM
Mr_Chukes

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Kdubb44 I wouldn't jump at it. Still flirt with her and mess around to stay out of the friendzone. I wouldn't chase or wife it because she is messing around while she has a bf. Its like geniune's song what's so different if she does it to him, what's stopping her from doing it to you.
December 13, 2012 @ 07:01 AM
Mr_Chukes

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@theguybar try to talk to her in person. She might not be a texter. If you're really interested try to find something she is interested in and talk about it. To get her to open up.
December 14, 2012 @ 04:00 AM
ThatGuyBars

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@theguybar try to talk to her in person. She might not be a texter. If you're really interested try to find something she is interested in and talk about it. To get her to open up.
imma just move on and wait till she starts walkin home, not tryna question or hound her about why she wont text back.

Ayyy!-Fonzie

December 14, 2012 @ 07:30 AM
rumee24

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Alright so I'm gonna seem completely bitch made and I'm only a sophmore in high school just to start it off but I need some true wisdom and none of that stupid bullshit that I always here like fuck dat bitch and go for the next. I may be still young and I need to travel, school etc. but I have really mad feelings for this one girl that I've been talking to for a year. I went out with her during the summer and she broke it off with me but in an awful way so I was just being completely pathetic with her and being way too serious when I'm still in high school and shit. maybe two months ago, I find out she's with some ugly ass motherfucker and completely downgraded and leaves me super depressed ( I was already depressed even though we didn't go out that long) and I'm just well fuck. I started talking to her again and I got over her for a while and now I've been talking to her for a week now and my emotions are brought up high as hell. she's all I can think about and all I care about right now and I know it's not right because that's not just me. when I talk to her, I just feel super comfortable and like we're still going out but then she brings up her boyfriend and I'm just like fuck that nigga. but I can't say it to her. but what she tells me is that they've only been talking and they just ACT like they're going out since he doesn't have the balls to actually ask her to be his girlfriend and I'm really trying to go for it but not make it seem like I'm hella thirsty. I'm supposed to chill with her soon and I just have no idea what to do. Like I still have strong feelings for this girl like my great grandma just passed away and she's all I can think about and since we broke up, I've been wearing my heart on my sleeve like some pussy ass bitch and I can't fucking help it. there is probably loose ends in this but I just wrote this all of the top my head. I just need some wisdom on what to do because I don't have anyone helping me at all right now. 
December 14, 2012 @ 07:30 AM
rumee24

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extra posts. 
December 14, 2012 @ 07:30 AM
rumee24

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fuck the double posting
December 14, 2012 @ 02:26 PM
Vodica

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Alright so I'm gonna seem completely bitch made and I'm only a sophmore in high school just to start it off but I need some true wisdom and none of that stupid bullshit that I always here like fuck dat bitch and go for the next. I may be still young and I need to travel, school etc. but I have really mad feelings for this one girl that I've been talking to for a year. I went out with her during the summer and she broke it off with me but in an awful way so I was just being completely pathetic with her and being way too serious when I'm still in high school and shit. maybe two months ago, I find out she's with some ugly ass motherfucker and completely downgraded and leaves me super depressed ( I was already depressed even though we didn't go out that long) and I'm just well fuck. I started talking to her again and I got over her for a while and now I've been talking to her for a week now and my emotions are brought up high as hell. she's all I can think about and all I care about right now and I know it's not right because that's not just me. when I talk to her, I just feel super comfortable and like we're still going out but then she brings up her boyfriend and I'm just like fuck that nigga. but I can't say it to her. but what she tells me is that they've only been talking and they just ACT like they're going out since he doesn't have the balls to actually ask her to be his girlfriend and I'm really trying to go for it but not make it seem like I'm hella thirsty. I'm supposed to chill with her soon and I just have no idea what to do. Like I still have strong feelings for this girl like my great grandma just passed away and she's all I can think about and since we broke up, I've been wearing my heart on my sleeve like some pussy ass bitch and I can't fucking help it. there is probably loose ends in this but I just wrote this all of the top my head. I just need some wisdom on what to do because I don't have anyone helping me at all right now. 
Are you crazy? Your great grandma just died and all you're thinking about is some bitch who left you and downgraded to some ugly ass dude? Smh. You're only a sophomore, move on, there's still more girls out there. I think you're wasting your time.

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