The Official Relationship, Dating, or Talking Problems/Questions Thread

Yo, DM, just a thought I had:

How are decent girls raised? Most I know have daddy issues and aren't really that go-getter, independent type. Wtf happened to all the confident females (who can take a dick and be a lady on the streets as well)?

i began talking to my ex girlfriend again. i dated her for 4 years. im 18 graduated in 2011 and she's 17 a senior in high school. the reason we ended our relationship was because she said we were just better off as friends. during this whole relationship over course of time we have cheated and what not unforuntately more her than me and i was pretty damn hurt. i guess i got over it kind of and she has gotten over what i've done but anyways we began talking again and well idk i guess i do miss her, while we stopped dating i definitely got over her from working and just hanging out with friends and stuff but im not the best with girls either to be honest, she did nothing with her time and was always sad and what not and missed me. soo yeahh i guess we're taking it sloww she says she's pretty happy with me and all she needs is me and her family at the moment. but i feel like she's coming back to me just because theres nothing else for her?? anyways i guess im giving it a try again but im definitely not going back to my old ways with spending guap and shit until i know she's serious because im no idiot fool me once shame on me fool me twice shame on me haha but yeah i just dont wanna waste my time. but i do love her and she loves me. its confusing but i hope im making the right decision has anyone ever been in a situation like this?

Don't get emotionally invested. The truth is, once a cheater, always a cheater unless they've had a major psychological break through. It's just something you have to accept. Unless you're willing to accept that and take it on the chin, don't get emotionally invested. Everything's good NOW. And I believe you're right on the money that she's back with you because there's nothing else. But ask yourself: why did she cheat before? Because at that moment, there was something else. She's using you as a hold over. Cheaters are opportunists. When a better opportunity comes, they're jumping on it.

Option A: keep her around selfishly. It's nice to have a female around to do things for you.

Option B: Keep it as friends only.

Option C: Friends with benefits (not recommended. 9/10 it always gets complicated)

Option D: Get cheated on again.

dating a high school senior is usually not the best idea. if she's the studious type then she'll definitely be going off to college next year. best not to get too attached my dude, because that shit will hurt later if you guys are still together when she moves

Okay so I've known this girl for approximately 4 years, and I'm really starting to like her as more than a friend. We have been pretty good friends over the years, and now we're really close. I have seen her go through 2 boyfriends which lead to two failing relationships. There have been times over the years where we weren't as close, but I think we're the closest now. She tells me about her financial difficulties, tells me about trouble in school, and tells me pretty much everything. I occasionally pick her up from her school (which is 2 hours away) and I used to take her to work every now and then when she had a job. When we hang out she always tells me about random events in her life and if we go out to eat I always pay for the both of us (even though she recently started to pay for me even when I ask her not to). Whenever she leaves me I always give her a hug (yes I initiate it) and when we haven't seen each other in a long time we always hug. But for some reason I think she isn't a very affectionate person. I REALLY like this girl and I want to ask her out, or show her that I'm interested in some way. Hypebeast what should I do?

Okay so I've known this girl for approximately 4 years, and I'm really starting to like her as more than a friend. We have been pretty good friends over the years, and now we're really close. I have seen her go through 2 boyfriends which lead to two failing relationships. There have been times over the years where we weren't as close, but I think we're the closest now. She tells me about her financial difficulties, tells me about trouble in school, and tells me pretty much everything. I occasionally pick her up from her school (which is 2 hours away) and I used to take her to work every now and then when she had a job. When we hang out she always tells me about random events in her life and if we go out to eat I always pay for the both of us (even though she recently started to pay for me even when I ask her not to). Whenever she leaves me I always give her a hug (yes I initiate it) and when we haven't seen each other in a long time we always hug. But for some reason I think she isn't a very affectionate person. I REALLY like this girl and I want to ask her out, or show her that I'm interested in some way. Hypebeast what should I do?

dont waste your time you're in the friendzone

Okay so I've known this girl for approximately 4 years, and I'm really starting to like her as more than a friend. We have been pretty good friends over the years, and now we're really close. I have seen her go through 2 boyfriends which lead to two failing relationships. There have been times over the years where we weren't as close, but I think we're the closest now. She tells me about her financial difficulties, tells me about trouble in school, and tells me pretty much everything. I occasionally pick her up from her school (which is 2 hours away) and I used to take her to work every now and then when she had a job. When we hang out she always tells me about random events in her life and if we go out to eat I always pay for the both of us (even though she recently started to pay for me even when I ask her not to). Whenever she leaves me I always give her a hug (yes I initiate it) and when we haven't seen each other in a long time we always hug. But for some reason I think she isn't a very affectionate person. I REALLY like this girl and I want to ask her out, or show her that I'm interested in some way. Hypebeast what should I do?

You can't get out of the friend zone she has to let you in to the date zone

And she won't ever do that unless she knows you're definitely interested

Hold her hand when y'all hang out nigga yolo

@dmwalking Damn that was good advice, and a good analogy. The only reason I think it got this bad was because I was unsure whether I liked her or not. And I want to come clean and tell her how I feel, but I just don't know how I should go about doing it. How should I set it up? Maybe after a long talk or some sort of activity.

You can't get out of the friend zone she has to let you in to the date zone

And she won't ever do that unless she knows you're definitely interested

Hold her hand when y'all hang out nigga yolo

I tried to drop some serious hints. Examples.. the distance I had to drive to see her, telling her I miss her, paying for her food whenever we go out, going out of my way to help her with personal problems.

bruh like i said you shouldnt be wasting your time theres plenty of other women out there. you're obviously too emotionally involved and that's not a good look for you

Yo I've been kicking it with this girl for a while now and I tried so long to hit it and since I have, she has seriously wanted to every half hour. It fucking sucks. I hate having sex. And now she's all trying to make us a serious couple and like she's basically cool except for that shit how do I maker her chill on that without cutting it out completely?

Yo I've been kicking it with this girl for a while now and I tried so long to hit it and since I have, she has seriously wanted to every half hour. It fucking sucks. I hate having sex. And now she's all trying to make us a serious couple and like she's basically cool except for that shit how do I maker her chill on that without cutting it out completely?

my gf is pissed cuz I told her I have a tumblr gf..

/coolstory