The Official Relationship, Dating, or Talking Problems/Questions Thread

June 01, 2012 @ 04:45:41 AM
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Damn, and she's your age? Because if so, she's far too old to be playing dumb like this. Like it's common sense, if you are in a committed relationship, you don't go to another city with one of your girlfriends to watch a bunch of other dudes play rugby with the idea of ultimately getting drunk with them and sleeping in their room. Chances are nothing would happen but even so she should understand how putting u in this situation could make you feel and I know she wouldn't like if you went to a women's beach volleyball tournament with one of your boys where you were gonna be staying with three of the players and drinking with them... Bottom line is you don't put your partner through unnecessary stress like that... Like she's clearly not thinking of you or trying to gauge how you feel about it at all...


i really don't think anything would happen, but still to put me in this situation is just shitty of her. i just really wish i realized how fucked up this was when she first told me so i coulda said what had to be said. simp move by me, shiiit even a playa fucks up once in a while right?
June 01, 2012 @ 04:48:13 AM
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Originally posted by Inactive User
don't know what to do about my current girl. she was just a fuck buddy on and off since september. i'd see her mostly every weekend. i knew she wanted a relationship just like a month into it, but i never did cuz i didn't want to be tied down. for some reason she stuck around for the next 8 months all the while i hooked up with girls n shit, and she says she hooked up with no one else, just made out with a few dudes. we decided to become official like a month ago.

shes a flirtatious girl, but i didnt think of it cuz i thought it was just her trying to make me jealous in hopes of getting a relationship out of me. but now that we're together i definitely calmed down with other girls, but she really didn't. she still flirts with other dudes, but i honestly believe her when she says she didnt do anything with them. so i didnt call her out

but this weekend she is going to philly with her best friend (who plays rugby my gf doesnt give a shit about it) to watch some bullshit rugby tournament. my gf is going just so her friend isn't the only girl. but she's staying in a room with 3 other dudes who are playing in the tourney. obviously i was sorta pissed she is staying with other dudes, and is gonna be going out to bars and such. she just went on vaca last week and we only see each other like once/twice a week anyways, and she just goes again. (and is going on like 3 more before summers over, her fams rich$$$)

i don't know what to do, i don't wanna break up with her (tho sometimes i feel this is gonna be best for me in the long run) like i already said comments about how i disapprove about going to philly, but i sorta brushed it off. should i sit her down and tell her if she doesnt calm down im gonna go do my own thing? and i'm prob gonna text her tomorrow while shes on the way to philly saying like "be good in philly you already know im sketched out about you staying with other dudes" faaahhk any good ideas?


break up with her
June 01, 2012 @ 04:53:03 AM
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Originally posted by Inactive User
break up with her


its gonna suck but this is whats on my mind right now.... next time i see her itll be real talk and may come down to this damn dog
June 01, 2012 @ 04:55:53 AM
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Location: Paradise
Originally posted by Inactive User
Damn, and she's your age? Because if so, she's far too old to be playing dumb like this. Like it's common sense, if you are in a committed relationship, you don't go to another city with one of your girlfriends to watch a bunch of other dudes play rugby with the idea of ultimately getting drunk with them and sleeping in their room. Chances are nothing would happen but even so she should understand how putting u in this situation could make you feel and I know she wouldn't like if you went to a women's beach volleyball tournament with one of your boys where you were gonna be staying with three of the players and drinking with them... Bottom line is you don't put your partner through unnecessary stress like that... Like she's clearly not thinking of you or trying to gauge how you feel about it at all...


i really don't think anything would happen, but still to put me in this situation is just shitty of her. i just really wish i realized how fucked up this was when she first told me so i coulda said what had to be said. simp move by me, shiiit even a playa fucks up once in a while right?


Nah bro, she's not even considering you though, you need to talk to her about it and how it's making you feel. It'll give u a chance to see how see reacts when she has to deal with your concerns too, moments like these in early relationships define them... If she can't at least understand your side and attempt to rectify things in some way then that's probably indicative of the type of person she really is. You're not in the wrong here ma du, you have the right to let her know how all this is making u feel.

June 01, 2012 @ 05:24:02 AM
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Originally posted by Inactive User
don't know what to do about my current girl. she was just a fuck buddy on and off since september. i'd see her mostly every weekend. i knew she wanted a relationship just like a month into it, but i never did cuz i didn't want to be tied down. for some reason she stuck around for the next 8 months all the while i hooked up with girls n shit, and she says she hooked up with no one else, just made out with a few dudes. we decided to become official like a month ago.

shes a flirtatious girl, but i didnt think of it cuz i thought it was just her trying to make me jealous in hopes of getting a relationship out of me. but now that we're together i definitely calmed down with other girls, but she really didn't. she still flirts with other dudes, but i honestly believe her when she says she didnt do anything with them. so i didnt call her out

but this weekend she is going to philly with her best friend (who plays rugby my gf doesnt give a shit about it) to watch some bullshit rugby tournament. my gf is going just so her friend isn't the only girl. but she's staying in a room with 3 other dudes who are playing in the tourney. obviously i was sorta pissed she is staying with other dudes, and is gonna be going out to bars and such. she just went on vaca last week and we only see each other like once/twice a week anyways, and she just goes again. (and is going on like 3 more before summers over, her fams rich$$$)

i don't know what to do, i don't wanna break up with her (tho sometimes i feel this is gonna be best for me in the long run) like i already said comments about how i disapprove about going to philly, but i sorta brushed it off. should i sit her down and tell her if she doesnt calm down im gonna go do my own thing? and i'm prob gonna text her tomorrow while shes on the way to philly saying like "be good in philly you already know im sketched out about you staying with other dudes" faaahhk any good ideas?


Been thru this exact situation minus me ever being official with the girl. But last summer some college jawn tried doing this type of shit to make me jealous and the thing is.. you can't even be mad. Females are attention whores at best, and will do anything that they can to be noticed and liked by new guys. I actually just find it pathetic in most situations.

Hoes will be hoes tho. And if that's your hoe.. she's gonna do whatever you let her.

And probably get banged by some rugby bros honestly. haha
June 01, 2012 @ 07:10:05 AM
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Originally posted by Inactive User
Hoes will be hoes tho. And if that's your hoe.. she's gonna do whatever you let her.


real ass nigga right here.
June 01, 2012 @ 16:42:43 PM
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wow after all that, and after i sent her a text (short but really to the point so she would realize im not fucing around and would leave her) she replied back with "well youll be proud of me cuz i realized the same thing and am staying home this weekend. maybe she is a good girl... somehow it worked out where we both did the right thing... swag
June 01, 2012 @ 18:53:10 PM
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Honestly if you are in a mature committed relationship you should be confident and trusting enough to let a girl be around other guys. After all you can't control another person's life.

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June 01, 2012 @ 19:46:00 PM
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Honestly if you are in a mature committed relationship you should be confident and trusting enough to let a girl be around other guys. After all you can't control another person's life.

very true. but cmon son, that situation is not and will never be ok.
June 01, 2012 @ 20:17:12 PM
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Originally posted by Inactive User
wow after all that, and after i sent her a text (short but really to the point so she would realize im not fucing around and would leave her) she replied back with "well youll be proud of me cuz i realized the same thing and am staying home this weekend. maybe she is a good girl... somehow it worked out where we both did the right thing... swag


This is dope. Now you just gotta make sure you hang with her this weekend and probably take her out so she didn't give up her weekend for you.
June 02, 2012 @ 19:12:24 PM
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My first relationship just ended about a week ago, this shits fking hard to cope with, any advice for a rookie to make this shit easier hb?
June 02, 2012 @ 19:27:05 PM
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It's not going to get easy b, first one is hard as fuck.
Some small advice is to stop contact with her, don't bite into her breadcrumbs and small signals, they don't mean shit and you gonna have a much harder time moving on like that. Doing wild stuff with the boys usually help me, like cross driving, paint ball, drifting, crazy parties etc. Things like that makes you wonder why you even wanted to spend your time in a relationship, when hanging out with the boys is so much more fun.

And get the pussy asap, won't make it easier but it sucks if she's the first one to fuck someone else.
June 02, 2012 @ 21:35:12 PM
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that first week gonna be hard bruh, but eventually you'll get over it. try to do you and start lookin' for new chicks you can talk to.
June 02, 2012 @ 22:44:04 PM
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It's not going to get easy b, first one is hard as fuck.
Some small advice is to stop contact with her, don't bite into her breadcrumbs and small signals, they don't mean shit and you gonna have a much harder time moving on like that. Doing wild stuff with the boys usually help me, like cross driving, paint ball, drifting, crazy parties etc. Things like that makes you wonder why you even wanted to spend your time in a relationship, when hanging out with the boys is so much more fun.

And get the pussy asap, won't make it easier but it sucks if she's the first one to fuck someone else.


this. keep that mental busy fam, don't lay around and think. do hw, go for walks, hell, even start smoking cigs if you haven't before. you gotta get in a new routine. and what Pantic said is right, you gotta be the first to get into the next relationship, you gotta beat her.

mainly remember to keep ur head up, there is gonna be a better girl around the corner fam, might not be soon but eventually
June 03, 2012 @ 23:39:09 PM
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thanks for the advice fam.
June 04, 2012 @ 00:27:49 AM
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My first relationship just ended about a week ago, this shits fking hard to cope with, any advice for a rookie to make this shit easier hb?


You gotta keep busy bro, my advice; make a playlist with some of your favourite tunes and start exercising, I find shit helps clear your head and calms you down plus you get dat endorphin-driven natural high smokeyface
June 04, 2012 @ 00:28:32 AM
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My first relationship just ended about a week ago, this shits fking hard to cope with, any advice for a rookie to make this shit easier hb?

How long were you guys going out? If you don't mind me asking.
June 04, 2012 @ 02:25:33 AM
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My first relationship just ended about a week ago, this shits fking hard to cope with, any advice for a rookie to make this shit easier hb?

How long were you guys going out? If you don't mind me asking.


8 months
June 04, 2012 @ 02:36:16 AM
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My first relationship just ended about a week ago, this shits fking hard to cope with, any advice for a rookie to make this shit easier hb?

How long were you guys going out? If you don't mind me asking.


8 months

Aw dude, I'm sorry.
Me and my ex recently split as well. We we're going out for 1 year and 2 months.
But yea, listen to these dudes. Keep busy. And chill with your boys!
Remember all those times you were at a lame movie or celebrating a lame ass monthaversery when you wanted to play beer pong with the homies?
Now's your chance dude. Live it up.
June 04, 2012 @ 02:36:33 AM
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update:
damn this sunday is gonna be my bday and i copped this gift for the chick cause her bday is next week. mad niggas gon come through, iono if i should give it to her on sunday or wait until later on in the week.

edit: i don't know if ima see her after sunday.


so today i gave her the gift she liked it. my friends and i including her was chilling the whole day and i ain't have the guts to say that i like her. so the whole time she was just like mad normal and whatever with it. we chillin' again friday or this weekend at the beach with other friends. should i just tell her then? too be honest i don't even know how i been out the game for too long.
June 04, 2012 @ 02:44:34 AM
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update:
damn this sunday is gonna be my bday and i copped this gift for the chick cause her bday is next week. mad niggas gon come through, iono if i should give it to her on sunday or wait until later on in the week.

edit: i don't know if ima see her after sunday.


so today i gave her the gift she liked it. my friends and i including her was chilling the whole day and i ain't have the guts to say that i like her. so the whole time she was just like mad normal and whatever with it. we chillin' again friday or this weekend at the beach with other friends. should i just tell her then? too be honest i don't even know how i been out the game for too long.


Is there any indication the feelings are mutual or are you just going out on a limb?
June 04, 2012 @ 04:02:53 AM
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dont know asked my homegirl which is her best friend. my homegirl said she aint say anything about me. and if she did like me she would've already said something about it. still want to test my waters and tell her and see her reaction. thoughts?
June 04, 2012 @ 04:36:53 AM
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Wait, so you and her share a bunch of mutual friends? This is dangerous territory son, it's not looking good if her best friend can't give you any tips, girls share everything...
June 04, 2012 @ 04:40:35 AM
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Wait, so you and her share a bunch of mutual friends? This is dangerous territory son, it's not looking good if her best friend can't give you any tips, girls share everything...


lol so fucking true
June 04, 2012 @ 04:57:46 AM
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my homegirl telling me she likes chilling as a group ( my homegirl, the girl i like, and i) and doesnt wanna ruin that. she still telling me to go for it so iono.
June 04, 2012 @ 05:03:16 AM
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Damn... Sounds like an excuse to me, bro, if she was feeling you she wouldn't be thinking about ruining the friendship
June 04, 2012 @ 05:14:53 AM
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^ What he said. The old I don't want to ruin a friendship or hurt feelings bullshit.
June 04, 2012 @ 05:18:28 AM
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i.e. don't show ya hand brother, ON TO THE NEXT ONE
June 04, 2012 @ 05:38:11 AM
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oh ya'll getting it all twisted my homegirl is the one talking about the "ruining the friendship" thing not the girl i like.
June 04, 2012 @ 11:32:05 AM

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ex broke up with me to hook up with a nigga she only knew one week. Im all about that revenge shit right now. forreal!
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