Me and my girl were together for 6 months (3 months long distance) . Before summer break she told me that she was going to study abroad in spain for a full year for the upcoming school year, however we still went into a relationship ignoring that future. When she came back for summer break we had the best of times and its been the healthiest relationship I've ever had. We agreed on not doing long distance because it'd take away from her experience in spain and the same for me vise versa, however we were keeping in consistent contact since she left. She skyped me last week and it was weird cause 2 weeks ago we were together and not were not, I brought that up and told her that we should take a break and not talk for a few months. However throughout the week it got me thinking that I really love this girl and maybe we could make it work. I was thinking maybe we could skype once every week or two, so that she could still take advantage of her studying abroad without too much distraction. I proposed my solution to her the other day and she said that she loves me like crazy but that she wants some time by herself to become more independent without a relationship. However she still wants to keep in contact with me on a regular basis, I told her thats selfish and that we can't do that and if were to do that then I don't want her hooking up with anyone. She then said she's not looking to hook up with anyone and that she loves me but feels we shouldn't limit ourselves as far as hooking up with other people because you never know what can happen and she doesn't want to regret any mistake she'd make.
Bottom of the line I'm not down with her hooking up but I can't really do anything since she's thousands of miles away. At the same time I want to hold on to her and she wants to do the same....Either way it seems like a lose-lose situation, any advice?
if she didn't love you then i don't think she'd insist on keeping in contact regularly despite the current circumstances.
as far as the hooking up goes, i'm pretty sure she's just planning ahead b. you already know that both of you will get horny and have urges sooner or later after being apart from each other (and without sexual contact) for so long
if you really think she's worth it, then keep it going. but try to limit feelings of attachment as much as possible, that way if anything were to happen along the way it wouldn't feel as horrible