The Official Relationship, Dating, or Talking Problems/Questions Thread

April 28, 2012 @ 06:41:21 AM
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yup

so me and the chick i've taken out a handful of times have really fallen off in like the last month, nothin going on at all with us atm. Now nothing was ever serious with us and nothing happened that wouldve made it an actual end, so what'd be the best approach at getting shit going again with her
April 28, 2012 @ 10:38:59 AM
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any1 been successful getting with a girl that has a bf? i'm not talking about ex's


A couple times.


homewrecking faggot
April 29, 2012 @ 01:55:57 AM
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Idk how I feel about my relationship anymore man.Being in the military and having a long distance relationship fucking sucks,but I love her and want her to be my wife one day .Me and my girl have been together since august and she hasn't told any of her friends or roommates about me,I asked her if she told her roommates that she has a man,and she said "No why would I tell them". And she isnt "In a relationship" with me on Facebook,I know that sounds childish as fuck on some high school shit,but it makes me feel like she has something to hide,or that she's still talking to her ex or some shit you know. She also rarely texts me first or calls,doesnt tell me that she misses me or nothing like she used to do,I feel like im always reaching out to her,if she loved me like she says she does then she'd make an effort. Idk man I fucking love this girl though,I've never been into a girl as hard as ive been into this one,and I want her to be around for a long time,but this last week has been making me feel like it could be coming to an end,like shes replaced me while ive been gone for these 8 months. Maybe im just looking to deep into it,and I come home in six weeks so things could be different in person,but fuck theres so much shit going through my head dude.
April 29, 2012 @ 02:03:21 AM
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April 29, 2012 @ 02:36:28 AM
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thats some depressing shit modern i feel for you
April 29, 2012 @ 03:05:21 AM
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Idk how I feel about my relationship anymore man.Being in the military and having a long distance relationship fucking sucks,but I love her and want her to be my wife one day .Me and my girl have been together since august and she hasn't told any of her friends or roommates about me,I asked her if she told her roommates that she has a man,and she said "No why would I tell them". And she isnt "In a relationship" with me on Facebook,I know that sounds childish as fuck on some high school shit,but it makes me feel like she has something to hide,or that she's still talking to her ex or some shit you know. She also rarely texts me first or calls,doesnt tell me that she misses me or nothing like she used to do,I feel like im always reaching out to her,if she loved me like she says she does then she'd make an effort. Idk man I fucking love this girl though,I've never been into a girl as hard as ive been into this one,and I want her to be around for a long time,but this last week has been making me feel like it could be coming to an end,like shes replaced me while ive been gone for these 8 months. Maybe im just looking to deep into it,and I come home in six weeks so things could be different in person,but fuck theres so much shit going through my head dude.

be straight up with her, or scheme here fb if she left that shit logged on. You for real don't want to be played man, I've had that feel temporarily so I wouldn't say it's a bitch move to do the latter. No hate, but I think it's too early for you to be sayin' you wanna marry her and shit, keep that shit in your head lol...

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April 29, 2012 @ 11:27:03 AM
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Modern, from my experience you are always right when you have that feeling in your gut. If you feel something is wrong, most likely it is. I've always been right when suspecting those kind of things and decided to confront the girl. You need to talk to her at least, telling her what you just said here should be the best.
May 03, 2012 @ 00:12:07 AM
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How often do you and yall girl talk/txt?
May 03, 2012 @ 02:18:13 AM
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^ Keep the distance and time between you and your gf.

Give her the gift of missing you. I see my shorty only once a week, sometimes once every 2 weeks. We text on and off.
May 04, 2012 @ 04:05:13 AM
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-Met this girl at this party bus during the club
-Started talking, danced, and made out a couple times
-Exchange numbers and start texting
-Talked on the phone and ended up telling her, "I'm not looking for anything serious right now since I just got out of a relationship, but if something serious does happen then it happens."
-Her friend (who I'm pretty cool with) told me she's interested and she has a good feeling about me.
-Keep talking
-I stop talking to her for a bit; cut off contact to get her to miss me
-Don't talk for a week amd some number of days
-I hit her up today because I didn't have shit to do
-I flirt with her a little and tell her we should go out on a date but she says we shouldn't kick it because she's looking for something serious and says that we should be friends
-I say I'm fine with that

Did she mean it when she said that? I'm still tryna smash so if she means what she said, how do I go about smashing?
May 04, 2012 @ 04:14:24 AM
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Just go on a date. I'm sure she likes you still and will definitely show it once she sees you again.
Its easy for girls to say shit over texts nah mean?

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May 04, 2012 @ 06:37:56 AM
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yeah sounds like you shouldnt care what she said there and just get her on a date, should change things no problem
May 04, 2012 @ 16:23:38 PM
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How do I get her on a date now then? Ask to kick it (not date) during a different day or what?
May 04, 2012 @ 21:42:21 PM
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Probably not gonna happen, you went wrong by cutting contact since she didn't initiate it either and she probably lost interest during that week+. I would say stop chasing, but that's just me.
May 05, 2012 @ 17:01:46 PM
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what do i do when a girl is pissed off at me? honestly don't even know what i did...pretty sure she likes me too
how do i show her that i actually care about her?
May 05, 2012 @ 17:07:54 PM
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^Buy her something nice, tell her you're sorry.

inb4 simp
May 05, 2012 @ 17:24:08 PM
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sorry for what though? i honestly dont know what i did. we had lunch at school and afterschool she was just cold
do girls get pissed off if she thinks a guy is just "leading them on"?
i understand i gotta simp a little but i don't want to be a faggot

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May 05, 2012 @ 19:33:39 PM
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Yo, why is simp advice being given in these past few posts?

What happened to dmwalking or whoever who enlightened all of us with smart advice?

@ goldengoose: If your girl is mad at you (and you didn't even do anything to her), ignore her until she comes running back.

@ modernmischief: Cut off all contact and see if she comes back. If she doesn't initiate and has gotten cold like you said, it's obvious she doesn't feel the same. I say at the worst, break up with her.

Honestly, this shit is ridiculous. I know you guys like/love your girls, but a relationship is 50/50. Stop with this fucking simping/one-itis.
May 05, 2012 @ 19:55:55 PM
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Join Date: Jul 2010
Location: the golden state
-Met this girl at this party bus during the club
-Started talking, danced, and made out a couple times
-Exchange numbers and start texting
-Talked on the phone and ended up telling her, "I'm not looking for anything serious right now since I just got out of a relationship, but if something serious does happen then it happens."
-Her friend (who I'm pretty cool with) told me she's interested and she has a good feeling about me.
-Keep talking
-I stop talking to her for a bit; cut off contact to get her to miss me
-Don't talk for a week amd some number of days
-I hit her up today because I didn't have shit to do
-I flirt with her a little and tell her we should go out on a date but she says we shouldn't kick it because she's looking for something serious and says that we should be friends
-I say I'm fine with that

Did she mean it when she said that? I'm still tryna smash so if she means what she said, how do I go about smashing?


you already fucked up by being too straight up, should just wait til she hits you up

Idk how I feel about my relationship anymore man.Being in the military and having a long distance relationship fucking sucks,but I love her and want her to be my wife one day .Me and my girl have been together since august and she hasn't told any of her friends or roommates about me,I asked her if she told her roommates that she has a man,and she said "No why would I tell them". And she isnt "In a relationship" with me on Facebook,I know that sounds childish as fuck on some high school shit,but it makes me feel like she has something to hide,or that she's still talking to her ex or some shit you know. She also rarely texts me first or calls,doesnt tell me that she misses me or nothing like she used to do,I feel like im always reaching out to her,if she loved me like she says she does then she'd make an effort. Idk man I fucking love this girl though,I've never been into a girl as hard as ive been into this one,and I want her to be around for a long time,but this last week has been making me feel like it could be coming to an end,like shes replaced me while ive been gone for these 8 months. Maybe im just looking to deep into it,and I come home in six weeks so things could be different in person,but fuck theres so much shit going through my head dude.


yo its obvious you're into her more than she is into you. man she got you wrapped up son aint good for your health b. real talk she's probably found someone already and just keeping you on the side. and besides clearly she doesnt view you guys as in a relationship. shit like this aint worth it, just end whatever it is you think you have with her
May 18, 2012 @ 00:10:16 AM
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help me out hb

going out with this girl tomorrow for our first date. a homie told me she told him she was feelin me and asked him to tell me to give her a call. and so i did. we know each other(had a couple of classes together) but we weren't that close. so my plan was to make us an itinerary for the night, she asked me to come with her to her choir performance after school.

and my plan afterwards was to just chill, get some froyo, hit up barnes & nobles and read some books (homegirl suggested), and i was planning to take her to the santa monica pier at night and hang out over there until i have to take her home.

is that too plain? should i add more activities for us to do? if so can y'all give some suggestions. what y'all do for your first date that worked?

it's the first time she's gonna be on a date so i want to make it memorable. ya boy's a senior in high school(18 y/old)

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May 18, 2012 @ 00:31:11 AM
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Idk how I feel about my relationship anymore man.Being in the military and having a long distance relationship fucking sucks,but I love her and want her to be my wife one day .Me and my girl have been together since august and she hasn't told any of her friends or roommates about me,I asked her if she told her roommates that she has a man,and she said "No why would I tell them". And she isnt "In a relationship" with me on Facebook,I know that sounds childish as fuck on some high school shit,but it makes me feel like she has something to hide,or that she's still talking to her ex or some shit you know. She also rarely texts me first or calls,doesnt tell me that she misses me or nothing like she used to do,I feel like im always reaching out to her,if she loved me like she says she does then she'd make an effort. Idk man I fucking love this girl though,I've never been into a girl as hard as ive been into this one,and I want her to be around for a long time,but this last week has been making me feel like it could be coming to an end,like shes replaced me while ive been gone for these 8 months. Maybe im just looking to deep into it,and I come home in six weeks so things could be different in person,but fuck theres so much shit going through my head dude.


LOL real talk i almost thought i was the ex for a second.....times didnt match up though hahah
May 18, 2012 @ 01:34:44 AM
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Location: CT
help me out hb

going out with this girl tomorrow for our first date. a homie told me she told him she was feelin me and asked him to tell me to give her a call. and so i did. we know each other(had a couple of classes together) but we weren't that close. so my plan was to make us an itinerary for the night, she asked me to come with her to her choir performance after school.

and my plan afterwards was to just chill, get some froyo, hit up barnes & nobles and read some books (homegirl suggested), and i was planning to take her to the santa monica pier at night and hang out over there until i have to take her home.

is that too plain? should i add more activities for us to do? if so can y'all give some suggestions. what y'all do for your first date that worked?

it's the first time she's gonna be on a date so i want to make it memorable. ya boy's a senior in high school(18 y/old)


I would not recommend reading on a date. No way. I've never been to Cali and don't know what your town/area is like, but if you can do something kind of adventurous, it will absolutely be memorable for her. One time on a first date, I was with this girl in her hometown, walking around downtown, and we saw this art space with all the lights off but the front door wide open. She said she had never even been in there before, but we decided to go in. It was pitch black and I was holding up her lighter like a lantern. This girl grabbed my hand and I felt like Indiana Jones lol. We walked up to all three floors, then finally exited out the back door and saw that it lead out to the rear balcony on the river. I made a comment about how beautiful the view was, and this girl straight up grabbed me and we started making out. Her pussy was so wet and I ended up fucking her right there up against the side of the building, dead serious. Amazing night.

Anyway, these kinds of opportunities don't always present themselves, but just keep it in mind. Don't even let this girl mention Barnes & Noble bro. You gotta keep shit exciting.
May 18, 2012 @ 01:50:35 AM
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Originally posted by Inactive User
help me out hb

going out with this girl tomorrow for our first date. a homie told me she told him she was feelin me and asked him to tell me to give her a call. and so i did. we know each other(had a couple of classes together) but we weren't that close. so my plan was to make us an itinerary for the night, she asked me to come with her to her choir performance after school.

and my plan afterwards was to just chill, get some froyo, hit up barnes & nobles and read some books (homegirl suggested), and i was planning to take her to the santa monica pier at night and hang out over there until i have to take her home.

is that too plain? should i add more activities for us to do? if so can y'all give some suggestions. what y'all do for your first date that worked?

it's the first time she's gonna be on a date so i want to make it memorable. ya boy's a senior in high school(18 y/old)


I would not recommend reading on a date. No way. I've never been to Cali and don't know what your town/area is like, but if you can do something kind of adventurous, it will absolutely be memorable for her. One time on a first date, I was with this girl in her hometown, walking around downtown, and we saw this art space with all the lights off but the front door wide open. She said she had never even been in there before, but we decided to go in. It was pitch black and I was holding up her lighter like a lantern. This girl grabbed my hand and I felt like Indiana Jones lol. We walked up to all three floors, then finally exited out the back door and saw that it lead out to the rear balcony on the river. I made a comment about how beautiful the view was, and this girl straight up grabbed me and we started making out. Her pussy was so wet and I ended up fucking her right there up against the side of the building, dead serious. Amazing night.

Anyway, these kinds of opportunities don't always present themselves, but just keep it in mind. Don't even let this girl mention Barnes & Noble bro. You gotta keep shit exciting.


i feel ya, thanks for the heads up. but yeah our city is pretty boring since it's in the valleys so it's a couple miles from the city. also i was thinking mini-golf? yay/nay?

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May 18, 2012 @ 01:55:03 AM
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Hell yeah mini golfing is a good idea, just not if you really suck
May 18, 2012 @ 02:25:25 AM
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May 18, 2012 @ 03:25:05 AM
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Alright, so I've been crushin on this girl for a few months now. Not simpin, I've gotten with a couple other girls since then, but this girl is the one I really want. I don't act creepy or anything, it's just like if I see her I talk to her, and I've asked her out twice, but she just kinda brushed me off. I asked her out just about 2 weeks ago and she said "I have a boyfriend now." I was a little bummed but I just moved on.

So this past weekend I went to get some ice cream and SURPRISE!! The girl works there!!! I didn't even know this. So she initiates conversation, asking me how I did on finals, whether I'm taking any classes over the summer... before I know it, she's actually flirting with me. Then she gave me my ice cream for free and continued to flirt with me a little longer, even with another customer behind me. Idk if the boyfriend is already history or if he ever even existed, but it seems like there might still be hope for me.

Now I've already decided that I'm gonna go back when she's working and say some shit like, "You should let me get you back for that ice cream" and offer to buy her a drink or something. Question is, when would you guys do it? It's been 4 days and I was thinking about waiting like a week and a half or so. After all, who gets ice cream that often? Plus I can’t be acting simpy and shit. What does HB think?
May 18, 2012 @ 13:53:18 PM
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Originally posted by Inactive User
Alright, so I've been crushin on this girl for a few months now. Not simpin, I've gotten with a couple other girls since then, but this girl is the one I really want. I don't act creepy or anything, it's just like if I see her I talk to her, and I've asked her out twice, but she just kinda brushed me off. I asked her out just about 2 weeks ago and she said "I have a boyfriend now." I was a little bummed but I just moved on.

So this past weekend I went to get some ice cream and SURPRISE!! The girl works there!!! I didn't even know this. So she initiates conversation, asking me how I did on finals, whether I'm taking any classes over the summer... before I know it, she's actually flirting with me. Then she gave me my ice cream for free and continued to flirt with me a little longer, even with another customer behind me. Idk if the boyfriend is already history or if he ever even existed, but it seems like there might still be hope for me.

Now I've already decided that I'm gonna go back when she's working and say some shit like, "You should let me get you back for that ice cream" and offer to buy her a drink or something. Question is, when would you guys do it? It's been 4 days and I was thinking about waiting like a week and a half or so. After all, who gets ice cream that often? Plus I can’t be acting simpy and shit. What does HB think?


i would say you got a nice invitation to a date son. i would not take too long to go there and not go there to soon either. so yeah wait a week and a half or so. then ask her out to get back to that free icecream. catch up stories blabla etc the usual shit. you my man, got a golden chance ;) knock that fucker in the hole son. HB is rooting for ya
May 18, 2012 @ 21:11:15 PM
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Ha thanks man I appreciate it. Another quick question though... if she gives me more shit about the boyfriend, how do you think I should respond? I'm thinkin I might just say "what's he got to do with anything" or some dumb shit like that. Then again, I might be tempted to laugh and be like " you ain't got no boyfriend!" Lol
May 18, 2012 @ 21:35:12 PM
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If she mentions the boyfriend again you just back off and stop talking to her, pretty simple
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